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    About 2 weeks ago I started searching for a counselor that would help me to stop wanting to wear diapers. Yes I know people, it's a part of me but myself I feel that I can't move on in my life with this over my head. So next week will be the 3rd session with my counselor, she is very great and very supportive. I have noticed that I have opened up to her like no one else in my life, not even my own mother where I could tell my mom anything, but I couldn't tell her my about my diapers.

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    I have tried to give up diapers many times, but failed each time. My longest was about 2 years, but the desire came back strong. Granted, I never sought "professional" help to rid myself of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Idaho View Post
    About 2 weeks ago I started searching for a counselor that would help me to stop wanting to wear diapers. Yes I know people, it's a part of me but myself I feel that I can't move on in my life with this over my head. So next week will be the 3rd session with my counselor, she is very great and very supportive. I have noticed that I have opened up to her like no one else in my life, not even my own mother where I could tell my mom anything, but I couldn't tell her my about my diapers.

    Idaho, I more than understand where you are coming from. I have been in your shoes numerous times and for a great number of years was so frustrated with this part of myself and wanted to be rid of it and move on in my life.

    While I am not saying it is impossible to do this, it is certainly highly unlikely. You can reject these feelings and abandon them for years, but ultimately, the deep rooted interests rise up again. I have personally quit all ABDL interests for a 2 and a half year period, but ultimately I found myself again engaged in participation of this interest. What I found was that I am able to control my actions regarding this interest, but the thoughts and strong feelings are deep inside of me and are part of who I am. They are as strongly rooted as my spiritual beliefs and so much a part of who I am.

    There was a time I was so ashamed with who I was and I hated myself for having this interest. I felt I was some sort of freak and couldn't stand that I did these things, but yet I still couldn't shake them.

    After many years of experience, I have come to realize that these feelings are not a bad thing. They are part of who I am, and part of what makes me uniquely me. I actually and fully now understand that I am a better person because of these feelings. I am so much more able to understand others and I am more compassionate, caring, and have a bigger and broader perspective of humanity that I would otherwise have. It is something that, while I don't share in public settings, I am proud of and see the strengths in myself that exist because of it.

    I admire your efforts to talk with others about this. I think that talking with counselors is a good thing, in that they can help you in some ways. Being able to talk to someone about this is a huge benefit, and I applaud ADISC for being here, because this is a forum where you truly can express yourself in a safe manner and you are among others who understand. But, while counselors may be trained in psychology, unless they actually are ABDL themselves, they are not going to be able to fully understand your interests.

    I wish you the best in your efforts. But at the same time offer a welcoming hug if you find that you are not able to abandon these interests. You will not be adersely judged by others should you ultimately find you can't fully give up your ABDL interests. Rather, you are among friends here who do care about you as a person and many who have already been through the same things you are experiencing now.

    My best advice that I can offer is to take a deep look into yourself, and see yourself for all of the strengths and abilities that you have. Consider the relationship that you have with these strengths and attributes and understand that you are not less of a person for having an ABDL interest. I am not going to tell you to not try to abandon this interest if you truly want to. That is your choice. But I will pray that you may accept who you are regardless if you are successful in abandoning this interest or not.

    You are uniquely you and you should be proud of who you are.



    TeddyBearCowboy

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    I am incontinent and dependant on nappies but have become unashamedly DL as a result. I couldn't imagine not wearing nappies now and if my incontinence could be cured which sadly it can not. I would find it very difficult to give up wearing nappies as they are just part of who I am now and it just feels so natural to wear them all the time.

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    Thanks everyone, I believe I can require myself with professional help to have a different sexual fetish. Because I started to wet the bed at the age of 13-14 after some major trauma. It only lasted for about a year but of course that was the perfect time because I was at that age that I was masterbating multiple times a day because of the change of puberty. So I believe I can start moving diapers out of my life little by little while replacing it with some other fetish that I think is better for me and a future relationship.

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    Have you considered just trying to remove the sexual diaper fetish, but leaving the diaper lover part intact? You know you CAN actually enjoy diapers without them being sexual. In fact, a big majority here, including all AB and DL's do not have a fetish at all. Sure it often includes some sexuality component for most, but that hardly makes loving diapers a fetish.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Slomo View Post
    Have you considered just trying to remove the sexual diaper fetish, but leaving the diaper lover part intact? You know you CAN actually enjoy diapers without them being sexual. In fact, a big majority here, including all AB and DL's do not have a fetish at all. Sure it often includes some sexuality component for most, but that hardly makes loving diapers a fetish.
    ^I do but when it wares off it is just nice to read about them. Through out my years I have had cross overs still involving the not safe for work fantasy with a nappy and it has changed from not just fantasying about a nappy in a not safe for work way. But I am just a minority not a majority. NOT everyone is obsessed and has high functioning Autism like me. I do not know why I put that in probably because I am proud to be autistic.^



    Quote Originally Posted by Idaho
    Thanks everyone, I believe I can require myself with professional help to have a different sexual fetish. Because I started to wet the bed at the age of 13-14 after some major trauma. It only lasted for about a year but of course that was the perfect time because I was at that age that I was masterbating multiple times a day because of the change of puberty. So I believe I can start moving diapers out of my life little by little while replacing it with some other fetish that I think is better for me and a future relationship.
    Just because what you say here Idaho keep it PG 13 rule 2 ToS.
    Though I think you can use the word fetish. I think it you could have worded it slightly better by saying. "It only lasted for about a year but of course that was the perfect time because I was going though the teenage change." Or going though the change. I am not mad I am just warning you.


    TeddyBearCowboy is right though and I have a simler story

    I went through a stage thinking that mummy was not happy with me and because I am religes God was not happy with me ether. So I deleated all my babyfur stuff and diaper stuff from my account and felt a little better. But the feeling came back and I decided to make a abdl account on google+
    But after a while I felt the guilt that God was not happy with me and he was bugging me to get rid of it so I did. I kept the gmail.

    but food is ready

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angellothefox View Post


    Just because what you say here Idaho keep it PG 13 rule 2 ToS.
    Though I think you can use the word fetish. I think it you could have worded it slightly better by saying. "It only lasted for about a year but of course that was the perfect time because I was going though the teenage change." Or going though the change. I am not mad I am just warning you.

    There's nothing wrong with the words puberty, masturbation, or fetish. It's not against the PG-13 rule to talk about sexual topics, it's only against the rules to get really graphic about it.

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    It took a long time for me to open up about diapers to my councoler, turned out she put me on stronger medicine. I dont suggest telling them if they do not HAVE to know

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