How do I tell my family?

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Telling your family about your TB/DL side is a decision that cannot be undone, and if the results are unpleasant, it may change the way they look at you. Many infantilists do not ever tell their families about their infantilism because of this reason, they do not want to take the risk.

The reason why many of us feel the need to tell our families is because TB/AB tendencies are more of a lifestyle then something we do.

Should I tell them?

Telling your family is a huge step in your development as a teen or adult baby. Before making any moves, make very sure that you want to tell them, and also be sure you are ready for any questions or reactions.

If you are sure, then the next step is finding a way to tell. Of course, there are many ways you could tell them, like leaving a note, talking over the phone, or simply confronting them and telling them. Personally speaking, if I were to tell my family, I would talk to them face to face. Even though leaving a note is easier, I would rather be able to answer any questions they have.

Benefits Of Telling

In some cases, after telling your family, you will feel a lot better (even if they don't understand.) Keeping it bottled up when you want to tell can make you depressed, stressed, or have low self-esteem in most cases. Once someone has told their family, regardless of the family's reaction, some still feel better. Most people who tell will end up being happier, higher self-esteem, and more accepting of *bdl themselves. In some cases, telling can even strengthen relationships with parents.

The Negatives

There is a pretty good chance that anybody you tell will think of it adversely. No matter the outcome, the relief of having it off your chest is there, but the power of guilt from being disapproved by your family still exists. This may be only a fetish and therefore sex related, so it is best if you don't talk about it with your family unless asked. But dealing with the many negative consequences outweighs any of the positive consequences associated from telling them.

Different methods

Note/Letter

• Pro: Notes are good because it is much easier for many people to write their feelings down than it is to confront people directly. It also gives the reader a chance to think about what you wrote and to go back and reread what you wrote. The allows a reader time to develop a rational response.
• Con: A drawback to notes is that your family will not be around, to show reactions. Also, you will not be there to answer questions. However, you can arrange to be available soon after they read it.

Letter

An example letter you can use/modify to tell you family can be found here: [[1]]

Phone Conversation

• Pro: This way is more personal than the Note approach, and you don't have to worry about eye contact.
• Con: A long silence on a phone line can be terrible.

Face to Face

• Pro: Personal. Your parents are there to comfort you and ask questions.
• Con: Many people are reluctant to do this because it is very nerve-racking, and scary.

Other considerations

There are other factors which one must consider when going to come out of the closet. For instance, how liberal/open minded is your family? The chances that they will accept you are better when they are more open minded about things outside the norm. (How do you think they would react if you told them you were gay? Coming out as a teen baby is very similar.)

Also, please note that the chances of your family buying you diapers are slim to none, and the odds of them diapering you are next to nothing. Do not hope for this.

Conclusion

In the end, it all comes down to two things: as Muhammad Ali said, "Hope for the best, prepare for the worst," and the Nike slogan: Just Do It.