WARNING: This is just me venting out and trying to explain my sittuation out of desesperated seek for understanding of some sort. Is very centered about me, so if it wasn't what you were looking for. Just don't waste your time and look for something more interesting somewhere else.
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For the last 3 weeks I've been struggling hard with myself. I read a story and from it realize I want more from life than what I've use to tell myself.
That made me realize I actually want to embrace parts of me that I tend to ignore and shame. Parts like my depression, my fears, my shames, my desires on abdl.
Having always repressed this sides of me, I'm unable to understand what I'm supposed to do.
I want to open up. To be able to accept it, but I can't. One of my inner voices keeps shaming me. That I shouldn't get close to people. That I'll only get hurt. That letting my child side is ridiculous. That my desire of belonging somewhere, being love, have a truth connection with others, that all that is nothing but a temporary desire that will fade and come back next month, but surely can be ignore.
I want to have friends who I can really connect with. I want to find love. I want to feel I belong somewhere. I want to connect. I want to live... But I can't.
My mind is split about this. I'm multiple people at once. And the one who wants the isolation and shames me for my weakness is the strongest of the bunch.
I'm trying to look for help. Start going to a psychoterapist or something, but I don't feel that's enought. Because after all there's my little side that I can't accept and I can't talk about with anyone.
I have mental disorders. I don't know which ones anymore. Borderline Personality Disorder from what I've seen is a almost certain. Can't confirm.
Depression is an awful positive. Don't need someone to test me on that. I definitively suffer it.
There's been some Autism Spectrum Disorder mentioned here and there, but I don't know for sure.
Some Obsesive Compulsive Disorder.
When I was a kid I was kind of asocial. When I was 12 the depression start to set in. I isolated myself even more. I actually stopped going to school, not even home school.
Pretty much I stayed home without any actual school or anything at all since 12 until I became 18 and left my home country.
So is no surprise I'm socially ackward. That I actually don't try to interact with others. I'm not use to and is not the norm for me. I lived in my own world for years and now I feel more alone than ever. I've never actually belong anywhere and if it was only that it wouldn't be a problem, but stories, movies, series, books, anime, manga, comics, videogames, all that shows you the world from someone elses perspective.
That's how I saw the world. That's with what I grow up with exclusively. And that's were my desires of belonging comes from.
I've always feel no one cares and so far I haven't seen anything that proves otherwise. People live their own lives in their own corner of the world. With the people they know and care for. Those outside that corner they don't really care. They might eventually make them be part of their little corner, but for the most part no one really cares for an unknown nobody.
I have no experience getting myself be known. I don't know how to start a relation of any kind. I feel the need of social interaction like anyone but because I'm so use to not actually seek for interaction with others I just don't. Even when I want to. I don't.
I overthink everything because after so many years of lonely contemplation there's really nothing else you can do. So before I even considerate opening my mouth I already found 10 reasons why is stupid to even said hi. To even try to interact with someone. So I don't.
One of the worst side effects of having live isolated is how self-centered and needy I am. I actually only found out about this a week ago. Someone I randomly decided to chat with told me so. It hurt, because is so true.
I do care for others but I'm unknown to how to prove it. I don't know how to even do small talk. I can only talk about something specific and usually that burns me out because of how not use to I am to talking with people.
I don't really know people very well. There's my family and I know the basic but there's so much to people that takes much more effort to actually understand and I'm so inexperienced to people that I don't really know those around me.
To begin with I avoid interacting with them for the most part. And when I am with my family I don't really talk. If I try is a subject no ones really into and because their in their own conversation I just shut up and stayed quiet.
With kids is easier. They just play and I play with them. But even that tires me out. Not so much physically as it does socially. Because I'm just not use to it.
If I talk it usually is about me. I've had an online friend for years and we talk about video games and anime but when it was personal it was really ackward. I usually just stopped talking. And sometimes when I actually went along I couldn't understand what he meant. And because I could just run away anytime I did it a lot.
Running away is very common for me. Instead of encountering something hard I just run away.
There's been people that had tried to get close to me but I subconsciously scare them away or simple dissapear. Even if at one point I wanted to actually get close to them there's a part of my brain that literally forces me scare them of and/or run away.
I've wished to have a best friend all my life. Yet because my mind build itself during all those years of loneliness towars isolation, it forces me to always seek for isolation no matter what. It always finds a way of making me go back to being alone.
Be it either by scaring me of. By making me feel I'm not worth it. By justifying the reasons. By distracting me. By creating imposible goals that knows I'll fall into just to realize they were impossible and nothing more than a excuse to make me avoid whatever it was that I was avoiding without even realizing.
My dream is to find a daddy and feel that beautiful love I read in stories. That strong connection that is more than just lovers or friends.
To have friends whom I can actually connect with. That I can actually see for who they are and not for what they can provide me or what I want to believe they are.
To live my everyday life feeling that every day is worth living. That everything I do is not a waste of time.
To be loved. To love. To belong. To be happy and sad and all emotions that come with being alive.
Because after all these years of isolation I don't know if I'm even alive. Reality itself feels so unreal. When I accidentally touch someone for whatever reason I can't feel a thing. Like their just an ilussion. I don't feel the warmth that many describe in stories and stuff. When I speak with someone I don't feel they can actually listen to anything I say. When I'm outside and see the sky and the trees they feel fake. That they're not really there.
I feel I'm trapped in a dream or nightmare. Unable to know what real life feels like. If I'm not seeing life through someone elses eyes then life itself doesn't feel real to me. (by that I mean, seeing things through a story, movie, book, etc.)
To stopped me from saying more.
If you're wondering what's the point of all this nonesense. I don't know. A cry for help. Me trying to vent out. Trying to see if anything can change despite knowing that's just unrealistic. Maybe I just want to hear the cliche answers I would normally expect or seeing that no one answers at all. Maybe is all to satisfy my inner voice with satisfaction, because know one cares just like it says, because no one listens, because the voice is right and I shouldn't fight it anymore and just exist in a state that I can't really call living. A state of disconection from others. Only able to see or feel throught out the perspective of others.
Whatever. You're really dumb if you really read all that. Pretty depressive and there's nothing anyone can do about it. Despite how much I wish there was someone who could. My destined one who comes and saves me from being dead in life. Whatever.
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For the last 3 weeks I've been struggling hard with myself. I read a story and from it realize I want more from life than what I've use to tell myself.
That made me realize I actually want to embrace parts of me that I tend to ignore and shame. Parts like my depression, my fears, my shames, my desires on abdl.
Having always repressed this sides of me, I'm unable to understand what I'm supposed to do.
I want to open up. To be able to accept it, but I can't. One of my inner voices keeps shaming me. That I shouldn't get close to people. That I'll only get hurt. That letting my child side is ridiculous. That my desire of belonging somewhere, being love, have a truth connection with others, that all that is nothing but a temporary desire that will fade and come back next month, but surely can be ignore.
I want to have friends who I can really connect with. I want to find love. I want to feel I belong somewhere. I want to connect. I want to live... But I can't.
My mind is split about this. I'm multiple people at once. And the one who wants the isolation and shames me for my weakness is the strongest of the bunch.
I'm trying to look for help. Start going to a psychoterapist or something, but I don't feel that's enought. Because after all there's my little side that I can't accept and I can't talk about with anyone.
I have mental disorders. I don't know which ones anymore. Borderline Personality Disorder from what I've seen is a almost certain. Can't confirm.
Depression is an awful positive. Don't need someone to test me on that. I definitively suffer it.
There's been some Autism Spectrum Disorder mentioned here and there, but I don't know for sure.
Some Obsesive Compulsive Disorder.
When I was a kid I was kind of asocial. When I was 12 the depression start to set in. I isolated myself even more. I actually stopped going to school, not even home school.
Pretty much I stayed home without any actual school or anything at all since 12 until I became 18 and left my home country.
So is no surprise I'm socially ackward. That I actually don't try to interact with others. I'm not use to and is not the norm for me. I lived in my own world for years and now I feel more alone than ever. I've never actually belong anywhere and if it was only that it wouldn't be a problem, but stories, movies, series, books, anime, manga, comics, videogames, all that shows you the world from someone elses perspective.
That's how I saw the world. That's with what I grow up with exclusively. And that's were my desires of belonging comes from.
I've always feel no one cares and so far I haven't seen anything that proves otherwise. People live their own lives in their own corner of the world. With the people they know and care for. Those outside that corner they don't really care. They might eventually make them be part of their little corner, but for the most part no one really cares for an unknown nobody.
I have no experience getting myself be known. I don't know how to start a relation of any kind. I feel the need of social interaction like anyone but because I'm so use to not actually seek for interaction with others I just don't. Even when I want to. I don't.
I overthink everything because after so many years of lonely contemplation there's really nothing else you can do. So before I even considerate opening my mouth I already found 10 reasons why is stupid to even said hi. To even try to interact with someone. So I don't.
One of the worst side effects of having live isolated is how self-centered and needy I am. I actually only found out about this a week ago. Someone I randomly decided to chat with told me so. It hurt, because is so true.
I do care for others but I'm unknown to how to prove it. I don't know how to even do small talk. I can only talk about something specific and usually that burns me out because of how not use to I am to talking with people.
I don't really know people very well. There's my family and I know the basic but there's so much to people that takes much more effort to actually understand and I'm so inexperienced to people that I don't really know those around me.
To begin with I avoid interacting with them for the most part. And when I am with my family I don't really talk. If I try is a subject no ones really into and because their in their own conversation I just shut up and stayed quiet.
With kids is easier. They just play and I play with them. But even that tires me out. Not so much physically as it does socially. Because I'm just not use to it.
If I talk it usually is about me. I've had an online friend for years and we talk about video games and anime but when it was personal it was really ackward. I usually just stopped talking. And sometimes when I actually went along I couldn't understand what he meant. And because I could just run away anytime I did it a lot.
Running away is very common for me. Instead of encountering something hard I just run away.
There's been people that had tried to get close to me but I subconsciously scare them away or simple dissapear. Even if at one point I wanted to actually get close to them there's a part of my brain that literally forces me scare them of and/or run away.
I've wished to have a best friend all my life. Yet because my mind build itself during all those years of loneliness towars isolation, it forces me to always seek for isolation no matter what. It always finds a way of making me go back to being alone.
Be it either by scaring me of. By making me feel I'm not worth it. By justifying the reasons. By distracting me. By creating imposible goals that knows I'll fall into just to realize they were impossible and nothing more than a excuse to make me avoid whatever it was that I was avoiding without even realizing.
My dream is to find a daddy and feel that beautiful love I read in stories. That strong connection that is more than just lovers or friends.
To have friends whom I can actually connect with. That I can actually see for who they are and not for what they can provide me or what I want to believe they are.
To live my everyday life feeling that every day is worth living. That everything I do is not a waste of time.
To be loved. To love. To belong. To be happy and sad and all emotions that come with being alive.
Because after all these years of isolation I don't know if I'm even alive. Reality itself feels so unreal. When I accidentally touch someone for whatever reason I can't feel a thing. Like their just an ilussion. I don't feel the warmth that many describe in stories and stuff. When I speak with someone I don't feel they can actually listen to anything I say. When I'm outside and see the sky and the trees they feel fake. That they're not really there.
I feel I'm trapped in a dream or nightmare. Unable to know what real life feels like. If I'm not seeing life through someone elses eyes then life itself doesn't feel real to me. (by that I mean, seeing things through a story, movie, book, etc.)
To stopped me from saying more.
If you're wondering what's the point of all this nonesense. I don't know. A cry for help. Me trying to vent out. Trying to see if anything can change despite knowing that's just unrealistic. Maybe I just want to hear the cliche answers I would normally expect or seeing that no one answers at all. Maybe is all to satisfy my inner voice with satisfaction, because know one cares just like it says, because no one listens, because the voice is right and I shouldn't fight it anymore and just exist in a state that I can't really call living. A state of disconection from others. Only able to see or feel throught out the perspective of others.
Whatever. You're really dumb if you really read all that. Pretty depressive and there's nothing anyone can do about it. Despite how much I wish there was someone who could. My destined one who comes and saves me from being dead in life. Whatever.