It may have been written 5 years ago, and very likely has been posted here in the past, but I just read this article on Psychology Today about how to bring it up to your significant other to share in the fun.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...ish-or-fantasy

There's always a number of "how do I tell them" threads on here, I'd suggest giving this a read. It's rather straightforward and doesn't pull any punches, although it is more technical than narrative, I (as a tech guy) appreciate that approach quite a bit