Sometimes I wear them as pull ups and others I tear at the sides and use the tabs like a diaper. I've noticed no problems either way. I prefer my Dependecos in term of comfy but these diapers have kept me dry at night so can't complain about them.
Your using Certainty diapers too, zipperless? I tried pooping tonight (my stomach was upset so it didn't take much of a push) and it held okay. I don't do it often because I don't like it and my reason for wearing is because of my weak bladder.
It isn't hard to wear in public. Only way anybody will know your wearing is if you show your uncomfortable or nervous. Like someone mentioned earlier, I doubt people are really staring at your crotch or booty.
Open packages of diapers aren't the same as opened packages of underwear, just sayin.. the diapers may have just not been the right fit for the person they were purchased for and instead of just throwing the package away they donated the rest of the unused ones. Underwear would be a much more...