Travis9800 said:
This fetish is one of the least popular in the whole world. And what's even MORE rare, are female participants. Hence why you can find only about a dozen genuine female ABDL channels on You Tube. So is by giving up diapers going to increase your odds of finding a girl to last? Of course it is! But do you want to give them up? Or CAN you even go without?!
Well, I'd guess that's an overstatement about being the least popular fetish... Can't imagine those that like to eat poo being any more popular. Remember, for most people that hear that someone is into diapers, they immediately conjure up an image of a stinky baby diaper full of poo, because that's what they're familiar with, and then, regrettably, they extend that putrid thought to the adult they're communicating with, who cherishes diaper wearing.
Realistically, many more people have pee fetishes, peeing over each other, peeing their pants & panties, drinking pee, enemas with pee, peeing in vagina, etc. Those are all very weird, when you consider we just enjoy wearing the diaper, and then wetting ourselves (some do the #2, which I totally think some vanillas will just never understand, for reasons stated above). So, a peed diaper just gets worn/tossed, but drinking, peeing in the face/vagina, etc., to me, those are all a bit weirder. They may be more "heard of" than diapers, and, so, consequently, it might seem, they're more accepted. However, I'm guessing, when someone level headed is comparing them, diapers don't seem quite as crazy as drinking a cup of pee, pee enemas, etc.
On the concept that giving up diapers is going to find you that dream girl, I think that's mostly a fallacy. YES, you can always find many more vanilla ladies/partners, and try to explain your way into acceptance, than you can finding the girl that already loves diapers, and is just looking for you. But, the diaper girls do exist, in far greater numbers than you might think. I just believe they approach things much differently than guys, and, consequently, they're much more secretive about it, either doing it in private, not needing the approval of others, and, for that reason, probably not being to internet-social-media expressive about it all. They do exist, here, and on Fetlife, in fairly large numbers, so yes, anything is possible. (Decades ago, it WAS nearly totally impossible to find anyone that shared this interest because there were no ways to get in touch with each other, except through organizations like DPF, etc.)
So, does one give diapers up, to have a relationship? No, if necessary, one puts it on the back burner, has some relationships, and, WHEN YOU FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE, you break down the barriers about kink, and spill the beans. They either take you, or they don't. There are consequences if they don't AND they're weak minded individuals. (The might spill your beans to others, etc.) If they're strong ego individuals, and they oppose diapers, they'll just leave it where it is, and probably drop you like a fly. (I wouldn't expect them to divulge your intimate secret with others) Lastly, though, there can also be strong ego individuals, not put off by what they don't yet understand, and that are willing to experiment a little, and try to understand your kinkiness. Those are the diamonds in the rough! At that point, it's up to you to help them to understand the need, and what & how you're willing to share your life with them, and how you can return their acceptance in extraordinary ways, as adult partners. It's all about communication.
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Slomo said:
Remember not everyone here has a diaper fetish. In fact, most can probably call it being an ab or dl. For these people (myself included), diapers are an integral part of who we are. They are inexplicably compelled to wearing them for this very reason, and diapers are not what solely bases our sexuality. For us, no matter how much we may want to deny this, we simply can't just "give them up", anymore than if we love someone or not.
The honest truth is that for most of us, diapers are a part of who we are (like it or not). If we attempt to engage in a relationship without fully engaging the whole of us, then we either have to continuously lie to our partners (and to us too), or face the real possibility that relationship simply will not work- even after years of trying to fake it.
...and that's the real truth. The diaper desires do not seem to go away, no matter how much you wish it away, or stop using them for comfort & pleasure. Yes, you can stop wearing. I've done it, but they never left my brain, even if I wasn't wearing anything. Once I was free to wear, my heart's desires came rushing back, and I found myself back in them, being the real me. Decades later, I laugh at all the turmoil I put myself through over diapers. Now, they're just part of what I wear every day, and occasionally I leave them off, just to know why I like to wear... (I feel very naked and unprotected without them...)
