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    Hello!

    I haven't been on here for a while, and sorry to be back with a bit of a strong subject.

    My situation is that a couple weeks ago, I got very spooked about porn. I wasn't a heavy user: twice a week on average, and I would view it for a short time (less than an hour each time). I'm a DL so nappies are a sexual thing for me (and would appear in these sessions of viewing).
    I somehow made a link with all that stuff and my intrusive thoughts (I've got HF Autism and anxiety). The content of these intrusive thoughts varies between worrying I'd go mad and do something horrible, inappropriate sexual thoughts concerning those around me, and the niggling thought about the apparently non-existent connection between ABDLism and pedophilia (the situation with that is that I make the connection in my head between my fetish for nappies and the fact this random kid going down the opposite side of the street in wearing one).

    So, I got very, very spooked, and I decided to make a huge giving-up of porn. I haven't given up on masturbation - just the material I've been looking at. I've been very good to my word so far! I found advice from the noFap reddit.

    Three/four weeks later (I can't remember exactly how long), I'm here, wondering if I made the right decision, or if I just panicked. I even felt a little suspicious about some of the things I saw on the noFap reddit (things being said that didn't quite sit right with me about how they treat the opposite sex and all that). Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but it's kind of driving me crazy.

    If I could have some second opinions from people on here more well-versed in this than I, I would be very grateful
    Last edited by Indianajones; 02-Apr-2017 at 15:44. Reason: Better grammar!

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    I too have autism and anxiety and sometimes have inappropriate thoughts. For me though there's no connection between them and watching pee/diaper porn. I probably watch around ten to twenty minutes of porn around four times or so a week.

    I suppose you could test the waters by say, watching a little bit of porn and seeing what kind of effect that has on your intrusive thoughts. If you find there's a strong link between the two then staying away from it could be worthwhile. Normally I would advise against anything that unnecessarily represses one's sexuality but if it really improves one's mental health I could see it possibly being a positive thing.

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    First off congratulations on setting a goal accomplishing it.

    Now, I'm a bit surprised you thought your porn viewing was a problem too begin with. I'd wager about twice a week is well below average for someone your age. At this point you would benefit from just sitting down taking a deep breath and making two nice little mental lists, how has this helped me? How has this harmed me? From there you can decide if you want to dive into porn again.

    You also said you were troubled by thoughts you had when you saw a child on the other side of the street. The most important thing here is that you acted appropriately. You can't control what thoughts pop into your head in the moment and you shouldn't beat yourself up over those thoughts. That being said keep your fantasies aimed toward adults.

    And lastly reddit. Just because you got a handful of useful advice from a forum doesn't mean everything that's said on there is solid gold. Use discretion, apply what's useful, check sources and don't drink the kool-aid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KimbaWolfNagihiko View Post
    I too have autism and anxiety and sometimes have inappropriate thoughts. For me though there's no connection between them and watching pee/diaper porn. I probably watch around ten to twenty minutes of porn around four times or so a week.

    I suppose you could test the waters by say, watching a little bit of porn and seeing what kind of effect that has on your intrusive thoughts. If you find there's a strong link between the two then staying away from it could be worthwhile. Normally I would advise against anything that unnecessarily represses one's sexuality but if it really improves one's mental health I could see it possibly being a positive thing.
    Thanks for the perspective - yeah, I think I may have created the connection out of panic. As for testing the waters, I'll need to see.



    Quote Originally Posted by soupy View Post
    First off congratulations on setting a goal accomplishing it.

    Now, I'm a bit surprised you thought your porn viewing was a problem too begin with. I'd wager about twice a week is well below average for someone your age. At this point you would benefit from just sitting down taking a deep breath and making two nice little mental lists, how has this helped me? How has this harmed me? From there you can decide if you want to dive into porn again.

    You also said you were troubled by thoughts you had when you saw a child on the other side of the street. The most important thing here is that you acted appropriately. You can't control what thoughts pop into your head in the moment and you shouldn't beat yourself up over those thoughts. That being said keep your fantasies aimed toward adults.

    And lastly reddit. Just because you got a handful of useful advice from a forum doesn't mean everything that's said on there is solid gold. Use discretion, apply what's useful, check sources and don't drink the kool-aid.
    The reddit thing...maybe I should've thought of that beforehand lol. My fantasies are certainly aimed at adults - it was just the association that spooked me. You are, however, right - I shouldn't be beating myself up about it (hard to put into practice lol).

    Thank you for your help, guys

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    I'm going to be that one person who spoils everyones "fun" hehe >.<

    The thing is, from personal experience is, if you don't masturbate often, I find that I tend to be more "sexual" than when I don't plus if you don't masturbate generally you're going to do it in your sleep (not literally) but you'll have "wet dreams".

    To be honest with you, if I Don't "masturbate" at least once a week, I find that I get testicle pain, and random erections, and find myself getting very sexual over a lot of things, diapers become impossible to put on etc, I find that my sex drive is more "calm" when I masturbate often.

    To be honest, It's healthy to "jack it" for the team, once every week or maybe more, if you don't generally you'll notice you'll get more erections than usual, sore testicals etc (from personal experience).

    Now for not watching porn, eh there really is no reason not to, if you're gay or straight switch to normal porn etc, remember the porn you watch doesn't have to involve diapers, try something different, whatever "tickles your fancy".

    That being said, a lot of "anti-fap" or no-fap websites / pages, such as "teens against porn" are just silly, you'll eventually realise it's mostly rooted in religion, and a lot of the people come from very conservative families (where things like gay conversion therapy and kicking out transgender people on the street) kind of things exist.

    Last and not least, watching porn won't turn you into some "serial killer" like some of the feminazi's want you to think, seriously I've seen crap stating that masturbation leads to sexism, or rape, or better yet is what causes serial killers to become serial killers.. with very twisted logic, same as the violent video games cause school shootings and vaccines cause autism kind of crap.

    I think a lot of your thoughts stem from anxiety to be honest with you, I know for a fact anxiety tends to make things seem a lot worse in your head than it is, with things like OCD for example you might think if you don't wash your hands 20 times a day, you might die from ebola or some crap. (personally I'm kind of like that myself).

    I think that sums up my opinion on the subject. Masturbation is normal, and watching porn is healthy for you, as long as you don't jack off 30 times a day, you have nothing to fear, you're not going to turn into a paedophilia and start hanging around schools in a white van or anything. It's only the diaper you're attracted too, not the child. don't worry I had the same fear once, I'm fine have no interest in children etc. You should be fine.

    If you want to have a little giggle.

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.ph...killers.68061/

    A lot of the anti-porn propaganda is rooted in religious thinking same goes with anti-gay, etc, I personally believe these type of people are a small subset of religious people, I've personally met some odd people, who haven't jacked it because of religious reasons, I've met people who don't eat bacon because of religious reasons etc, I'm sure if you look hard enough, you'll find teens against bacon, or bacon causes people to become serial killers etc.

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    I think it's a question of balance. Obviously, you don't want a steady diet of porn, but from what you've said, you're actually watching a small amount. There are so many different kinds of porn out there. Some are professional with people making money from it. Some are amateurs getting their kicks from posting themselves. As long as the porn you're watching doesn't seem to be harming the person who posted it, I see no problem with watching, and assuming it's legal.

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    Depending on the kind of porn it's up to you. I tend to say that unrealistic porn does not contribute to a healthy sexuality. I don't think that porn is something bad per se but its huge availability nowadays is a problem. I can watch porn almost everywhere. Nice bathroom, audio out and here we go: brazilian fart porn (South Park reference right here). It destroys your natural sexual fantasy and influences it in a very negative way. Some realistic porn now and then that fits your desires is okay. Nobody really needs it but its there, its available.

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