New boss as found out that I am an AB Little

Sure, your entitled to a private life. therefore, have them explain the rules and tell them you will comply. No point being confrontational, They probably wish they could forget it as well but have some business reason for going at least this far.

Well,

ok, first off, be very careful talking to people, don't volunteer information...If asked a question a simple yes/no answer is best...don't lie!...

Next off, you may want to contact your lawyer, if you don't have one, calling them and talking to them a bit will help you so much...

As I don't know your employer, your personal situation, and code of conduct rules the may have...I can't be very specific...

I'm not a lawyer, but being a long time business owner, I have some insite into this area for sure...feel free to pm me!

Sorry to hear!

Intresting situation. I'm no lawyer, but I can't really see how they have a legal leg to stand on. You hav'nt done anything wrong. I guess cancelling your tumblr as a gesture of 'good will' could be an option. Good luck!

I know people have lost their jobs for posting about wanting to gas people in Auschwitz (at least in Germany), but for this?
Who told your boss about this and why do they know in the first place?

I'm not really up on UK Law, but yeah, I'd seriously consider contacting solicitor and getting some advice. I'd agree that in theory your private actions unconnected with your employer should not be actionable under common law, but that doesn't make it so. Unless you're unconcerned about losing this job, talk to that solicitor.

I would echo what Maxx said. If you haven't done anything on work time or work equipment, or otherwise aren't any sort of company representative etc, I fail to see how they could possibly have any right to take disciplinary action against you.

What you do in your own time is your own business and if you're perfectly capable of remaining professional during work activities then that shouldn't ever really be a problem. Thankfully in the UK we don't have the nonsense that is at-will employment.

In an at-will state, they can fire you for no reason, and you can quit for no reason. Lots of good that does the good employee that has done nothing wrong, other than perhaps ire a fellow employee who can make any claim (racist, sexual wrongdoing, etc.).

As other have said, it can create a PR nightmare that they don't want to face, with devastating consequences. My main question to you would be, how did you let this happen? I've managed to keep my stuff private for over 50 years of my life. Why didn't privacy & stealth work for you? And, of course, if the employer found out, and your face is out there, others (employers, friends, family, ENEMIES...) will find out, if they persist. Facial recognition software is readily available for anyone to take a known image/photo, and scan the internet for any type of matching photo. That doesn't leave much room for questions, when you're trying for a high paying job, in the public arena. Expect it to happen, and take action to make sure no one can use this stuff against you. That means you have to question the value of posting a facial photograph, tied to ABDL, anywhere on the web. Some could care less, but, obviously, they've already made a choice to be out with it.

Check if your state is a one party consent state for recording conversations. If it is, then bring your phone with you and record your conversation, make sure you have evidence of why you are being punished if you are punished. If you are fired for your private life, you will easily be able to get unemployment that they have to pay for, and you might even be able to push for legal charges of discrimination, but the second is probably a little less likely. Unfortunately employers can fire you for a slew of reasons just because they feel like it but luckily they do have to deal with the consequences of paying you without you working. Do everything you can to gather evidence though, even if you are in a two party consent state and have to tell your boss you would like to record the conversation. (edit: it looks like you are in the UK, I have no idea what the recording and unemployment laws are there, but still not a bad idea to compile evidence).

I agree with Tyger. Gather evidence. I would argue that firing you for your sexual orientation is discrimination.

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I agree with Tyger. Gather evidence. I would argue that firing you for your sexual orientation is discrimination.

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Being ab/dl is not a sexual orientation however. It might be a fetish, but is not an orientation.

Let this serve as a warning to littles on Tumblr. Do not post personal pictures--and if you still insist, at least block out your face.

Stuff like this becomes a problem if they can show that you represent their company, even in activities you do in your private life. Then they can say they are being harmed by your presence.

Sisi, as I've often said, a word of caution taking legal advice from the Internet, especially as I believe you don't live in the same country as most of the folks offering advice here.

My (not legal) advice is to be clear and polite in the meeting, and to ask for a copy of any feedback on this issue in writing.

You may want to consult a lawyer after the meeting if it goes badly, to help you understand the options available to you.

I have a degree that is considered a position of trust with vulnerable clients.

This is why I share here but have nothing in my profile.

I am 'out' with anyone close to me so it is a pragmatic thing, not a shame thing.

Many years ago it was bought to the attention of an employer that I used drugs on my own private time.

Thankfully it was a union job and the union backed me 100 percent.

Where I am in Canada, what you do on your own time is your own business if it does not impact your ability to do your job.

My employment record was flawless and the employer lost their case.

I am not in your country and not a lawyer but my personal experience is that employers sometimes don't understand employment law.

They may not have liked my drug use (replaced for years by accepting my a/b side) but despite my actions being illegal, they had no impact on my job performance and my employer had no right to bring up what I do on my own time.

A/b is far down the ladder from drugs. Odd? Perhaps. Harmful; no.

Talk to a lawyer in employment law if they don't drop the issue.

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All I have done is talk about age regression to colleagues that ask and i have shown them images of Little at play.

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Why?
I have no words to describe how unthinkable it is to me on why you would think it's a good idea to talk to colleagues about it, even if they did ask. Even more so on showing them images x.x.

Non of the images are pornographic or show nudity.

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I don't think it really matters. It's unprofessional to be talking and showing images to your colleagues.

So the allegations of me posting inappropriate images on social media while in the workplace. I fell is false. Who ever the conversations I had are not work related and we are not really ment to be on social media will working.

Which is fair enough.

How ever to my knowlige I have not mention my company's name on any of the social media.

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Well, if you are using social media while working, that is also a big no no. Not only that, but if you are using their net to do it, their company names doesn't have to be on it. It's unlikely, but it's entirely possible for your IP to be logged, and for it to be traced back to that company. Now if you are using your phone and your own service that is fine then. But still, again why are you using social media at work when you shouldn't be.

Now in most cases it probably be a slap on the wrist, but since we are talking about this specific topic, it's a very different matter. This sort of stuff should be kept personal and entirely out of work.

I will let everyone know how it goes.

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Well, I wish you luck. Maybe if things are explained well and talked over. Might just be told to not do it anymore and be given a warning.

All I have done is talk about age regression to colleagues that ask and i have shown them images of Little at play.

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The problem with this is that it may have made one of your colleagues feel uncomfortable, which may have caused them to mention it to the new manager, or maybe a busy body heard about it or overheard your colleagues talking about it which caused them to mention it to your manager.

Non of the images are pornographic or show nudity.

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They may not be but since littles are linked to BDSM by many vanillas they still class it as kink and fetish and therefore inappropriate.


However,

You do have a right to a private life, so if they do discriminate against you purely on the basis of your private social media, providing the companies name has not been mentioned anywhere that could be linked to ABDL or your tumblr profile, then they may be breaching your right to a private life which is a breach of both the human rights act and UK law.

Employers do have a right to monitor communications in the workplace, however, they must make you aware that you are being monitored beforehand.
You have the right to see any information held about you, like emails or CCTV footage.

However, again your right to a private life means you do have the right to some privacy in the workplace, if your employer fails to acknowledge this then again, they could be in breach of both the human rights act and UK law.

Also, please check the disciplinary procedure outlined in your contract, an employer MUST follow this procedure before they can dismiss you, failure in following this procedure would allow you to pursue them for unfair dismissal providing you have been employed for 2 years.

Also, I would check your companies social media and internet policies.

I am a UK law student however I would also consult a solicitor depending on how the meeting goes on Monday, good luck!