Don’t overlook the Essential from Incontrol. They are crinkly in the landing zone, yes, but with some boxer briefs and [relatively loose-fit] jeans overtop, they’re barely noticeable and pretty leak resistant to boot. I’ve gone to a couple of family gatherings and get-togethers where it’s been pretty quiet at times, and nobody has even bat an eyelash, nor have I really noticed any extra sound. Crawling into bed without any trousers, though? Yeah, they’re crinkly (especially since I’m usually climbing in with a fresh diaper that hasn’t yet “warmed up”) but with jeans on it’s not been an issue, particularly after it’s been on for a little while. The benefit of the landing zone is that the tapes keep their stick if you need to adjust/refasten them, and they don’t tear up the diaper in the process. They also have the numbered parking spots for the tapes so you don’t have to guess where the tapes should go once you figure out the right spot for you. And they seem to control the pee smell quite well.
I got these Essential and the Active Air thinking I would endure the Essential between Active Air special days, for the sake of cost savings, and it’s actually been the exact opposite. The Active Air, while more discreet and with the nice hook/loop tapes, make you feel cool and damp once they’re a tiny bit wet (like you’d feel if you’d wet your pants sans diaper…), and they have also sweat some fluid through to my boxer-briefs and jeans. Not enough to really be conspicuous (dark wash, thank goodness) but still not good. They also don’t contain smell well at all. I pee and my wife smells it almost immediately, whereas she’s never complained of smell with the Essential after a pack and a half.
