Trevor said:
I would consider more fundamentally what you hope to achieve from telling and whether it is at all likely that those things are likely to be achieved. I start from a default position of non-disclosure but I have seen situations where it is best to tell. I tend to think that we're both over and under cautious and the situations may not warrant that particular overreaction. Give it some serious thought. It's surely not worth it if you're going to move out before long.
I agree wholeheartedly with what Trevor says. Sometimes, we get an urge to "come clean" about our secrets, but you need to decide why this is.
Is it a desire to wear 24/7, and embrace your baby side openly in front of her? If so, then yes, you need to speak up.
But if it's only a feeling of misplaced guilt, bought on because you feel like you have naughty secrets that she doesn't know about, then I'd urge you to ask yourself, does she NEED to know about it.
Imagine if your mother has a secret fetish of her own. How would you feel if she decided to tell YOU about it? There are some things that just don't need to be shared, if there's no reason to do so.
If you're an adult, or even close to being one, you have a right to your own secrets and privacy, with the obvious exception being if you are doing harm to yourself or others.
Yes, it is her house, her rules, but if you're enjoying harmless fun on your own by regressing, and it's not hurting anyone, then I wouldn't be in a rush to openly share something that may have negative repercussions on your relationship with her.
But, as I said before, if you are tearing yourself up inside because you aren't happy with flying under the radar, speak calmly, honestly and rationally with her. But be prepared for the possibility of a negative reaction.
When I was with my wife, she knew I had a thing for women wetting their pants, but she didn't, and therefore never deliberately indulged me with it. If she did have an accident, she'd usually tell me, but she wouldn't do it on purpose.
I never told her how much I liked wetting my own pants, and knowing her reaction would be negative, and our relationship wouldn't gain anything, I didn't tell her.
In the end, I was quite happy to just wet myself in the shower before doing laundry, or take advantage of any alone time that I had to perhaps do it outside or something.
It was the same with diapers. I told her once that I'd like us to experiment with them, and I liked the thought of her wearing one. But she flat out refused. So I'd buy my own, hide them well, and use them when she was out.
It wasn't ideal, but telling her that I had them, and enjoyed wearing them, would have only had negative consequences, so I kept them a secret.
It wasn't beneficial to our relationship for me to bring these subjects up.
But, if my desire to wear them had of become so all encompassing that I felt like I really needed to do it, then I would have told her, for my own happiness. It was just that I didn't need to do it full time to be happy. I was, and am, happy to wear occasionally, and in private.
Good luck b