Mommy thoughts we share.....

I have or we all have struggled with the thought that what if we never have someone to love us. I have for many years found that wanting and longing for a mummy really hurts, and were not talking about cuts and bruises. I often get extremely sad or depressed because I just want someone...someone to be there, hold my bottle, wake me up with a soothing voice and soft call of my name.....its all.........


I know I aint the only one suffering, I'm new here but extremely active, since I found this community thing's have been easier, but some things stay the same...

It's never too late to meet that special person. Never give up, Love could be just around the corner.

Yep It would had been nice


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Yes, very nice....

Well, at least this wait will be rewarded

I tend to have the same feelings, and it's awful. In fact, for me it's the hardest part of being AB.

LifeGoesOn223 said:

I have or we all have struggled with the thought that what if we never have someone to love us. I have for many years found that wanting and longing for a mummy really hurts, and were not talking about cuts and bruises. I often get extremely sad or depressed because I just want someone...someone to be there, hold my bottle, wake me up with a soothing voice and soft call of my name.....its all.........I know I aint the only one suffering, I'm new here but extremely active, since I found this community thing's have been easier, but some things stay the same...

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The reality is what you are asking for is very one sided. You want someone to love you, change you, hold your bottle, etc... Well, I'm sorry to have to tell you this but the vast majority of people in a relationship are going to want reciprocation. Meaning you need to be willing to love others, hold them, care for them, etc. It can't be entirely about you because very few people are going to want that. Frankly, it's extremely selfish to want that from someone else. Give and you shall receive.

KimbaStarshine said:

I tend to have the same feelings, and it's awful. In fact, for me it's the hardest part of being AB.

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Spaz said:

The reality is what you are asking for is very one sided. You want someone to love you, change you, hold your bottle, etc... Well, I'm sorry to have to tell you this but the vast majority of people in a relationship are going to want reciprocation. Meaning you need to be willing to love others, hold them, care for them, etc. It can't be entirely about you because very few people are going to want that. Frankly, it's extremely selfish to want that from someone else. Give and you shall receive.

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Arrghhh, I understand this but my post was focused one way because its what pains me. I never said that if I had a wife/girlfriend I wouldn't love her back.

While I fully understand this thread was more of a rhetorical vent than a discusion creator I do feel there is some merit in this.

The best answer so far is explaining that selfishly seeking someone to simply pander after your fetish needs will lead to severe loneliness. I get that you want a relationship more than simply a fetish vending machine but there is something you must consider.

If someone is to cater to your desires they need to be somebody very special which I have no doubt you know. Instead of thinking about finding someone who wants to care for you like a baby try asking yourself what kind of person could love me enough to accept me for everything I am. To clarify a little you should focus on finding someone to love and who loves you back before trying to find some who simply wants a live doll to play with. I dont know if you ever have actually had someone change you, but without a solid attraction and affection for each other it is very sterile and almost like a transaction and not the loving fantasy you have inside. You may as well just pay an escort who is ABDL aware to cater for you if you simply seek someone to play mommy.

Concentrate on finding someone who you can build a future with and naturally you can develop your love life so everyone gets what they need from it. Best of luck, it is a beautiful dynamic if you find the right person.

MotherFaith said:

While I fully understand this thread was more of a rhetorical vent than a discusion creator I do feel there is some merit in this.

The best answer so far is explaining that selfishly seeking someone to simply pander after your fetish needs will lead to severe loneliness. I get that you want a relationship more than simply a fetish vending machine but there is something you must consider.

If someone is to cater to your desires they need to be somebody very special which I have no doubt you know. Instead of thinking about finding someone who wants to care for you like a baby try asking yourself what kind of person could love me enough to accept me for everything I am. To clarify a little you should focus on finding someone to love and who loves you back before trying to find some who simply wants a live doll to play with. I dont know if you ever have actually had someone change you, but without a solid attraction and affection for each other it is very sterile and almost like a transaction and not the loving fantasy you have inside. You may as well just pay an escort who is ABDL aware to cater for you if you simply seek someone to play mommy.

Concentrate on finding someone who you can build a future with and naturally you can develop your love life so everyone gets what they need from it. Best of luck, it is a beautiful dynamic if you find the right person.

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Spot on... all this. Even then it's a fair ask of someone. At the end of the day, acceptance is probably more gratifying than any actual caretaking. But yeah I agree that total fulfilment does lie in being taken care of. Has any one seen my mummy ? aci:

Finding a mommy figure is a quest, I've been looking for years, actually almost 10 years, then last year I found one, we met up and it was great, we still talk almost everyday on kik, the down side with us is distance, she's a 2 hour drive away so we try but its not the best situation.
More recently I answered an ad on fetlife, I replied honestly, this lady wasn't looking for age play but we started talking and now that's really the basis of all our conversations, I think she actually likes the idea of mommy / little play more than me, we are planning to meet up very soon, she's only about 45min away from me so its not a big deal to take that drive and see what she's like in real life.
The point of this is that mommy's are out there, just keep trying and eventually you'll get there.

I myself would like a mommy too and be taken care of. Earlier when I was diapering myself the feeling hit me for a bit, wishing someone else was doing it.

Even though I want a mommy my I would like to have a girlfriend first, and meeting people especially girls is hard for me and I have a fear of never meeting anybody and living alone. At this point in my life I just wish I could meet anyone and that we get to liking each other and accept each other.

MotherFaith said:

While I fully understand this thread was more of a rhetorical vent than a discusion creator I do feel there is some merit in this.

The best answer so far is explaining that selfishly seeking someone to simply pander after your fetish needs will lead to severe loneliness. I get that you want a relationship more than simply a fetish vending machine but there is something you must consider.

If someone is to cater to your desires they need to be somebody very special which I have no doubt you know. Instead of thinking about finding someone who wants to care for you like a baby try asking yourself what kind of person could love me enough to accept me for everything I am. To clarify a little you should focus on finding someone to love and who loves you back before trying to find some who simply wants a live doll to play with. I dont know if you ever have actually had someone change you, but without a solid attraction and affection for each other it is very sterile and almost like a transaction and not the loving fantasy you have inside. You may as well just pay an escort who is ABDL aware to cater for you if you simply seek someone to play mommy.

Concentrate on finding someone who you can build a future with and naturally you can develop your love life so everyone gets what they need from it. Best of luck, it is a beautiful dynamic if you find the right person.

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No I have never been changed but I do understand 1 thing, that is that there has to be acceptance. I am looking for that someone to accept me, I have multiple people who accept the little side but it could never be a serious relationship. And for me its not a fetish as much as some say us littles just wont accept it, its deeply emotional.

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pampers4U said:

Finding a mommy figure is a quest, I've been looking for years, actually almost 10 years, then last year I found one, we met up and it was great, we still talk almost everyday on kik, the down side with us is distance, she's a 2 hour drive away so we try but its not the best situation.
More recently I answered an ad on fetlife, I replied honestly, this lady wasn't looking for age play but we started talking and now that's really the basis of all our conversations, I think she actually likes the idea of mommy / little play more than me, we are planning to meet up very soon, she's only about 45min away from me so its not a big deal to take that drive and see what she's like in real life.
The point of this is that mommy's are out there, just keep trying and eventually you'll get there.

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Yes, finally someone whos staying on topic 100% and not trying to become negative!!

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tall2826 said:

I myself would like a mommy too and be taken care of. Earlier when I was diapering myself the feeling hit me for a bit, wishing someone else was doing it.

Even though I want a mommy my I would like to have a girlfriend first, and meeting people especially girls is hard for me and I have a fear of never meeting anybody and living alone. At this point in my life I just wish I could meet anyone and that we get to liking each other and accept each other.

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Sounds like were alike, thanks for saying how I feel but worded better.

LifeGoesOn223 said:

No I have never been changed but I do understand 1 thing, that is that there has to be acceptance. I am looking for that someone to accept me, I have multiple people who accept the little side but it could never be a serious relationship. And for me its not a fetish as much as some say us littles just wont accept it, its deeply emotional.

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Yes, finally someone whos staying on topic 100% and not trying to become negative!!

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Sounds like were alike, thanks for saying how I feel but worded better.

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Having a fetish does not have to be a negative aspect to someones life. I was completely on point as have had to break down obession through acceptance. It turned out my path was something different to what I obsessed about and felt there was no controlling. I am sorry if I came across harsh, it was not my intention. My point is swing it round from what the goal is to the journey to obtain the goal.

"fetish vending machine".

That is great!

A long term female play partner used to call this 'do me' subs.

I Wanna Wanna!

Yeah... Not.

Give first, without expectation. Be known and valued in the community.

What makes you worth the time and energy of someone who could be with anyone?

If you are not that, work on becoming more of that.

Your comments and recommendations are honest and to the point. I am not AB so I am not one to look for a Mommy but I do have desires to share my DL with my wife. I agree with what you are saying and I feel that I have done exactly that, met someone that I deeply love and share my life with her. We met in college and only dated for 2 months before deciding to get married once I graduated. Early in our relationship I told her about my DL side fully expecting her to be disappointed and discouraged. She was not. She understood that I needed this to cope with stresses of my family. She also has stress from her family which I found out later lead to her having eating disorders. We have both become so close and we rely on each other for comfort. She has since stopped her eating disorder habits and become an even more wonderful person. So naturally I would love to have her involved more in my Diaper play but she is not really interested. I did push long ago but it was not good. I love her so much and we understand each other. I can do my thing without imposing on her which is great. I would never go to anyone else.

I replied to your thread to help shed some light on how a strong loving relationship is more important than almost anything. It is not easy to meet a person that you can truly love that deep so if you find that so many other things can become much easier.

ScruffyDL said:

Your comments and recommendations are honest and to the point. I am not AB so I am not one to look for a Mommy but I do have desires to share my DL with my wife. I agree with what you are saying and I feel that I have done exactly that, met someone that I deeply love and share my life with her. We met in college and only dated for 2 months before deciding to get married once I graduated. Early in our relationship I told her about my DL side fully expecting her to be disappointed and discouraged. She was not. She understood that I needed this to cope with stresses of my family. She also has stress from her family which I found out later lead to her having eating disorders. We have both become so close and we rely on each other for comfort. She has since stopped her eating disorder habits and become an even more wonderful person. So naturally I would love to have her involved more in my Diaper play but she is not really interested. I did push long ago but it was not good. I love her so much and we understand each other. I can do my thing without imposing on her which is great. I would never go to anyone else.

I replied to your thread to help shed some light on how a strong loving relationship is more important than almost anything. It is not easy to meet a person that you can truly love that deep so if you find that so many other things can become much easier.

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Yes it works for anyone who has a sexual need that may fall slightly outside of the vanilla spectrum, not just those seeking an age-play relationship. If you want someone to partake in these things, beyond just a one off transaction, there has to be some basis of trust and acceptance from both sides. There are plenty of relationships where compromises have been made and not all needs are met, but they are accepted and have the ability to evolve the fantasy so it works for everyone involved. It is wonderful that you and your wife have come to some sort of compromise on your needs and in turn you have accepted the help she needs and do your utmost to support her. It may not be perfect and it may not allow for every idea to be shared, but you have acceptance and with that some outlet.

I would never deny anyone seeking out their deepest desires, I constantly look for play partners that compliment what I wish to experience. I have learned and try to pass on that it is not a one way street. There has to be an honest discussion and accepting that maybe not everything in the fantasy will be covered. I see many people suffer with loneliness because they constantly fixate on the near impossible and sometimes seem unwilling to compromise on their needs. It is not fair to expect a partner to simply go along with every fantasy and simply agree to do whatever is suggested. The relationship will quickly derail as it will become about what one person wants. I rarely see someone seeking an age-play or DL relationship explain what they ill give back to the person that embraces this need.

It is not my intention to cast a gloomy shadow over those who want to seek a parent figure, if anything I would encourage them to keep true to themselves and believe they can enjoy that loving embrace of a parent figure. I just like to point out the cold reality of the, sometimes, selfishness of it all and try to explain you need to concentrate on building love not satisfying fetish fantasies. Looking at it from the front end will lead to everyone being happy.