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    I'll admit this is one of those vent post. I'm getting really tired of it and the only reason I haven't lost it on this guy is I don't think he knows any better and it was one of the last things my mom asked me to do being nice to him, but he is seriously pushing my last button.

    The first straw was a bit ago, was his frequent need to try and talk with me when I was jogging. I had been working out since it helped me feel a bit better and it was something to do between study sessions. When I start I don't like to stop, but he keeps yelling at me, his dog would start barking at me. Finally at one point he promised to leave me alone and claimed me he was going to help me find a job, sadly he couldn't keep either promise as right after my mom died he started right up on me.

    In between that time he also did something I really lost my marbles over. I had put my tax forms in the mail the night before the next day I go up the hill and find part of the mail missing including one of the tax forms, some new mail and the mail box lid down... I just about lost it. I called the post office freaking out thinking it had blown away, the mail woman at the local post office promised to look into it when the driver completed his rounds. I got a call back later and a very interesting story about how the substitute driver had been intercepted by an older man standing between the mail box and him and insisted on giving him the mail and taking it. I immediately knew it was him and pretty damn furious as it got my bp up. I took my moms advice and let it slide, telling the postal service not to let him to intercept my mail again.

    Fast forward a bit after my mom's funeral a bit, and I jog at night now... it helps me calm down at night and stop the evening sobbing. He's taken it to have a problem with this. So the one day while my brother is out stacking wood he goes over to tell my brother someone almost hit me while I was jogging, which is absolute bs, and now when I'm out jogging despite my wearing white and jumping off to the shoulder any car that comes he still has to make audible comments while doing his obsessive back and forth to his car routine. Tonight I was going back down one of my laps down... he tries to talk to me despite my giving him plenty of space as I was on my neighbor's lawn. I'm also a little annoyed I found some late nights he's been sneaking loose trash in my can, which given I've been having problems with the collectors makes me not surprised his hands were somehow involved with my can (I also found a loose bag of dog poop in the bottom of the can I think may have been his). Anyway sorry for the long rant.

    Anyone else have senile neighbors who you have figured out a way to tell to bug off without being a straight up ass to?

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    Wow. I have some senile neighbors. Fortunately, it mostly amounts to forgetting who and where they are, not trying to "help" me.

    Before he was too far gone, I couldn't go out in the back yard without the one right next door intercepting me for political discussions. He's an old Vermont socialist, so you can imagine how those went. I actually enjoyed it when I had the time, except that it was a huge time waster when I'm just trying to get a tool or something out of the garage.

    Now, its a really good day if he remembers my name, or even his kids when they come over. The only person he consistently remembers is Mrs. Maxx, probably because she was good friends with his wife before she passed years ago.

    Edit: Kudo's to his kids for arranging it so he can stay put rather than go into a nursing home.
    Last edited by Maxx; 03-Dec-2016 at 12:42.

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    Is it just me or does their always seem to be that one neighbor lol XD. Ya, I don't think I ever had a neighbor quite as bad as that, but of the many years of moving back and fourth I have got to say I have seen some pretty loony neighbors too.

    But see, i'm the type of person to climb over fences or take some weird back route just to avoid people o.o. I also pretend i'm not home quite often when people knock on the door. So it's pretty rare I have to actually deal with crazy neighbors.

    Edit: Side note .... to my neighbors I might probably be the crazy neighbor.

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    We had some really, really bad neighbors before we moved. They were always begging for things, plus we're pretty sure they stole stuff from us too.

    I don't think you should worry too much about people putting garbage with your trash though. Unless it's something criminal (like evidence of crime) or prohibited (like TVs or things you aren't supposed to put on the curb)....There's not much you can do about it, unless that's happening. But guess I can kinda understand why it bothers you, since this guy seems like he'll do anything to annoy you. You've been through a lot & don't need people making things extra stressful.

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    You know I have a similar gripe against a little-old lady from Germany circa WW2 era. She moved into my neighborhood and was grandfathered in on dirt-cheap rent, hundreds of cats (none of us can own pets), and causes nearly the whole block smell like urine.

    She really is a disturbance. She comes to the door wearing nothing but a paper-thin gown and a smile and yells at her cats because they don't vote. She just had a pacemaker put in, and half of me wants to buy her flowers with the "just thinking of you" sentiment, while the other half wants to do the "just shit my pants shuffle" to my front door each time, so she can't strike up a conversation and burn 20 minutes out of my free time.

    She also rummages in the trash and as a diaper-wearer, yeah, this burns my blood a bit, but I also put the skeevist ones on top so maybe one of these years she'll learn her lesson and retire from the dumpster diving.

    My best guess is to exhaust your options for legal recourse and I'm sure there are oodles of legal aid numbers you can call that will be on your side, especially if an IRS interception is involved. It doesn't matter what your age or your stage in life, illegal is illegal, and anything from an authoritative slap on the wrist to a kind "relocation" peace-order to a nice "flowery" facility isn't too cruel to reverse behavior that may, in turn, put you in the box if left unchecked.

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    first let me say that it is my understanding that "The number of people with dementia is steadily increasing" according to the "Alzheimer's Society" of the UK....
    https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/s...documentID=412

    furthermore, it has been the experience of my youth (50's to early 60's) that families were much closer, more caring, more accepting and torrential of their older and or elderly members. so-much so as to easily overlook the eccentricities that are all too often age-related. but sadly, those days are long passed in the dust of our X-Generation and Millennial's.

    as a baby-boomer i felt an abiding love and respect for my family elders, as well as the older family members of my friends and neighbors. they were people to be revered, a living repository of wisdom if you will. and it wasn't just my family who taught me this either, it was the culture i grew up in and it's expectation of everyone.

    but alas.... i guess that i will go with the crowd here in this sad part/aspect of life. you see, i and my Wife are getting on in years and though it seems pretty clear by now that dementia will pass both of us by un-effected. but all of the experts seem fairly certain that dementia is going to hit the X-er's and Millennial's pretty hard.... harder than it ever has, or will, hit my contemporaries. so why don't we just enact a national law that requires the "warehousing" of all new dementia cases where there exists a situation that no buddy steps forward to care for said person. sad i know, but after all, the person isn't really going to know or understand where they are anyway by that point, are they.....

    PS; i am sure glad we as boomers had the "Golden Rule" when we were growing up (see below)
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule

    old Dike (with all her marbles)...... -grin-

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    Mine is not demented or anything like that.

    He is a Neighborhood Association President want-a-be and when he has been drinking he has to come tell me all about how the neighborhood is being dragged down and everything I do wrong with my lawn.

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    Quote Originally Posted by egor View Post
    Mine is not demented or anything like that.

    He is a Neighborhood Association President want-a-be and when he has been drinking he has to come tell me all about how the neighborhood is being dragged down and everything I do wrong with my lawn.
    Oh god can I sympathize with that one!

    There's this old lady who used to be really nice until her husband died, she lives across the street, we kept getting calls from the borough saying we had to fix X problem because people had complained. Things behind our house that literally no one can see or under our deck protected by walls that you literally can't see in. We found out the lady kept calling and complaining because it was her childhood house and we weren't keeping it how it was when she was little. She would literally walk around behind the house or walk into our driveway to look into our fenced yard like she owned it. She's since gotten better, she's not as bitter as she once was but yeah. . . She literally trims her lawn with scissors though to make sure its the perfect height after her son in law runs the lawn mower over it. She's a neighborhood association wanna be, there is no neighborhood association here though.

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    I have an older lady neighbor who is difficult to have as a neighbor. Our son came to visit and parked his car on the street. His back bumper was slightly in line with the sidewalk that went to her front door. Instead of calling and asking him to move his car forward, she called the police. A nice officer appeared at the door. He actually seemed embarrassed to ask us to move the car, which of course, we did.

    I had a tree branch that came close to her roof and she became very unpleasant with me, telling me to have my trees trimmed. But when we lost electricity for 7 days after a severe storm, she brought us ice which she was getting via Liberty U. Liberty had set up shelters where she was spending the nights. So isn't all bad, and we've had a better relationship since then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by littlelodgewrecker View Post

    furthermore, it has been the experience of my youth (50's to early 60's) that families were much closer, more caring, more accepting and torrential of their older and or elderly members. so-much so as to easily overlook the eccentricities that are all too often age-related. but sadly, those days are long passed in the dust of our X-Generation and Millennial's.


    as a baby-boomer i felt an abiding love and respect for my family elders, as well as the older family members of my friends and neighbors. they were people to be revered, a living repository of wisdom if you will. and it wasn't just my family who taught me this either, it was the culture i grew up in and it's expectation of everyone.

    but alas.... i guess that i will go with the crowd here in this sad part/aspect of life. you see, i and my Wife are getting on in years and though it seems pretty clear by now that dementia will pass both of us by un-effected. but all of the experts seem fairly certain that dementia is going to hit the X-er's and Millennial's pretty hard.... harder than it ever has, or will, hit my contemporaries. so why don't we just enact a national law that requires the "warehousing" of all new dementia cases where there exists a situation that no buddy steps forward to care for said person. sad i know, but after all, the person isn't really going to know or understand where they are anyway by that point, are they.....

    PS; i am sure glad we as boomers had the "Golden Rule" when we were growing up (see below)
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule

    old Dike (with all her marbles)...... -grin-
    As someone who has a family member suffering from dementia, I don't think hastily attributing ignorance to generational "categories" is a winning debate here. I agree that the elderly are far less honored than they should be, and that nosedive in mentality all has to do with the genesis of libraries, both digital and tactile; not "kids these days".

    In most developing societies and countries where volumes of research weren't at your fingertips, either online or from a book, it was the elderly that everyone would derive their experience and wisdom from.

    Still, most millennials and gen-x'ers have their hands tied with an economy that's a failure to both survive and thrive, and chapters out of the DSM-V before they graduate college. Simply because, that's how genetic shuffling and breeding works. And wishing further ill will on someone because you disagree with them, is far from cool.

    When my grandmother's dementia got so debilitating, she almost burned her duplex down, OP's concern was an interception from the IRS, and mine was way more minor, with "privacy invasion" overtones. When someone is a harm to themselves or others, they need intervention.

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