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    Question Letting my girlfriend know about my diaper loving fetish?

    Hi guys,

    I have a girlfriend that knows I have a diaper fetish. But she doesn't exactly know that I love wearing them. When I first teased her and said I wanted to put a diaper on her, then revealed some of my sexual kinks, that I love a mother and son theme in bed, she kinda could guess some things I feel.

    So one day in whatsapp chat, I teased and said she should wear diapers, she said she doesn't like the bulk and it's ugly. I was slightly sad to hear that, but I can understand. She then screenshoted a wikipedia article on infantilism and diaper lovers and asked if I'm one of them. Being afraid to reveal the truth, I said we shouldn't talk about it.

    Over time, whenever we got near the diaper section in supermarkets, pharmacies etc., she would tease me about it. I will just quietly try to get as far from there as possible. She knows that I masturbate to diaper porn, but I made it seem like I love to put those diapers on girls, and to baby them.

    The truth? I love to wear diapers, and I would like to enjoy getting 'mothered' by my girlfriend. At the same time, I also enjoy it if my girlfriend wants to be the baby, and I be the daddy.

    Of course, not saying I want to let it affect my life like that, but I know my limits and I feel that letting that happen as a sexual kink and enjoyment once in a while, while not letting it affect my career and social life would be a reasonable and good thing to do to satisfy myself.

    I have a few diapers which I bought recently, stashed in a locked cupboard in my room. My girlfriend comes over 2-3 times a week to have sex and spend time with me.

    I don't want to sound creepy to anyone, but I find it that if I were to wear diapers out in public with my girlfriend, and LET HER KNOW that I am wearing one, it is fun to know that she can tease me like that. And to let her diaper me etc. In order for that to happen, I may need to let her know that I actually love to be the one wearing diapers. I feel like she can probably guess, but at the same time I can't be sure. Maybe she thinks I only like to diaper girls up and baby them.

    Have you guys ever let your wife/girlfriend know about your diaper fetish? What happened after that? Any tips on how I can let the cat out of the bag? Or should I actually even reveal my fetish to her?

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    Since fetishes are purely sexual in nature they are something I would recommend anyone only ever divulge to their sexual partner. Other people really just don't need to know about it, and your mom a dad probably don't ever want to know about it.

    Diaper Love on the other hand is something you love. It is an integral part of who you are, and anyone you expect to know and be close to has every right to know the full you or you're just living a lie with them. And trying to do this well past marriage is a recipe for divorce.

    If it's looking like you're going to be with your girlfriend in a close and long relationship, then obviously yes you should tell her. Plus, if she already thinks and accepts you have a fetish, then revealing you actually love them shouldn't be too much of a leap for her.

    Just make sure she understands this is actually a part of who you are, but also something you like to involve sexually. However, it is not something that is based solely on sex and is therefore not really just a simple fetish. It is not something you can just give up or ignore either. And while this is a compulsion you love you'd like to know she can love you too, even in a diaper.

    This said, I believe it is also important to take things slowly at first. Tell her you don't expect her to wear a diaper or change you unless she wants to, and you don't have to be diapered to have sex. If she prefers she can also ask you keep you diapers low profile from her till she is more used to the idea of it all. But at the very least you should be able to expect her to accept your diapers. Not doing so would literally be rejecting a big part of who you are.

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    Some backstory. I am my lady's first. She was in her mid twenties, she comes from a very sexually conservative home and kink in general was pretty unknown to her when we started dating 3.5 years ago.

    Last year we were hitting some struggles with this and it came time to lay all the cards out. So I did, expecting the worst because that's how my brains works.

    I told her and the response I got was interesting. She wasn't outright against it, but definitely needed a bit of time to process it.

    Since then, she's indulged for me a couple of times and even though it's not "her thing" she doesn't outright hate it and enjoys the fact that I enjoy it.

    That's all part of the story that you'll read a thousand times. Success stories are all over the place. Here's one part of it that a lot of people leave out. For me it's been pretty crucial.

    You have to understand that your lady's first thought when it comes to sex isn't diapers and that it's pretty alien to her. It sounds to me like she might be showing this by making jokes about the situation. I know it might be tough at first (I struggled with that in my situation), but having a good sense of humor about it is absolutely key.

    It's an absurd fetish and that's OK.

    The best thing you can do is talk about it. Pick a night where you don't have huge plans, you're not going to be tired from work. Maybe suggest some evening that you go out for ice cream or something silly like that. Be open. Be honest. Expect questions. Don't take the teasing personal (Unless she goes full hosebeast on you, that's not cool).

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lazada View Post
    Of course, not saying I want to let it affect my life like that, but I know my limits and I feel that letting that happen as a sexual kink and enjoyment once in a while, while not letting it affect my career and social life would be a reasonable and good thing to do to satisfy myself.

    I have a few diapers which I bought recently, stashed in a locked cupboard in my room. My girlfriend comes over 2-3 times a week to have sex and spend time with me.

    I don't want to sound creepy to anyone, but I find it that if I were to wear diapers out in public with my girlfriend, and LET HER KNOW that I am wearing one, it is fun to know that she can tease me like that. And to let her diaper me etc. In order for that to happen, I may need to let her know that I actually love to be the one wearing diapers. I feel like she can probably guess, but at the same time I can't be sure. Maybe she thinks I only like to diaper girls up and baby them.

    Have you guys ever let your wife/girlfriend know about your diaper fetish? What happened after that? Any tips on how I can let the cat out of the bag? Or should I actually even reveal my fetish to her?
    You shouldn't feel like you're creepy, and you certainly are not alone in enjoying some playful humiliation (within safe bounds) from your partner! I absolutely love it when my wife teases me about being a baby, or treats me young in public (makes me hold her hand, etc.).

    You can totally manage to have a little side to yourself and have a healthy happy productive life! Everybody is different, and we all need different quantities and intensities of things - it sounds like you're aware enough to keep this part of your self from absorbing everything else.

    All that said, the best advice I've gotten, and what's worked for me, is just talking about it with your girlfriend. It's way better to be honest than to to have her think you like diapered girls only. You should be honest about all your feelings, even if it's embarrassing. That's the only way you'll find out what the compatible zone between you is. For example with my wife and I it turned out she has zero, zippo interest in wearing herself (which I would enjoy), but she has grown to be more comfortable in a caregiver role for me.

    Tithonian has great advice on how to set the stage, and you shouldn't expect to have her be able to process everything in one go. Now, since she did ask you about infantilism directly, she may suspect so you might have an easier time, but then again, it may be a problem for her, and it's better to deal with that now than later!

    Either way, take comfort knowing there's plenty of us in the same boat who've made the confession successfully and gone onto happy relationships (with varying amounts of diapered spice). Good luck! We're rooting for you!

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    Be honest with her, take some time and explain your feelings to her. Be accepting of her feelings to. Try to make it so both of you can be comfortable with the scenario.

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    You need to use some of the old reverse psychology here! And find out exactly what she goes WILD for! Please her, spoil her like a princess, & maybe even pretend that you don't need anything in return.. & she'll soon be feeling bad! And that means she will more than likely start asking you "Is there anything I can do to please you", to which you reply.. "Pleasing YOU pleases me"! And then slowly, she will start to guess, & pry, & suggest.. "Want me to wear something special for you"?.. Eventually, she will remember your kink, & if you keep blowing her mind with how good the foreplay is (important to take note that girls like 4play more than sex) she will be much more inclined to try it.. for you. NOT for her.. For YOU. And that is the important point here. For everything you desire from each other, you have to give. Girls are smart & they know how to pick up on what you're thinking & feeling when they tease you! She is concerned about this side of you, but she is too afraid to ask. She also doesn't want to enrol diapers encase they become more important in the bedroom than her. So it's up to YOU, to convince her than Nothing... NOTHING.. will ever surpass the level of enjoyment she gives you. Obsessing over pleasing her in the bedroom is a good way to do that. But play it cool too! Chicks dig confidence! Take control! Lay her down, massage her, tie her up, tease her "There's no escape for you now [her name]", kiss & suck every inch of her, train your hands to be FIRM but gentle when needed, take hours, don't rush it! Be the James Bond every girl yearns for! When she's at work, text covert messages like "I was thinking about last night". And tell her "I can't wait to see you tonight.. I have a surprise Toy..er.. Gift! Te He" It will drive the poor girl insane!! But she deserves it! Roll play ya know?

    By the time you've got to know what she likes, she will be a quivering wreck! And that, my friend, is a girl who will do anything for you! To keep you hers! But keep playing the game! When she asks "Do you want to Diaper me?" Be a sly cunning old fox & reply "I'm not saying anything!" & look away whilst revealing a cheeky smile!! Every time she mentions diapers when out or in the baby diaper isles.. instead of running off all embarrassed.. look her in the eye with that cheeky smile! Lay the bread crumb trail! Say nothing, deny everything, all cool calm & collected... but always with that cheeky grin she loves so much! That way, she'll feel that she can one day (COUGH!!) "Surprise you" with something! And when that happens, you will have to do your best to keep control! And FAIL!!! HA HA! All of a sudden, she will feel that new aspect of seeing YOU pleased beyond control! Like a wave of excitement! Just like you did to her! It will send explosions through your senses! But more importantly, it will give her the impression that she has power over you. That she has defeated James.. Bloody.. BOND!! Ha ha! And then you're doomed! Screwed! I'd leave the country at that point if I were you. Because for every instance you pleased her... all those times you picked her up from work naked under your jacket & lying rose petals down on the bed & washing her hair whilst kissing her neck etc. for every time you made her die & go to heaven, she will see you squirm!!!

    You'll have to keep flourishing her with love & lust, (poor you!) but that will only serve to persuade her to rule you with that one chink in the armour you have! That one weakness she can expose any time she feels like it! That only SHE possesses!

    That is the most loving way of building happy memories to introduce your fetish. And she will respect you so much more for doing that than practically telling her that she is not enough to please you.. you need diapers too. Ya know? Asking is taking. Spoil the girl rotten. Make her yours. And she will walk on fire for her beloved. The more romantic you make the process, the harder it will be for her to imagine finding a better mate.

    Best of luck. Now go & get that James Bond hair cut!!

    Travis

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