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EverThePaddedRunt, I know a number of ABDLs, some in relationships and some single, and I have yet to meet anyone in real life who actually lives 24/7 as someone's little. In my experience, for most couples where ABDL is part of their dynamic, the 24/7 part comes from small things and reminders...

dl4love, it sounds like you are on a good path -- that of love and acceptance of yourself and your ABDL side/desires. As most people in our community will tell you, these desires never go away, so learning to accept them and find healthy outlets for yourself are some of the first steps on the...

Hello everyone, When I see threads like this, one of the recurring themes seems to be that members of the ABDL community are looking for validation and acceptance. I have been very, very fortunate in that I have a partner who accepts me entirely, and my ABDL is simply a fact of our...

Hi Kayleigh, There is a lot of good advice here already. My experience was that I went to some "typical" therapists for other issues but when I broached the subject of ABDL, they weren't sure what to do with me and leading up to coming out about this to them was a personal hurdle. It was when I...

I’ve followed this thread and others like it with interest on ADISC. There seems to be this perennial question along the lines of “when will the ABDL community find broader acceptance?” Before I give my thoughts, a few important things: Let it first be acknowledged that when members of the...

Just wanted to express my gratitude again for this forum and the people who reached out to me and made me feel less alone a few years ago when I really needed it. ADISC was one of the first places I felt seen and heard and understood about this side of me and I’ll always be grateful for that...

Hi Babyman1224, Just wanted to say a few brief things in relation to your post. I'm glad you've found someone who accepts you for who you are - I, too, have been through divorce, and while ABDL is not why the divorce happened, my ex never did understand this side of me and was repulsed by it...

Hello Thedafthatter, My experience has been that some people do find their partners on FetLife, but typically that is because they met at a munch or event and hit it off. Many of us find our partners outside of Fet - my partner was not on Fet and I met her through more typical dating sites. I...

Hello Jellytots, So, I have read and seen that sort of "statistic" (90% male, 10% female) for ABDL talked about a lot of places, but I've found in reality the gender ratios are not so skewed (here I'm using gender to mean how someone identifies in their day to day life). In my experience, part...

Hi Veren, First, there's some very good advice here already. My experience has been that the key to so much of this is communication with a partner or potential partner early on about what you need. And in order to do that, you have to be feeling okay and comfortable with yourself and this...

Hi isabella, I guess it depends on what we mean by "fetish." For some people, a fetish is just something they're curious to try. For other people, a fetish is something that is a core part of their sexuality and/or identity. I think for the ABDL community, we are often too quick to neglect our...

Hi WhyDoIFeelShame, There is a lot of a good advice on this thread. If I could add to this already great advice, in my experience, if someone loves you then they will accept all of you, including the private and vulnerable parts. But you first have to love yourself, including your ABDL side. I...

Hi everyone, Lot's of good advice already. And this will sound like a broken record to some, but really, for now at least you have to go on FetLife and find friends and events. I say this as someone who previously had no desire to go on Fet and thought it was fairly terrifying. But there are...

Hi Edith, I know you're reaching out to us for advice, and that is indeed what ADISC is here for. I wanted to be blunt with you, not to cause more grief or anxiety, but to make you both think very carefully about this aspect of your lives. As a lifelong ABDL who took a long time to get to...