inconsurferdude
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- Incontinent
Brief history:
I've always had to urinate frequently, and wet the bed most nights until college. Still have occasional nighttime accidents, usually when drinking alcohol. Began experiencing stress incontinence three years ago, which I was able to manage with pads (male guards) until a few months ago when I switched to store-brand pull-ups. I still try to use the toilet when I can, but lately I've found myself increasingly reliant on them, which I suspected would happen… and now I'm wondering whether I should just wear diapers, and avoid the hassle of trying to rush to the toilet altogether. I could probably go back to wearing pads (or at least stay in pull-ups), although I don't miss the inconvenience of changing so frequently… especially pads, which I would have to switch out every 45 minutes or so. I wore diapers every night growing up and I still enjoy wearing them to relax, so I'm not necessarily opposed to being diapered full-time. But I also know how much of a commitment it would be… changing in public, managing odor, using powder and vaseline, carrying wet-wipes and a bulky bag everywhere… I guess what it really comes down to is whether I want to accept that I'm basically incontinent… or make a conscious effort to retain some control. Which is exactly how I felt when going from pads to pull-ups. Right now, I feel the urge to urinate every five or ten minutes, along with involuntarily releasing smaller amounts of urine when sneezing, bending at the waist, etc. Fortunately, my co-workers, family, and girlfriend know about my bladder issues… so discretion isn't something I'm too concerned about.
Things I am concerned about:
Odor/smell
I already drink lots of water, but I would imagine that a saturated diaper will have more of an odor than a pull-up. If I start wearing diapers I'll definitely be using powder to help with the smell, but should I consider plastic pants as well, or would that be unnecessary?
Changing
There's a single-stall bathroom across the hall from my office at work, so having a place to change shouldn't generally be a problem. I'm pretty used to changing pull-ups in public, but I've only put on a diaper while laying down. It shouldn't be an issue with practice, though.
Intimacy
My girlfriend and I are fairly spontaneous, and one of the benefits of wearing pads and pull-ups is that undressing is basically the same as with regular underwear. Has anyone felt a decrease in intimacy with their s/o after beginning to wear diapers? My g/f is incredibly understanding, but should I worry that having to un-tape and wipe off powder every time could lead to having less sex, or scheduling sex between changes, etc? And should I expect any change in physical sensation during sex from wearing diapers all day?
Side effects
I usually have four or five small bowel movements a day, almost always while fully emptying my bladder (on the toilet). Will I notice any sort of fecal incontinence, since I basically won't be holding my bladder anymore? Also, because already I go so frequently… is it always a bad idea to have a bowel movement in a diaper instead of using the toilet? Or is that somewhat common? For instance, if I'm walking home in a wet diaper and know that I'm going to change in twenty minutes, is it "acceptable" to mess myself instead of trying to find a public restroom? People who wear diapers for urinary incontinence — how frequently do you mess (if at all) and under what circumstances?
All of the feedback on my first post really helped me think things through… so thanks again in advance! I'll read and reply to every response!
I've always had to urinate frequently, and wet the bed most nights until college. Still have occasional nighttime accidents, usually when drinking alcohol. Began experiencing stress incontinence three years ago, which I was able to manage with pads (male guards) until a few months ago when I switched to store-brand pull-ups. I still try to use the toilet when I can, but lately I've found myself increasingly reliant on them, which I suspected would happen… and now I'm wondering whether I should just wear diapers, and avoid the hassle of trying to rush to the toilet altogether. I could probably go back to wearing pads (or at least stay in pull-ups), although I don't miss the inconvenience of changing so frequently… especially pads, which I would have to switch out every 45 minutes or so. I wore diapers every night growing up and I still enjoy wearing them to relax, so I'm not necessarily opposed to being diapered full-time. But I also know how much of a commitment it would be… changing in public, managing odor, using powder and vaseline, carrying wet-wipes and a bulky bag everywhere… I guess what it really comes down to is whether I want to accept that I'm basically incontinent… or make a conscious effort to retain some control. Which is exactly how I felt when going from pads to pull-ups. Right now, I feel the urge to urinate every five or ten minutes, along with involuntarily releasing smaller amounts of urine when sneezing, bending at the waist, etc. Fortunately, my co-workers, family, and girlfriend know about my bladder issues… so discretion isn't something I'm too concerned about.
Things I am concerned about:
Odor/smell
I already drink lots of water, but I would imagine that a saturated diaper will have more of an odor than a pull-up. If I start wearing diapers I'll definitely be using powder to help with the smell, but should I consider plastic pants as well, or would that be unnecessary?
Changing
There's a single-stall bathroom across the hall from my office at work, so having a place to change shouldn't generally be a problem. I'm pretty used to changing pull-ups in public, but I've only put on a diaper while laying down. It shouldn't be an issue with practice, though.
Intimacy
My girlfriend and I are fairly spontaneous, and one of the benefits of wearing pads and pull-ups is that undressing is basically the same as with regular underwear. Has anyone felt a decrease in intimacy with their s/o after beginning to wear diapers? My g/f is incredibly understanding, but should I worry that having to un-tape and wipe off powder every time could lead to having less sex, or scheduling sex between changes, etc? And should I expect any change in physical sensation during sex from wearing diapers all day?
Side effects
I usually have four or five small bowel movements a day, almost always while fully emptying my bladder (on the toilet). Will I notice any sort of fecal incontinence, since I basically won't be holding my bladder anymore? Also, because already I go so frequently… is it always a bad idea to have a bowel movement in a diaper instead of using the toilet? Or is that somewhat common? For instance, if I'm walking home in a wet diaper and know that I'm going to change in twenty minutes, is it "acceptable" to mess myself instead of trying to find a public restroom? People who wear diapers for urinary incontinence — how frequently do you mess (if at all) and under what circumstances?
All of the feedback on my first post really helped me think things through… so thanks again in advance! I'll read and reply to every response!