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    Question Diapers and shame

    Hello guys,

    First of all, i love wearing diapers, i'm mostly a DL but also slightly AB (got some dolls i really love and like to play little sometimes). I have one problem with wearing diapers though, and that is this: Everytime i wear a diaper and decide to
    orgasm i always, always get really embarrassed directly after it. Then i think like:
    How disgusting am i, and why the **** did i do this and stuff like that.
    I only have this when i have done a thing with diapers though, for instance,
    as long as it doesn't have to do with diapers i don't get embarresed from it.
    I've learned to accept that i'm a DL by now and that i do also (sexually) like to
    use my diaper, which i didn't want to accept in the past.

    Can anyone help me to overcome this problem?

    Thanks in advance,

    Saga.

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    I definitely used to have that guilt when I first started to indulge in my DL side. I don't have any advice to overcome it, but I can tell you that my guilt went away little by little and now I have no guilt for wearing/using (sexually or non sexually) my diapers. Well, there is still the little guilt I have knowing that my wife hates that I like to wear diapers, but that's more a her thing rather than a me thing.

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    sometimes that can be the pleasure. It feeds into the heightened emotion. I personally feel more anxious about leakage an smells as I always wet spontaneously (without me knowing I am doing it) and have the occasional series of spontaneous orgasms too. Then the fear kicks in, but its only a problem if you let it be one... I guess. The only other thing is to know when to indulge and when not to.

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    This is a known thing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-coital_tristesse

    It used to weigh heavily on me but not anymore. At some point, I just accepted that it's weird but that's okay. Everyone has unique preferences and ones like these are perfectly fine to express on your own or with other consenting adults. Have fun!

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    Ok,

    There are many issues to confront here. I have worn nappies 24/7 for just over 5 years, I have a girlfriend who wets at night with me. We are all adults, I have to wear, but also get highly aroused when wearing, she just wears and wets as it saves her using the toilet at night and she sleeps better.

    However, it likes anything in life. Something that is deemed as a fetish (When people who look in don't understand), can and all make you feel a little degraded after you have climaxed. Its like those people who chest in relationships, people who watch porn, its human nature and nothing to be ashamed of.

    NONE of us should ever feel one iota of guilt about wearing, it does hurt anyone, it makes my life easier. I have got to the stage in my life now, where i don't advertise it, but I don't give a monkeys if someone sees it, I always carry my girlfriends handbag into the disabled toilet to change, when confronted again not two weeks ago by an elderly couple, i told them I was off to change my nappy.....they didn't know what to do with themselves.

    Believe me, people are far more embarrassed about the whole thing if your blunt, so don't feel guilt or shame, nothing to warrant that!

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    I approach it by looking at the source of the conditioning and ideas from others that there's something wrong about it. It's something foreign and I put my foot down on accepting others' issues with the world as my own. It might involve having to question your basic respect for people who push this in your life. I don't know any other way to get around the choice of being under their thumb or being authentic and accepting of yourself.

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    I wouldn't say "I'm off to change my nappy" if I were you, it sound like estabishitism and that you are rubbing this into people's faces, don't get offended but just saying. I would simply say "back in about 15 minutes" instead of I was going to change.

    I am simply being blunt by telling you that saying "I'm going to change my nappy" is too much information, especially the fact you called your incontinece wear a "nappy" which is name usually reserved for baby and toddler incontinece wear, I wouldn't walk into the pharmacy and ask for "adult nappies", for me saying the word "nappies" or "nappy" when you are clearly not talking about getting any for a baby or toddler, means that person has a fetish and it sounds creepy. There again I don't to offend you, I want to save you from being teased, harassed, laughed at or even worse accused of pedophilia and taken to court. I don't want to argue since everybody here is like a friend to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angelic View Post
    I wouldn't say "I'm off to change my nappy" if I were you, it sound like estabishitism and that you are rubbing this into people's faces, don't get offended but just saying. I would simply say "back in about 15 minutes" instead of I was going to change.

    I am simply being blunt by telling you that saying "I'm going to change my nappy" is too much information, especially the fact you called your incontinece wear a "nappy" which is name usually reserved for baby and toddler incontinece wear, I wouldn't walk into the pharmacy and ask for "adult nappies", for me saying the word "nappies" or "nappy" when you are clearly not talking about getting any for a baby or toddler, means that person has a fetish and it sounds creepy. There again I don't to offend you, I want to save you from being teased, harassed, laughed at or even worse accused of pedophilia and taken to court. I don't want to argue since everybody here is like a friend to me.
    I don't like the word Diaper, I wear adult nappies as I'm English. It's what I wear, I'm not ashamed of it, I don't tell people, but I'm also not ashamed if asked and especially for those who wonder why people without a physical disability should be using a disabled toilet.

    I could not and no one on here would ever be taken to court for wearing a "Nappy", its what my continence nurse calls them, its nothing to do with children, its a product that i have to wear, end of.

    If people want to make fun of us for wean nappies, diapers, pads or whatever our pet names for them are, then let them. I have never been afraid of what i am and what i have to wear and its great fun to see the shock and embarrassment on their faces when someone looks into my girlfriends handbag and see an adult nappy and doesn't know how to react.

    The world is normally to busy to even take notice of what we wear and how we sue them, but for those nosey folk who like to stick their two pence worth it, I always give as good as i get x

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    I think this is typical behavior for younger diaper wearers. It certainly was for me, but as Trevor said, it weakens as we get older. I think repetition of wearing, using and masturbating makes it easier to accept one's self. Now, after that pleasurable moment, I take my diaper off and get cleaned up, but I'm usually diapered the next day. It's not because of acceptance, but diminished desire. The desire returns the next day. You'll eventually get there.

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    lots of us go through it Saga, usually when we are younger but the highs and lows balance out as you get older and stop being both as influenced by what you might think the majority accept and crashing at the end of a climax.

    We accept you here BTW, enjoy your diapers (heaven knows you are stuck with them now) and just let the useless guilt slide off you when you realise how wonderfully convenient diapers can be for absorbing even that kind of mess.

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