Underaged littles?

[JaysonTheRegressor]

I have a friend who is 16 years old and is an age regressor, they are not into the sexual side of it at all but they had such a crushing childhood.
They find comfort in the community but can't interact because it's technically classified as a "fetish"
This is a very grey area for me, what's everyone else's opinion on it?

 

[LittleMaddox]

If it isn't sexual it isn't a fetish. They could consider checking out the TBDL Reddit r/TBDL

 

[Trevor]

I think even with the best intentions, face to face interactions with minors in this is a minefield. I think it's also worth bearing in mind that what this means to us can change over time and with our own level of acceptance. When someone says it's not sexual, it very well may not be or it might be something they can't currently accept or may just change on its own over time. In any event, try convincing someone else that your weirdness doesn't have any sexual component when you're hanging with a minor.

If you want to offer advice and support, that's your call to make. There are risks that go with that as well. I think you'd do well to keep it out of the real world for the benefit of both. It's just too easily misunderstood even if everything is 100% innocent.

 

[Sheepies]

That's more risk than I'd like to take. Even if it is non sexual I don't know if the police would be quite as understanding if things got icky and someone went through the kid's phone or something and pinned me as a pedophile.

 

[siysiy]

it must be really hard for them.

on one hand why should they be able to enjoy little space and instandant play.

but on the other all the community is closed off to them for the next two years this is something that will open up to the on ther 18th burthday. like a big prisent.

all you can do is answer there questions. really .

 

[BabyTyrant]

I wouldnt risk any involvement with a minor, no matter how pure and innocent your intentions it's just not worth the risk

All it takes is for some adult in their life to realize they are interacting with an Adult in a "Fetish Community" and next thing you know the Adult interacting with the minor in the community can get in Legal Trouble just for interacting with a minor

I have heard stories of such a thing happening multiple times, so I simply wouldn't do it

I would tell them to go find some support in a TBDL area and welcome them to areas like this when they are 18+, they can wait 2 years; because the Alternative is that their interactions with us can literally ruin our lives.

 

[evadream]

I would not interact with a minor, or encourage them to be a part of any adult oriented online community. ("A" in abdl is for adult, after all.)

I know there are a lot of communities on tumblr that are for minors involved with sfw age regression. These communities are valuable because minors can speak on their interests with other minors.

Adults really have no business being in that space, as minors have no business being in "ours", even if it is non sexual . The underlying nature of this community is sexual, it is obvious when you spend more than 5 minuets on the internet when you search related terms.

As someone who, as a minor, lurked the ABDL community, fully understood that my interaction would be dangerous to both parties. I respected that I was a fly on the wall, and when I came of age only did I begin interacting. It just keeps everyone safe.

To conclude, though, I do have to say I am so glad the awareness for non sexual spaces in ABDL has grown. I didn't see anything like that 10 years ago.

 

[SorcerorElf]

@JaysonTheRegressor I would not recommend meeting up with minor in this context unless the minor's parents/guardian(s) already understand this community and are open to the idea.

 

[OfficialPastelPoppet]

If it's not sexual then it's not a kink. I've been regressing to some extent since I was about 6 or 7 (although I didn't discover the community til I was 12). They should be free to regress, but older regressors probably shouldn't befriend them too much because of the implications mentioned above. It would be very risky

 

[CuddleWoozle]

Well, the standard of operations within the Babyfur community on twitter is to block anyone underage from interacting with your account and then spread the word about them being a minor so others can block them.

It's not permanent and they're told why they're being blocked.

Babyfurs just don't mess around with the potential for someone to go "LOOK! I TOLD YOU THEY WERE PEDOS!"

So it's like...there are the of-legal-age Babyfurs and a whole other (much smaller) group of underage Babyfurs that have to just do their thing together with each other until they are of age.

 

[BabyTyrant]

Well, the standard of operations within the Babyfur community on twitter is to block anyone underage from interacting with your account and then spread the word about them being a minor so others can block them.

It's not permanent and they're told why they're being blocked.

Babyfurs just don't mess around with the potential for someone to go "LOOK! I TOLD YOU THEY WERE PEDOS!"

So it's like...there are the of-legal-age Babyfurs and a whole other (much smaller) group of underage Babyfurs that have to just do their thing together with each other until they are of age.

Exactly what I feel like we should do on these websites

Just cant risk being slapped as a Pedo and face legal issues just because Minors are around and feel like they have a right to interact with our community; nevermind these legal issues can literally ruin lives.

When they turn 18, they can come back and interact all they want

You dont even have to do anything wrong, all it takes is being discovered in a chat room with a Minor around, even if the chat room says "18+" and the minor clicks that they are "18+"

 

[JaysonTheRegressor]

@JaysonTheRegressor I would not recommend meeting up with minor in this context unless the minor's parents/guardian(s) already understand this community and are open to the idea.

Yup, that's the case

 

[SorcerorElf]

Yup, that's the case

No offense, but why did you ask if you've already made up your mind? If you're trying to catch people who would go out with minors, that's the job of the site staff.

 

[JaysonTheRegressor]

No offense, but why did you ask if you've already made up your mind? If you're trying to catch people who would go out with minors, that's the job of the site staff.

I wanted to know everyone else's opinion?? :/
"what's everyone else's opinion on it?" is RIGHT in my post >:/

 

[SorcerorElf]

I wanted to know everyone else's opinion?? :/
"what's everyone else's opinion on it?" is RIGHT in my post >:/

I must have misunderstood. When you said "Yup, that's the case." I thought you were confirming an answer you already knew. My apologies for coming across rude.

 

[JaysonTheRegressor]

I must have misunderstood. When you said "Yup, that's the case." I thought you were confirming an answer you already knew. My apologies.

Oh, no worries!

 

[SpAzpieSweeTot]

It's. . . Difficult. I do feel bad for adolescents who are into this. For me, I, "knew," around 5 to 7, but, it was probably in me all along.

If you asked me back then what I knew, I couldn't have told you, because I didn't have words for it, but it was there.

Now, I used to be one of those who said, "What? This isn't a fe----. What!? How does everyone who thinks it is, figure?"

Then I realized that if the working definition that psychology pros are working with, is broader than people think it is, a fetish could be about more than climaxing, and that might not be the point at all.

For people with a psych background, "Oh, that's an unusual way to love, or pair bond. . . Fetish," is a thing, and fetish reaches beyond getting off.

Even kids, when developing normally, have parts, nerves, and a blood supply.

"It's part of who we are!"

Yeah, and so is what you like, and how you love, and how you pair bond. That's why it's called psychosexual development. You don't think what you like sexually, is part of your psyche? Since how you love and pair bond, and/or what you find sexy is atypical. . . Just explaining where the white coats are coming from.

"You," was just an easy pronoun. It wasn't directed at any particular person.

We don't know if a kid's BDLness is going to register with his or her parts or not, but we know how this is classified, and, now, I hope, we know why.

There are those on here who say this isn't sexual. Well, not typically or overtly so, no.

Let me put it to you this way, for those of us who don't boink our BIG, how many of us would have to fight the urge to hurt someone we saw stealing affection from, or hurting, said BIG? Why is that?

Sound a bit, "scorned partner," ish?

Has, "My BIG! Not your BIG; my BIG," replaced, "C'mere. Lemme climb you like a tree"?

Sorry for the tangent. My point was, this is what it is, understood and acknowledged or not, and given what this is, kids don't belong here.

Now, yes, it sucks being a prepubescent, or pubescent kid, and having this in you. When puberty hit, I wanted to be the BIG.

It did suck to be me growing up and thinking, "Okay, so, if you don't know Justin Temberlake is hot, you're either gay, or blind. Phew! I'm glad it's not that! Now, if I could just figure out why all I want to do is love him through an accident, we'll be all set. What is wrong with me!? This isn't normal."

 

[MissAmy]

but on the other all the community is closed off to them for the next two years this is something that will open up to the on ther 18th burthday. like a big prisent.

and i'm sure they're gonna LOVE their new privilege of accessing every pornographic website as well

 

[KarmaBaby3]

Did no one ignore The “do not enter unless you were 18”? I definitely spent time on all the sites when I was underage, there literally isn’t stopping you from entering. But i am 31 so the teen years was before all the parental controls, my mom knows very little about computers but I was mart enough to never talk/meet up with anyone outside of the pages .... I also only read all the posts, and lurked, I think. I do remember some having tbdl groups and a lot of pages which don’t exist anymore. I don’t see why they can’t be somewhat involved. There are many people that use ABDL as a comfort zone and NOT sexual in any way. I hate going on daily diapers and seeing all the gross porn videos in the ADs.

I personally am like that, all the comfort, security and enjoyment of being a little, nothing sexual for me ..... zero sex drive to begin with, never have been. There really aren’t a lot of stories anymore either that aren’t highly sexual anymore, wish I had saved some of the old ones.

 

[diapernh]

My views on this:
- as long as the questions/conversation remain of a PG nature, nothing sexual. I don’t see it as an issue. Good lord knows I could have used some guidence when i was first starting from somebody who understood what i was going through.
- no meeting up till 18, unless they are in your same age range (you’re both in local high schools, etc) and it should be limited to just meeting up at McD’s and such
- even on the TBDL Reddit and other teen only sites, there are lurkers who portray themselves as children to befriend other minors and prey on them. I’d think it would be more dangerous to be on a TBDL site and be lulled into a false sense of security and fall prey..