How to deal with suspicious stories

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What to do when someone's posted something suspicious...

Someone signs up on the forum, and on their first day posts a suspicious story. The story could be anything, but some common ones we see a lot are :

• They came out to their parents as a TB, and their parents are fine with it, even going as far as to buy them diapers.
• They are 16 and babied by their girlfriend/boyfriend, who also happens to be in their class at school.
• They are 12-14 and their parents force them to wear diapers against their will.
• They are spanked by their parents, even though they are 14-18.

There are other suspicious stories, but these are the main ones.

What is your gut instinct? What would you naturally tend to do?

Most people on these forums would assume that such a poster is lying, and say so in blunt terms such as "I call bullshit" or "Stop lying". The reason for this is that most stories like this really are made up, and the people who post them can come off as creepy. Members of ADISC, especially the teen members, have developed good bullshit-detectors to protect themselves against creepy people trying to lie to them. There's nothing wrong with being reluctant to believe improbable stories.

However, being openly challenging or hostile towards the people who post such stories is rarely productive. Such direct confrontation tends to lead to fights. It also seems really unfair to the few people who sign up and post their *true* but improbable stories to the forum. These newbies feel like they're being victimized unfairly (they are), and they often don't come back to the site for awhile, because they see us as mean. Both of these problems (fights, and unjustified meanness) are avoidable, by choosing not to be directly confrontational with people who post suspicious stories. Avoiding being openly confrontational doesn't mean you have to stay quiet, however! There are alternatives to being confrontational that get the point across just as well, but aren't so aggressive.

Instead of being confrontational, you should learn the art of making your point with questions.

To do this, follow these simple steps :

• Stay calm. Don't be tempted to post a rant or a put-down.
• Assume good faith. Assume they're telling the truth... even if their story is far-fetched. Strange things DO happen sometimes!
• Ask for more information on the story, particularly about bits which don't make sense.

Here are some example questions you can ask :

• Why didn't your parents freak out (like most parents would) when you told them?
• Why are your parents buying you diapers? Don't you usually buy things for yourself at that age?
• Why is your girlfriend/boyfriend so keen to baby you?
• Why do your parents/girlfriend/boyfriend/etc force you into diapers? Don't they realize this is illegal?
• How exactly did being hit on the head with a Nerf bat make you incontinent?
• What makes you think that talking in babytalk ("wike dis!") is endearing?
• Why do you type in "txt speak" at the age of 18?
• How come you claimed to be 12 yesterday (insert link to post here) and 16 today?

Asking questions like these when you encounter suspicious stories achieves several things :

• It makes it clear to the rest of the people who read this thread that you don't believe the person posting is telling the truth.
• It does this without openly accusing the person posting of lying, and thus, gives you a much better chance of avoiding a fight.
• It often causes the poster to either go quiet, or to post more stuff.
• If they go quiet, then you don't have to listen to their tall tales anymore.
• If they post more stuff, the process can be repeated, until either most people are satisfied the story is plausible, or it is so obviously a lie that the mods can ban the person for lying.

If someone posts something which you can prove is a lie, you can use the "Report This Post" button (it looks like http://www.adisc.org/forum/images/buttons/report.gif ) to report the post(s) to a moderator. Moderators who can prove that someone is lying will give that person a permanent ban from ADISC.org, because lying is against the site's rules.

How to Identify a Faker

Now, there is always drama about fakers, I’m sure they will always be around, as well as those who can sniff them out.

Things to remember when you suspect a faker: - Don’t go over the edge, that makes -you- look bad. - Innocent until proven guilty, that means don’t say right away “FAKER!” - Remember that some stories -can- be true.

One thing that I have noticed:

• Fakers are more likely to have an even more outrageous story if they believe that those around them believe it. If you call them out from the beginning, they are more likely to keep their story under wraps, watch what they say etc… If you believe them (Or pretend to believe them) when they say “My mom knows I’m tb/dl” then they will add to that… “Mom bought me diapers,” “Mom diapers me,” “OMG MOMMY BOUGHT ME A CRIB!”

How to Out a Faker:

- Ask them something small and insignificant, like “What color are your eyes?” “What’s your favorite nail polish color?” “So what colour are your walls?” Etc… something that isn’t huge, but something they can answer. I guarantee if they are a faker, and you ask them the same question 3 days later, they won’t remember their first answer.

-Encourage them! Like I said before, if they think you believe them, they are more likely to continue with an outrageous story. If they say their mommy diapered them, and you act all excited and jealous, they are more likely to say something else… and go on and on and on until it sounds like a definite fantasy.

Fakers with Pictures:

• Fakers usually have pictures, especially if they get right into it. Usually, it’s a skinny, really pretty girl. Now, I’m not saying that there aren’t pretty girls who aren’t into abdlism, but there are a few things to be aware of.

- Some fakers are just plain stupid. If you see a picture that still has a model site copyright stamp in the bottom corner, then duh, that’s a faker.

- They usually only post one, now it’s hard to out with one picture, but find something small, tiny tiny on the picture, and at a random time ask them about it. Lets say the girl in the picture has a tiny mole under there left eye. Say something like “Man, I have this mole, I hate it, do you have any?”

- If they use more than one, look for differences. I recently saw a “girl” who had 3 pictures, and in each picture it was a different person! One had a wide nose, One had a big forehead, and one had really squinty eyes. It wasn’t that obvious either, something you wouldn’t have noticed unless you were looking for it.

- They are pictures you swear you’ve seen before. If you go to Myspace, you will see several “girls” with the same picture, ridiculous. So be aware of that.

- Timestamps, some have time stamps, if the person says “Taken yesterday” and there is a little date in the corner with 2004 on it, get real!