Recent content by dayannight

Understand, but "love me love my diaper" is a big ask. I get my diapers (nappies) from Amazon in the UK and they are delivered in the same brown cardboard boxes as everything else. Years ago Drylife were not very good about sending out orders quickly, but these days everything i get from...

The embarrassment thing is very real- but so is the reality of not many people -especially strangers bothering much. Before I was IC I did realise one or two people i came across were wearing pads or diapers. My reaction then was "good for them,they have a way to cope and are getting on with...

I agree with a lot of what has been said already and especially agree that we have the right to define our own selves as long as we don't harm others. I think it might be good to keep an open mind about life being a journey and it is just possible my incontinence may go away, or that your...

I need constant leak and intermittent bigger wetting protection and agree that a good diaper - and Tena are effective and affordable - is the way to go. Possibly people like the OP's mum are swayed by the advertising that tries to depict adult pull ups as somehow not being a diaper which it...

We were sensitive about people seeing onesies or cloth diapers around the house or drying on the line. A long tee shirt is good for making. sure the diaper waistband is not on display. especially if tucked into briefs or boxers.Agree folk take knowing about inco in friends and colleagues well...

Don't worry - no one will notice and won't be sure its a diaper if they do- the tell tale sign to be aware of is the plastic waist band showing above your pants. Best to tuck something in to cover that.

I spent a lot of my teen/young adult worrying about wetting the bed - especially if it was someone else's. When I got married I admitted this to my wife and she surprised me by saying she had been wanting to share her anxiety with me. Neither of us had more than a very sporadic problem at the...

Disaster can come quickly when you are at sea! I usually reckon I have got my protection sorted out well, but this morning I was woken by a phone call early. I had to answer it but with my other hand patted my diaper which felt full. I was also kind of aware I was dribbling but wasn't sure...

This is a long and deep thread. I won't foist my views on anyone else but it seems to me there are lots of situations where personally damaging actions are taken voluntarily but under a compulsion that is at the time irresistible. Driving too fast for a thrill, getting drunk, taking drugs...

I remember that in the early years of my incontinence when I was managing without diapers the first intimation I sometimes had of pee accident was feeling my lower leg was wet. This was difficult to cope with but didn't happen too often. Once I accepted the need for diapers I often knew when I...

Like ST50 I have diabetes and my symptoms are like those described - but it is wrong to make our own diagnosis and because the cause is elusive does not mean it cannot be identified and if identified could well be susceptible to treatment. What is important (understanding that incontinence...

A week is not too long and in my personal experience incontinence is not a stable state - it varies and you need to keep a record if you really want to understand short term changes and long term trends. I have been inco for long enough to know that using the diaper for what it is made for is...

These things happen and the real causes are often not as bad as we fear. The hugs are the important things as is managing the "symptoms" as well as possible so you are not constantly worrying about protection failing etc . If your protection does fail, try something else - there are no brownie...

All sorts of practitioners are against penile clamps of any sort because of complications if they are left on etc. Swim diapers are designed not to balloon up in pools or the sea. But don't get the idea non-incontinent people never pee in the water!

This is a very complex subject. I think being toilet trained is a basic life skill which should be achieved as effectively as possible without the stress of over-expectation that marked previous generations. At the same time for kids where - for whatever reason "it doesn't work" diapers are...