fishy diaper incident with parents

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ryan2127

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I came home last night and saw a Tena for men brief on the table in our kitchen.

I have personally never bought these before, so it instantly made me curious

my mom is an RN and also takes care of my grandpa who has Alzheimers and wears these tena for men briefs.

When i first saw it my mind was racing! I thought that my parents found out about my interest in diapers and this was a way to bring up the topic or something

The strange thing is: as my family all sat down to eat dinner (brother and parents) they all sat away from it. When i got my plate, i noticed it was right on the table in front of me. so i sit down, not saying anything about it. I start eating and as they are talking my mom grabs it and moves it towards herself and puts her wine glass on it LOL

I also notice how frequently my mom mentions how my grandpa uses these and has accidents etc..

I guess it could just be Gods sense of humor and trying to play with me a little but it was odd nonetheless
 
ryan2127 said:
my mom is an RN and also takes care of my grandpa who has Alzheimers and wears these tena for men briefs.

Hi Ryan, it is easy to see why your story would set your mind racing. When there is something that fills our minds quite a bit, such as a fetish, then it is very easy to see it everywhere in our lives. I remember once when I overheard my brother talking about fetishes with his girlfriend. We lived together at the time and I thought that they were discussing me and my kinky lifestyle. I was never very secretive of it but had not ever discussed this side of my life with my brothers girlfriend so was worried that she had seen things in my room.

For weeks and weeks I would be worried whenever she was round our place in case it suddenly became the topic of conversation. I would have to explain or at least engage why I had diapers, fetish clothing and equipment in my bedroom. This would have made the situation very awkward and I feared what may happen for many weeks. I even heard them discussing it again one time when I was coming down the stairs. After a while it all fell into place when what they were actaully discussing was the novel Fifty Shades of Gray which had recently become very popular!

To say I felt silly is an understatement. For many weeks I was panicking that all my friends and my brothers girlfriend had been down my room and were talking about me behind my back. It was because of my own paranoia that I allowed my imagination to run away with me. Had I just brushed it off and acted sensibly I could have saved myself a lot of worry. Without getting off track, my story goes to show that things that are secretive but important to us can be manifested in all aspects of our lives. It is, however, only ourselves that notice this and everyone else is carrying on with their own lives oblivious as to how close certain things are to our hearts.

As your mum has said, your grandpa has been needing some extra help recently. Concentrate on loving him and do not allow your imagination to run away with itself.
 
That is so true about fetish's that we see throughout our lives. I have been so convinced at times that people knew what I was doing when in reality, it was just my mind over-analyzing everything!!
 
Fun fact, people without our interests mention diapers from time to time or deal with them for other reasons, it doesn't mean its about us necessarily, wait before saying anything that could be awkward
 
MotherFaith said:
Without getting off track, my story goes to show that things that are secretive but important to us can be manifested in all aspects of our lives. It is, however, only ourselves that notice this and everyone else is carrying on with their own lives oblivious as to how close certain things are to our hearts.

I think MotherFaith has it right (and I couldn't say it better), you're just picking up references to your personal life that in reality have nothing to do with you.
 
Still, having a diaper sitting on the dinner table at dinner time is a bit weird. I can remember before I was out to my wife, every time a diaper commercial would show on TV, or a show mentioning diaper wearing, I'd sort of cringe. It's just who we are.
 
the one incident I had was when I was caught by my mom when o boosted a diaper from my grand mother, she walked in right when I was taping one on, she went ballistic and said all kinds of things and mentioned that she was going to contact my shrink but nothing came of it so along as I kept it low key, I found that she my stash of wet ones but left my dry one alone so along as I kept it discrete, I still wonder what the conversation she had with my shrink at that time but as long as I kept it hidden nothing came of it
 
dogboy said:
Still, having a diaper sitting on the dinner table at dinner time is a bit weird. I can remember before I was out to my wife, every time a diaper commercial would show on TV, or a show mentioning diaper wearing, I'd sort of cringe. It's just who we are.
Yes! I think this is universal, or close to it. Every time there is a diaper/ ABDL reference on TV when others are watching with me I feel a little anxiety and heat sensation, like suddenly being called out on something. I just sort of grin and bare it. I'm sure nobody else notices.
 
For anyone that hasn't "come out of the closet" yet, talking about any fetish can be really upsetting. Seeing something fetish related can also cause anxiety too. Double so for an ab or dl when it's so much more than a fetish too.
 
Slomo said:
For anyone that hasn't "come out of the closet" yet, talking about any fetish can be really upsetting. Seeing something fetish related can also cause anxiety too. Double so for an ab or dl when it's so much more than a fetish too.
Exactly. And what really gets my goat is how this particular fetish, and I'm having a hard time with that word because it is much more, is portrayed in the media as one of the big, creepy ones. I remember reading an article a while ago while struggling with the awkward feelings that come with these desires that was supposed to make me feel better. I was hoping for an article about fetishes being perfectly OK and normal. What I got was an article that started out saying something along the lines of "Just because you have a kink, it doesn't automatically mean you want to be in diapers.". So, yeah, immediately there is a negative judgment, implying you're too freaky if it goes that far. It was mainly an article about accepting the more mundane vanilla fetishes like feet or bondage.
 
Ryan,

[insert awkward/nervous/sigh of relief laugh] HAHAHA. I think we've all had these moments. As a matter of fact, I have pre-staged lies for different scenarios as to why I have diapers:

Catch me buying them in the store? They're for a co-worker that is turning 21 and I'm buying them as a joke.

Order a whole bunch of free samples in the mail and you kind of know the mailman but don't want things to be awkward? You and your brother are pranksters and are always trying to one-up each other; you signed him up for a whole bunch of porn websites with his email and he ordered you 25 different sample packets of diapers.

Get a weird look from someone at the store? Tell them your significant other wants to try something kinky; you don't really "get it" but want to try it for them.

You are confronted and there is no way to seemingly lie about it? You are going to so and so's house and exchanging gag gifts and (if they are partially open) you bought them at the local Goodwill, Salvation Army, Thrift store ,etc. and will be giving it to them.

All I can say is that once you live on your own, life gets a LITTLE BIT easier :)
 
That^ And it also gets easier the confident you become in who you are. Once you've fully and openly come to terms with diapers being a part of you, it also becomes much easier to openly acknowledge it.

Personally, that took me the over a decade to acomlish- so easier said than done for sure. Now though, and in your place, I would have pointed it out and said something like why is grandpa still using that crap, he probably needs better diapers. Here let me go get one of mine for him to try out.
 
I still get tense sometimes I don't really try to hide my stuff I just keep it in a drawer but I had a rough time with me being a little and my family and I got tense every time she called my name
 
Slomo said:
That^ And it also gets easier the confident you become in who you are. Once you've fully and openly come to terms with diapers being a part of you, it also becomes much easier to openly acknowledge it.

Personally, that took me the over a decade to acomlish- so easier said than done for sure. Now though, and in your place, I would have pointed it out and said something like why is grandpa still using that crap, he probably needs better diapers. Here let me go get one of mine for him to try out.

You know what? Maybe it's just that we need to rethink the weird. Example. A few years ago I was working as a cook in a small diner. It was Talk Like a Pirate Day and it had been planned that some employees would dress up for it. I went all in, full pirate regalia. I was the only one. Derp! I felt like a moron and the restroom was located in the front of the restaurant, meaning I would have to walk through the public to get there. Then I realized, screw it. Have fun with it instead and be positive on the absurdity! When I was able to switch my mentality to seeing the weirdness as a fun and good thing, the fears went away. I'm trying to apply this same principle to how I think of my ABDL side.
 
A few things that come up with my friends is if we are watching tv and an ad comes up for training pants or pullups and get asked if I am a big kid yet, or when we are all at our homes and playing War Frame and I have to get up and use the bathroom and I will hear one of my friends say " I'm a big kid now"
even though I am diapered 24/7 I only leak a bit but with out control so I do use the bathroom when they are around, that's why I can get 1 day (at home) out of a single plastic Depends diaper.
 
Oh, yes, I know the feeling... "Everything diaper relates to me." An anecdote that happened to me recently:

I've been out to my partner since a few years, and he's the only one who knows about my diaper fetish (and I intend to keep it that way!). Anyway, we were hanging out with some friends. One of them is currently busily searching for a new boyfriend, and frequently updates us about his endeavors and dates he went to. A returning topic is how most people only want sex, or if people are nice, they have another flaw. Last time he told us: "I've hit a new low. Can you believe it, my date had a diaper fetish! Gross!"
I thought my heart stopped beating for a few seconds, and I was only able to make a "u-huh" sound. My partner at least showed some sense and asked a few questions until the conversation turned to another topic.

So, bottom line, the diaper-related conversation wasn't about me at all. But I sort of panicked that suddenly everybody knew about me, like it was written on my face or something because the magic word had been uttered.

It's a relief (and in hindsight also quite funny actually) that several of you had similar situations / reactions :smile:
 
Yeah only my 3 core friends know I have a fetish for them, but I know theirs as well we are fairly open to each other on that, people outside of the group know I wear them but from the IC aspect only, I would not wear 24/7 if it was not for the IC part of it, but I might have asked that one guy why he felt it was gross, just out of curiosity and some times that info allows me a better feeling of what to say about diapers and what not to say about diapers, I have heard of some people with a diaper fetish that does not involve using them, just wearing it dry and keeping it that way
 
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