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tiny said:As a great philosopher once wrote, "It is what it is."
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tiny said:As a great philosopher once wrote, "It is what it is."
Drifter;1450408 My advice: call it a gift. That may be pure BS but it makes it sound more acceptable and fun.[/QUOTE said:Thank you
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Ya, but it's not. It's also easier to come to accept it as a fetish because practically the entire world does see it as one. Trying to explain that wearing diapers isn't a fetish is just going to confuse the vast majority of people for several reason. 1. Most AB/DL, it is a fetish for according to the largest study ever done. Basically only about 7% of all AB/DL have absolutly no sexual interest in wearing diapers or in doing ageplay (Can't say it's conclusive, but it is the best statistic we have). So we would basically be trying to deny that it's a sexual fetish based on the very few it's not for. 2. Fetish can be used in a none sexual context anyway, so we might as well call it as such. 3. Removing the word fetish from AB/DL isn't going to make it be seen anymore acceptable all of a sudden.Tommycombs said:I'm thinking the real issue here is that some of us (myself included) just don't like the word, "fetish". Maybe it's because it's a creepy word, with creepy connotations.
I hate to break it to you, but for the vast majority, it is a kinky sex thing people are into.For many of us, this is an intense desire that goes back to the earliest memories. Hence the reason we may not want to think of it as a purely kinky sex thing we're into. But I think that word carries that idea behind it and we may want to separate what we consider genuine personal feelings with the more public definition of the word.
Yep, I agree with you as well. Even for me it's a lifestyle thing. The word fetish certainly doesn't describe it to a T, and I think that is what a lot of people dislike with the word. But there doesn't exist a better fitting word as far as I am aware XD.Tommycombs said:I agree with you, MarchinBunny. Like I said, I don't personally care for the word but I do fit the definition. I'm not going to use cognitive dissonance to distance myself from the definition. I use the word myself when trying to explain it to outsiders since, as you said, they view it as such. We don't really have a word that really encompasses all the feelings and emotions and other reasons we gravitate towards diapers. Just that "attraction". That's OK. If you over think this, which obviously I do, it becomes far more complicated. To me it's more of a lifestyle thing, and even that isn't the best way to describe it.
Ya it's because the word fetish can be used in various ways. For example, typically someone who has a car or motorcycle fetish doesn't necessarily mean they get off on those things. It's just their interest in those things are far beyond what one might consider only a hobby as it's more like something they preoccupy themselves with to the point their life revolves around it quite significantly. A fixation.Just out of curiosity, I typed "fetish" into thesaurus.com for other descriptive words if we want alternatives. I must admit, these pretty much are words we use all the time in these boards!
predilection, proclivity, desire, bias, craze, fixation, leaning, partiality, mania, penchant, prejudice, thing, preoccupation, propensity, stimulant
Yeah, I'd say each of those words describe me!
MarchinBunny said:Ya it's because the word fetish can be used in various ways. For example, typically someone who has a car or motorcycle fetish doesn't necessarily mean they get off on those things. It's just their interest in those things are far beyond what one might consider only a hobby as it's more like something they preoccupy themselves with to the point their life revolves around it quite significantly. A fixation.
Tommycombs said:Very true. Then there's this. Part of my username is combs. Because ever since I could remember, I've had a comb or brush and would comb my hair and pet it. This is another subconscious soother. As a kid, I'd carry a comb like other kids carried their blankies. As I got older it became discouraged because it was "weird" and I tried to purge it by shaving my hair or otherwise keeping it too short to trigger the petting urge. But that is not sexual. In any way. I've never gotten off from hair petting and combing. I don't get a turn on when I walk past a hair salon. None of this soothing thing I do has anything to do with sex. But it is a fixation. So is the comb thing a fetish too? Man, why am I so complicated?
MarchinBunny said:Ya, but it's not. It's also easier to come to accept it as a fetish because practically the entire world does see it as one. Trying to explain that wearing diapers isn't a fetish is just going to confuse the vast majority of people for several reason. 1. Most AB/DL, it is a fetish for according to the largest study ever done. Basically only about 7% of all AB/DL have absolutly no sexual interest in wearing diapers or in doing ageplay (Can't say it's conclusive, but it is the best statistic we have). So we would basically be trying to deny that it's a sexual fetish based on the very few it's not for. 2. Fetish can be used in a none sexual context anyway, so we might as well call it as such. 3. Removing the word fetish from AB/DL isn't going to make it be seen anymore acceptable all of a sudden.
I hate to break it to you, but for the vast majority, it is a kinky sex thing people are into.
It's fine if you don't want to call it a fetish for yourself, but I don't think anyone is going to convince all of AB/DL that it's not a fetish when it is a fetish for most.
I think the appropriate thing here is to just call it whatever you want. Whatever makes you personally feel more comfortable. I will continue to call it a fetish though.
Completely agree these things can be lumped together, but I would emphasize that, except in some possible, rare cases, these things are not choices.Tetra said:Some like feet, some like shoes, others enjoy panties or boobs , we chose diapers is any of it wrong not really unless you go super perv and become a cat burglar stealing panties or shoes, most people wouldn't notice a few diapers disappearing so I think thats why it's never been in the news ( I am sure its happened somewhere sometime ).
Agreed we like what we like , some say vanilla some say chocalate whatever our favotite is makes us the happiest. I solved the issue ( most people don't know how to make them these days ) but black and white shakes are the best of both worlds.Drifter said:Completely agree these things can be lumped together, but I would emphasize that, except in some possible, rare cases, these things are not choices.
Tetra said:I solved the issue ( most people don't know how to make them these days ) but black and white shakes are the best of both worlds.
This is how I was too. If I even thought about diapers or if I had to pee I would get rock hard. I used to think getting hard was my body's way of telling me I had to pee.MarcusP said:I have loved diapers my entire life also. My earliest memories are around 3-4 years old when I found my old gerber pants and I used to wear them in bed. I distinctly remember getting rock hard then, even though puberty would not come for another decade. I would call that sexual arousal, yes I think even young kids can be aroused. Either that, or I'm abnormal.
fet·ish
ˈfediSH/
noun
1. A form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.