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Introduction
As result of a post I read on the forums, I want to tell y'all about the risks of meeting with other *b/dl's.
Meeting up with somebody that shares the same interest as you do (diapers in this case), can be fun and create real life friendships.
BUT!
This is not always what will happen. There are also mean people that just would love to be your friend, so they can abuse you in multiple ways.
Therefore I created some guidelines for when you are going to meet up:
Guidelines
- Only meet up with people you like (duh?!)
- Only meet up if you REALLY (I'm not talking 2 days of talking) trust this person!
- Preferably, meet up with people that share the same friends as you (for example, someone of this forum, or someone that someone from the forum knows and will give good references for)
- When you meet up, don't go with high expectations, it could be that you don't even like the person irl
- When you meet up, go to a public place to start, don't just go into anybody's house. In fact, for a first meeting only go to a public place, no matter how well you think you know this other person after an hour or so in a coffee shop, it may be all a ruse.
- Speak to your *b/dl friends about who you're gonna meet, it's always better that at least somebody knows where you are.
- If you don't have anyone you can tell exactly where you're going to be, maybe tell a good friend "I'm going to meet someone at the mall, can you call my cell at 15:30". It's a safeguard and an easy out for you. First the friend calling can alert the authorities if you don't answer and second you can say "Oh, I'm sorry I have to go. That was my mum." if things aren't going so well with the meeting.
- (being changed)/Changing diapers can be fun, but if you are ashamed or have ANY reason at all to not wanting this, you should not do it! Even if they ask 'nicely'
- Use common sense, this might be obvious, but I've seen people act to me as if they were completely somebody else, just BE YOURSELF!
- Have a backup plan, if you're planning on staying with someone for the night, be sure to have a plan for when it COULD go wrong (get a list of hotels nearby, transportation, ...)
- Have your route mapped out well in advance. Know exactly where you're meeting, how you will get there, and how you will get home. Do NOT accept a ride with this other person on a first meeting. Better safe, than sorry!
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Stories from ADISC members
The first time I met up with another *b/dl I was so nervous I was actually shaking sometimes, I met this dude who lives 15 KM from my house, he was in his 40's while I was 15, so, I was anxious, but decided to go on with it.
We met on the train station of the city and had a drink there, while talking. Afterwards, we went to his place and looked at some things (diapers, plastic pants,...) when we were in his bathroom, looking at the plastic pants, the bell rang. Honestly, I think I must have looked whiter then anything I know, I was SO scared of who was by the door.
He told me to stay in his bathroom and closed the door, I heard him open the door and talk to a lady. They talked for about 15 minutes and I heard the lady leave. You could guess I was relieved to hear that :p after we checked out some other stuff I left and went home.
kevintje
I had the misfortune to meet up with a really creepy person once...I had talked to him several times online (via email) and he seemed nice enough, if somewhat eager (but then I'm used to that since I am a female in a predominantly male fetish community). I decided that since he was so eager to meet, and since my attempts at holding 'munches' hadn't gone so well (I may try this again, now that I'm in a more central area), that we should do so. I told him where to meet me (about 45 mins from his home and about 15 from mine (I'm crazy but not stupid) and gave him a time. He was early (even earlier than me and I was early!). That was okay tho'. He seemed nice enough, clean, well dressed, not overtly exhibitionist (thank God for that!). I ordered myself a doughnut and peach juice (not much of a gentleman, he didn't even offer to pay) and we sat down. Within 20 mins he had a) offered to take me out to his car to see his 'diaper collection', b) asked me to take him to my home, and c) suggested we go to an hotel for a little 'play time'. Needless to say I politely refused all 3 delightful *gags* offers, and left via a different door than the one I'd come in!
Ayanna
Not all meetings with other ABDLs are scary. I had the pleasure to meet with another AB a few years ago. I agreed to the meeting (considering the previous meeting I was a little leery of meeting with anyone!) after getting some positive feedback from other people I knew in the ABDL community who had met this person at ABDL functions (parties/munches/etc). We met, as is usual, at a local coffee shop. I was totally comfortable talking with him and agreed to leave the coffee shop, and actually did something I do not recommend (especially if you are a teen) got into his vehicle with him. We went out to lunch, walked on the beach, went to the zoo, went out for dinner, and took in a fireworks show. It was a wonderful day which ended in with a friendly hug goodbye. I am still in contact with him to this day. (I don't hate all Americans, as this person I consider a dear (albeit somewhat distanced) friend...and he's American!) :)
Ayanna
