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    I found that incontinence tends to hinder my confidence when dating. Getting close with someone can make it difficult to hide my underwear requirements, especially with the bulkiness of the diapers I usually wear.

    Its not something I want to hide, but I am worried that the girl im with will find it unattractive and lose interest in me.

    Think being with another incontinent person would make things easier, that said my urologist knows of no local support groups. How might I find others IC's locally?
    Last edited by Gerber; 27-Apr-2017 at 19:39.

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    I never had an issue being upfront about my incont. Most it did not bother. No one said it was a turn off. The ones who it did bother i just never heard from again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INCONTAL View Post
    I never had an issue being upfront about my incont. Most it did not bother. No one said it was a turn off. The ones who it did bother i just never heard from again.
    seems I have only found ones it does bother, I have not done much dating but for those I have dated... they ask about my options but seem to fall short of understanding why I would choose a diaper as apposed to alternative options, all which scare me more than my puffy underwear.

    So do not search for someone who shares this social taboo but rather one who does not view it as taboo?

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    The real question is, Do you really want to be with a woman who'd be so superficial as to leave you over a diaper?

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    I would rather date a woman with incontinence or even a diaper fetish. Things would last much longer and getting closer wouldn't be an issue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mayhem View Post
    I would rather date a woman with incontinence or even a diaper fetish. Things would last much longer and getting closer wouldn't be an issue.
    Was thinking the same, was not sure if that was the way forward or play the whole field and let that weed out superficial folk.

    So this brings me to a question I have not been able to find a clear answer to. How does one find the IC or fetish girl?

    Would a fetishist still want to procreate or would her being the "baby" diminish those chances?
    Last edited by Gerber; 27-Apr-2017 at 23:21.

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    So do not search for someone who shares this social taboo but rather one who does not view it as taboo?[/QUOTE

    I believe that this is your most realistic option. Incontinence in general isnt very common (of course more common than most realize) , especially among younger people. Same with the fetish, its not that there arent any that are potential partners for you (inc or fetish), its just that the chances of them being local, fitting your needs, age range, location etc would be very hard to find. In short, yes, find someone who is a little more lenient in the taboo department.

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    In the taboo leniency department, if you could say a ratio from your experience what might it be?
    For example:
    Lenient versus repulsed, or perhaps if one is so blessed loving and mutually seeking of new ways to appreciate it all.

    And from personal experience I can appreciate the deficit of commonality, I am the only one in my circle of friends that has this, for reasons they have as of yet been unable to harmoniously articulate. Have not met anyone really. Makes one wonder why its said to be so common, perhaps a large geriatric population begin included in that sample. But I digress, not relevant if it gets me no closer to someone whom with I could share this commonality. I will just continue dredging through my local PoF lake of "No's" , bound to suck up a "yes" eventually.

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    Some people can not accept a disability or any medical issues like incontinence issues they are to shallow of a person to see past the issues. Its best to be open and honest right from the start or at least after the first few dates as you get to know each other better Incontinence is something you can not and should not hide if you want a long term relationship as relationships are built on honesty and trust.

    If she really likes you she may be able to accept you need diapers and not think its a big deal.

    my wife has fully accepted my need to be diapered 24/7 and thinks nothing less of me when you find the right girl (you may have already) she will love you for who you are and not worry about your diaper.

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    I'm always upfront about my incontinence and how I deal with it. Other than having one amazing boyfriend who was totally supportive I've found that a lot of people do judge you. I've been laughed at and had guys walk out on me when they have found out that I wear a nappy. So now I'm open and upfront. If a potential partner can't deal with me then I see it as their loss but I'd rather find that out early on. I wish you the best of luck, you will find someone just stay positive.

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