I have pretty much come to the conclusion that if I want to wear, most of the time it will be a secret. Knowing my wife's odd schedule at times due to her retail job, If I time it right, I can diaper up either well before she hits the bed or well after. This way on a weekend when I am off and she needs to be at work early, she gets up (with me still in bed) and never realizes I am padded. It also helps to wear close fitting long briefs with a boxer over that. No obvious visual sign of the diaper. It has worked for me for years now and just makes wearing more of a planned event that keeps me on my toes. The challenge is when she has a closing shift and does not go in early. That morning, I have to be more stealthy and possibly change out early if I get up, or wait until she showers to make a quick change (I always keep a plastic bag in the closet for a quick ditch of a dirty diaper). Only during "that time of the month" for her, do I more openly wear (never flaunting of course). It is my free time when I know she is not interested in any other activity that the diaper may get in the way, if you know what i mean. Luckily, she does not go through my stuff (as far as I know) or questions my stash in my closet. Again, I do not keep in sight, but she knows it is in there.