Pay babysitters/mommys

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I was just wondering what people thought of the dozens of pay mommies and babysitters out there? Personally I think the rates are way too high, and given the amount of care I need in a day, it would not make sense for me. It also seems that a lot of the Mommy's who charge are in England. Why is that?
 
They are prostitutes that fit in the niche. Naturally they charge a lot.
 
It's a small market and pretty specialized. I'm sure they would lower the price if no one was taking them up on it.

It doesn't appeal to me, as getting cared for isn't really on my radar. I can see how it might be fun at times as part of a relationship but I don't value it in and of itself enough to seek it or pay for it.
 
Supply and demand. If people are paying then good for them, they should charge as much as they can. I think it's nice that something like this exists for folks who would enjoy it.


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CPDude said:
I was just wondering what people thought of the dozens of pay mommies and babysitters out there? Personally I think the rates are way too high, and given the amount of care I need in a day, it would not make sense for me. It also seems that a lot of the Mommy's who charge are in England. Why is that?
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They are in England mainly because ABDL's are more accepted there. It seems to be a hearland to it, it may even possiibly be where it (mabey) originated. People ask for payments because thats just a service that isnt to common, or possibly like a spa. You go to get a massage for example, you have to pay money. The best way, and most connecting way however, in my opinion, is to find the mommy yourself. The reason is that being regressed is a very emotional thing and having the actual connection with them is a lot better, rather than the nervousness of a stranger.
 
I have had various degrees of participation from both friends and partners. For me to do this type of play with somebody I need a loving connection.

It does not need to be an 'adult', sexual type of love; it can be others who care about me like close friends.

For myself, a stranger would be like getting an exam at the doctors. Not intimate and not what I want.

I desire real caring like how one would be with a child or pet they love. Paying whatever amount of money won't make that happen.

When I have periods in my life when I don't have anyone to do a/b play with, I do my best to be that loving parent or caregiver for myself.

It's not the same as with a partner but better than with someone who is just going through the motions and interactions seem cold and mechanical.
 
dlissexy said:
They are prostitutes that fit in the niche. Naturally they charge a lot.
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I know this is your characterization, but it's wrong. I've had more than a dozen professional babysitters since the early 1990s, and not a single one has been a prostitute. In fact, every one had strict sexual boundaries; most would end the session without refund if there was any sexual contact.

If a woman changing a diaper equates to prostitution in your mind, then there's not much I can say that will alter your opinion.

The rates are high for three reasons: First, because this is specialized care and it requires a lot of education, equipment and a unique mindset. Second, the traffic will bear the cost; anyway, most pro sitters don't want to deal with the guys who cannot afford them. Finally, a high price ensures a certain clientele ... typically, respected, responsible, fairly well-known individuals who won't pose a threat to a woman when they're left alone.

Having lived in the UK, I would say ABDL 'acceptance' isn't any greater or less than here in the United States. However, adult babies are very much a 'specialist' niche in Britain; you really have to look to find decent adult disposable diapers because the National Health Service provides them to those who have incontinence challenges. There's an added element of privacy in daily British life which is absent altogether in the US; perhaps UK infantilists feel more comfortable visiting pay-for-play carers and nannies.

Unless you are lucky enough to be in a relationship with someone who will play the caregiver role, any babysitting experience is likely to cost something. I, for one, would not want to patronize a professional sitter who wasn't proud of the quality of her work and did not charge accordingly. With that said, I know exactly what I want and I do not mind paying for it. That doesn't include sex; I want to be dressed and cared for as a two-year-old, notwithstanding that I have the body and mind of an adult. The ability to provide that sort of care doesn't come natively to every woman up and down the street, and the willingness to do so is something that only a select few possess. Frankly, I'm glad I've found so many of them, and I've always been happy to pay whatever fee they've charged.
 
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I agree totally withyou. myself being in the UK have provided care for friends for free and i have enjoyed it thoroughly but there is the downside that things do cost money such as diapers clothing bedding the equipment etc and much as we love caregiving these costs have to be met. If you are doing it for somebody you care for deeply and are in a relationship with its a totally different matter than to be doing it for a stranger. I am not a prostitute either ..i am a full time care giver for a family member already and no way would i entertain the sexual side, it would be purely a mother baby relationship. Here in the UK i think it is still frowned upon when you mention ABs and seen as abnormal as alot of people are ingorant and dont look into what it actually involves. I havent yet come across anybody that is open about it ..more so they keep it a private thing. At the end of the day it is time for you and in any job which it is just that..a job....you have to pay for time ...that doesnt mean that the care giver doesnt care any less its just her time and money spent out to ensure you have everything you need whilst in her care if that makes sense. Sadly nothing is free if its a service unless as i stated before its for somebody you love or are in a relationship with but even mothers have to pay nursery fees for their children to go to nursery or for somebody to babysit for them xx
 
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They are in England mainly because ABDL's are more accepted there. It seems to be a hearland to it, it may even possiibly be where it (mabey) originated. People ask for payments because thats just a service that isnt to common, or possibly like a spa. You go to get a massage for example, you have to pay money. The best way, and most connecting way however, in my opinion, is to find the mommy yourself. The reason is that being regressed is a very emotional thing and having the actual connection with them is a lot better, rather than the nervousness of a stranger.
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I live in Scotland so I'm not absolutely certain I'm right here but I'd be more inclined to believe that it's to do with the big fetish community that exists in London that attracts people to that kind of work. I don't believe that England would be any more accepting that the US in general.
 
Well,

My personal take my be in line with many here.

I personally don't have any issue with anyone's use either way.

That being said I wouldn't do it as a mommy or daddy or a personal role, but as a babysitter, nurse, teacher, etc no problem, brother or sister could go either way, I've never had a sister, and not very close to my half brother either...

So, if the premise is going to be in a intimate roll in any way, I doubt I'd do it, but as a caregiver yes.

I employ care (nursing) staff, and they all know about me, he'll they are here in my bedroom every shift, but none have ever quit or say they didn't want to be here, and depending on my mindset (age) I'm sometimes for real very fussy/grumpy/etc...

I deal with daily pain in multiple areas, in addition to nerve damage, so if I'm acting up it's very rarely been an act, at least since my accident...I still do some stuff, but I pay a heavy price, and sometimes I'll wake up and be just whiny or just bitching...I'm always sorry for that, it when I'm asked to do something I can't physically do ATM I sometimes get very upset, especially if I'm tired and in any for, of little space, they know this and know to just treat me appropriately and all is well...

So in a round about way I do pay for some of that, albeit it's not the primary reason for the. Being here...I've been found unconscious a few times when I didn't have full Time staff, so their primary role is caregiver and helping out at the house...House is way to bad at over 8k sqft...and I can't cook either...

So, long story short, yes I feel if you pay people that's fine, in any case but me I keep it to caregiver type rolls as opposed to loving roles, even though several of my staff say the love me all the time...and love working here...it's a very nice house, all hardwood floors and stairs with hand knotted rugs and it's a smart house, so there is never a tv or iPad too far away and them watching a tv show whilst making dinner or eating or whatever isn't a big deal, they do their job, I appreciate them and treat them as peers and they do the same unless I'm being little/pissy, which I've given the. Permission for in advance, and open to all the people, surprisingly have only maybe one per year quit, usually they are moving or finished college or something...never known one to not let me know months in advance...

Sorry long winded today! :)
 
There is one in Texas with decent rates and it's not prostitution, there is no sexual things allowed. The website is www.abdl-nursery-tx.com for anyone interested.

I agree with the ones that said supply and demand, it's a specialized target population and its a good thing services are being offered. Hugs!
 
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