I made myself incontinent , now I regret it. what do I do?

[Millbay]

2 years ago i wanted to be 24/7 diapered. huge mistake. i have little bladder control now and i wet myself from time to time. Any fixes to know about?

I have had incontinence since I was a teenager you must not worry lots of resources to help you manage the situation and the acceptance journey. With proper management incontinence is not something to be afraid of!

Before speaking with a professional first step is to keep a daily bladder diary lots of templates online. Things to include amount of fluid intake, diaper changes, weight of diaper, food intake and if you make it to the loo measure the amount of urine!

wishing you all the best cherryfoxie

 

[Miki]

@cherryfoxie stated that she wanted to be 24/7 diapered, not incontinent.

right - but if she wouldn't have used the diapers intentional for the purpose they are meant she would not be somewhat inco now.

There is a HUGE difference between a diaper lover, who wears diapers for a variety of reasons not related to incontinence, and a person who is incontinent, who is required to take measures not to wet or soil themselves uncontrollably.

right again - but if she would have used them only every so often no loss of control would have happened.

@cherryfoxie did not change her mind. She is now having issues with incontinence, which is NOT why she wanted to be diapered 24/7. She is asking for help regarding incontinence in the Incontinence Forum, so we offer help and support.

she said -

2 years ago i wanted to be 24/7 diapered. huge mistake. i have little bladder control now and i wet myself from time to time. Any fixes to know about?

to have 'little bladder control now' is the key! if one uses diapers for two years -obviously all the time- it makes no difference if it happens all the time controlled on purpose or now uncontrolled for the result is the same. the only difference is a change of the mind not want it anymore and this is the result of understanding the meaning of words and their combination combined with logical thinking ... what obviously is not everybody's most laureated property ...

As incontinence is a symptom of a medical issue, and this is not a medical web forum, we should always recommend seeking medical help when there is a change in continence.

... because of the habit not to use restrooms anymore for two years and thus it may be a medical condition but not a medical issue ,,,

 

[siysiy]

2 years ago i wanted to be 24/7 diapered. huge mistake. i have little bladder control now and i wet myself from time to time. Any fixes to know about?

Just interested why you are now regretting your decision.

I use to wear for confort and convenience but now I also in a diaper because I can't trust my body not to wet itself.

I know not everyone lives with a partner that not only fine with it but encourages me.

Anyway I getting of track. I know re toilet traing is possible.

 

[EcoIncon]

2 years ago i wanted to be 24/7 diapered. huge mistake. i have little bladder control now and i wet myself from time to time. Any fixes to know about?

I will echo the recommendation to seek help from a healthcare professional. If that makes you nervous, I don't know that you necessarily need to disclose that you think you created this problem. You can probably focus on what you are now experiencing but insofar as that is concerned, you should answer questions truthfully and honestly if you want real help. Here are the techniques you will be encouraged to try (and you can start these right away even before you see a health professional):

1. Monitor food and beverage intake and avoid these foods and beverages:

• Caffeinated drinks such as coffee and some soft drinks
• Alcoholic drinks such as wine, beer, cider, and spirits
• Carbonated / fizzy soft drinks
• Citrus juices
• Highly acidic foods such as tomatoes and citrus fruits.
• Foods and dishes that are very spicy, such as hot curries or peppers, chilli and horseradish.
• Chocolate, sugar, honey, and artificial sweeteners can also worsen incontinence.

2. Timed voiding. Start by going to the toilet every 30 minutes (or longer if it is longer between wettings) and going whether you need to or not. Extend the interval by 15 minutes or so every few days. If you can't even make it 30 minutes, look up a technique called double voiding and by all means whenever possible, void in the toilet not in a diaper.

3. Kegels as suggested by others there are some great tools out there to help (especially for women) - kgoal is one of them that is highly recommended

4. Since you list yourself as a female from Canada, you may be able to get the Oxytrol patch over the counter. It is a first line drug to help calm your bladder. I wouldn't take it too long as long term use has been linked to dementia. But it does really help get things calmed down initially.

5. If you are leaking without knowing it, switch to a cloth diaper so you get the sensation of wetness.

To reiterate, everyone who has suggested you see a professional is right and I totally agree. But in the meantime, these are some good strategies to get you back on track. I have underlying medical conditions that keep me wet, however, these techniques all help me keep control I've got... when I've slipped a little, applying them helps me get some control back.

Good luck. Odds are you'll be just fine.

 

[CheshireCat]

...but if she wouldn't have used the diapers intentional for the purpose they are meant she would not be somewhat inco now.

This is your assumption, not medical fact. None of us know the reason for her incontinence without her seeing a medical professional and her sharing the reason, if one is found.

...but if she would have used them only every so often no loss of control would have happened.

Same assumption, not medical fact.

to have 'little bladder control now' is the key! if one uses diapers for two years -obviously all the time- it makes no difference if it happens all the time controlled on purpose or now uncontrolled for the result is the same. the only difference is a change of the mind not want it anymore and this is the result of understanding the meaning of words and their combination combined with logical thinking ... what obviously is not everybody's most laureated property ...

Your logic is seriously flawed, because it is based entirely on your assumptions and biases and not irrefutable facts. It would be a terrible thing for @cherryfoxie to follow your advice and not see a medical professional, and then find out 6-12 months from now that she has a serious medical issue that caused her incontinence and by ignoring it she has severely compromised her health. This is not about you. This is about her and her health.

... because of the habit not to use restrooms anymore for two years and thus it may be a medical condition but not a medical issue ,,,

Pay attention. You did not address what I stated. I said:

As incontinence is a symptom of a medical issue...

Stop with the misdirection and straw man arguments. This is an Incontinence Support Forum, not a debate forum.

@cherryfoxie I apologize for the chaos I have created. I hope you are able to get help from medical professionals and physical therapists.

 

[Woncrinklz]

I didn't read everyone's stuff up there because I'm being asked to make food for someone..., so this comment might be redundant. But a doctor said to my mother, and it goes just as well with anyone regardless of gender; but when peeing to stop the stream, then start it, then stop it, etc. This really helps with that muscle interference control. They say "Use it or lose it."

I should do this for my darn head! Lol!!

 

[Miki]

This is your assumption, not medical fact. None of us know the reason for her incontinence without her seeing a medical professional and her sharing the reason, if one is found.

Same assumption, not medical fact.

Your logic is seriously flawed, because it is based entirely on your assumptions and biases and not irrefutable facts. It would be a terrible thing for @cherryfoxie to follow your advice and not see a medical professional, and then find out 6-12 months from now that she has a serious medical issue that caused her incontinence and by ignoring it she has severely compromised her health. This is not about you. This is about her and her health.

Pay attention. You did not address what I stated. I said:

Stop with the misdirection and straw man arguments. This is an Incontinence Support Forum, not a debate forum.

@cherryfoxie I apologize for the chaos I have created. I hope you are able to get help from medical professionals and physical therapists.

it doesn't make sense to answer anymore for you think to be the wiser, assuming that other ones assume something while you are an authority who argues based on facts even if it is crystal clear that your level of understanding seems to be on the lower end of the scale.

the caption of the post is

I made myself incontinent, now I regret it.

and this is no assumption but a fact that implies what I said but you clearly miss it or do not grasp it.
the only possibility for her state is that she used diapers for two years on purpose and got so used to it that she started to loose control.

 

[diapermefast]

Defiantly seek advice from a Doctor......

Years and years ago, i was just a DL. I started pretending to have accidents at night and sometimes in the day. So i could justify wearing diapers, mainly to justify it to my now Ex girlfriend. Well the diaper wearing went on for years until it got to the stage where i wet the bed at night and started having accidents in the day even when i waesnt wearing.

Went to a Urologist, had some lovelllly tests. Then got referred to a Neurologist. After more tests and scans it turns out i have Multiple Sclerosis.

This diagnosis explained not only the bladder incontinence but a whole host of other issues i was having and didnt think anything off!

So started off with the fun of pretending to be having accidents and then got served full blown incontinence

 

[LePew]

Defiantly seek advice from a Doctor......

Years and years ago, i was just a DL. I started pretending to have accidents at night and sometimes in the day. So i could justify wearing diapers, mainly to justify it to my now Ex girlfriend. Well the diaper wearing went on for years until it got to the stage where i wet the bed at night and started having accidents in the day even when i waesnt wearing.

Went to a Urologist, had some lovelllly tests. Then got referred to a Neurologist. After more tests and scans it turns out i have Multiple Sclerosis.

This diagnosis explained not only the bladder incontinence but a whole host of other issues i was having and didnt think anything off!

So started off with the fun of pretending to be having accidents and then got served full blown incontinence

Thank you for your post. This is why it's so important to see a doctor if you experience a change in continence. It is usually a symptom of other medical problems. We can scapegoat diaper wearing all we want for it but until we get checked out, we're just guessing.

 

[Bigt84015]

Yeah you should think about what @diapermefast said about assuming ic is causing of going 24/7. Like when you're working on web development just because the ui works and things look like A+B=C doesn't mean that you don't look at the back end. What if the last thing thing it the code is on close format database but you just push it out cause the ui works(Like someone else put bad code in your BLL method but your only checking your HTML/JS)

Just like you need the correct skills to know what you're looking for it computer code your need the right skill to determine your health

Sorry this mediator is bad if you don't program. If anyone is able say what I'm saying better to help OP please do so thanks

 

[Miki]

Defiantly seek advice from a Doctor......

Years and years ago, i was just a DL. I started pretending to have accidents at night and sometimes in the day. So i could justify wearing diapers, mainly to justify it to my now Ex girlfriend. Well the diaper wearing went on for years until it got to the stage where i wet the bed at night and started having accidents in the day even when i waesnt wearing.

Went to a Urologist, had some lovelllly tests. Then got referred to a Neurologist. After more tests and scans it turns out i have Multiple Sclerosis.

This diagnosis explained not only the bladder incontinence but a whole host of other issues i was having and didnt think anything off!

So started off with the fun of pretending to be having accidents and then got served full blown incontinence

unfortunately, that's a double edged sword. you admit that you had a number of issues and thus it should have been i good idea to see a doc much earlier - given you trust a doc at all.

but in general IMO most see a doc far too often and many become cured to death after a painful life, caused by unnecessary treatments!

the western medicine is dominated by the pharma industry combined with health insurance and nothing else than big business. you can bet a lot that you rarely walk out of a doctor's office without at least a prescription in best case but much more likely with the order to see a specialist, possibly even a number of his colleagues! of course you are perfectly satisfied without a second guess - is there anybody out with the ideal weight, the ideal blood pressure, the ideal ... you name it ... and see where it goes!

thus the doc would be a bad businessman if he would not take the opportunity to make money by telling you 'don't worry, you are fine but I'd recommend to eat a bit more vegetables and fruit - have a nice time'. instead he will prescribe a sort of supplements to improve your vitamin household the insurance pays for.

now think twice - at least after you read the description of the pills or what ever it is -what usually nobody does- and you will hardly find ANY product of the pharma industry without a listing of side effects, in many cases with a remark at the end like this one 'in rare cases it may cause the death' or something similar. BTW - near to all products are mineral oil derivatives ...

I didn't see a doc since over 50 years with 3 exceptions:

#1 - to receive a blaster for some weeks because of a tiny mishap
#2 - to get some eye-drops when I looked into a welding arc by coincidence when an arc occurred where it should have been none
#3 - when I was brought to a doc by my employer when I had a small cut on my hand during my learning years where I received 2 or 3 stiches what would not have been necessary for sure - you know ... business ...

... that's why I'm still healthy ... think about it ...

 

[Bigt84015]

unfortunately, that's a double edged sword. you admit that you had a number of issues and thus it should have been i good idea to see a doc much earlier - given you trust a doc at all.

but in general IMO most see a doc far too often and many become cured to death after a painful life, caused by unnecessary treatments!

the western medicine is dominated by the pharma industry combined with health insurance and nothing else than big business. you can bet a lot that you rarely walk out of a doctor's office without at least a prescription in best case but much more likely with the order to see a specialist, possibly even a number of his colleagues! of course you are perfectly satisfied without a second guess - is there anybody out with the ideal weight, the ideal blood pressure, the ideal ... you name it ... and see where it goes!

thus the doc would be a bad businessman if he would not take the opportunity to make money by telling you 'don't worry, you are fine but I'd recommend to eat a bit more vegetables and fruit - have a nice time'. instead he will prescribe a sort of supplements to improve your vitamin household the insurance pays for.

now think twice - at least after you read the description of the pills or what ever it is -what usually nobody does- and you will hardly find ANY product of the pharma industry without a listing of side effects, in many cases with a remark at the end like this one 'in rare cases it may cause the death' or something similar. BTW - near to all products are mineral oil derivatives ...

I didn't see a doc since over 50 years with 3 exceptions:

#1 - to receive a blaster for some weeks because of a tiny mishap
#2 - to get some eye-drops when I looked into a welding arc by coincidence when an arc occurred where it should have been none
#3 - when I was brought to a doc by my employer when I had a small cut on my hand during my learning years where I received 2 or 3 stiches what would not have been necessary for sure - you know ... business ...

... that's why I'm still healthy ... think about it ...

Sounds like tin foil hat shit to me

 

[diapeybabybrian]

If I became incontinent and wanted my control back,

I would stand in front of the toilet, buck naked, and click on my stopwatch.

Then, Stand there and See how long I could hold it before it came out.

And basically just keep drinking water and standing there squeezing my bladder muscles,

to see if it improves over time.

It would probably take at least a couple days before you notice any improvement.

Let me know if it works.

 

[Miki]

Sounds like tin foil hat shit to me

you expose your level of understanding ,,,

 

[LePew]

you expose your level of understanding ,,,

I think there’s a lot of truth to his post Miki. You’re over generalizing modern medicine and throwing it away as a scam with such fervor. It makes you look a bit crazy imo.

You said that you haven’t seen a doc (mostly) in over 50 years?

I didn't see a doc since over 50 years with 3 exceptions:

#1 - to receive a blaster for some weeks because of a tiny mishap
#2 - to get some eye-drops when I looked into a welding arc by coincidence when an arc occurred where it should have been none
#3 - when I was brought to a doc by my employer when I had a small cut on my hand during my learning years where I received 2 or 3 stiches what would not have been necessary for sure - you know ... business ...

You’ve been really, really lucky. No checkups, no colonoscopy, no blood work that checks for cancer metabolites. You’re just throwing modern medicine away I guess? You’ve been so lucky. My guess is that you’ll see a doctor eventually when you start fearing for your life but it may be too late at that point. Go get checked up before you get a surprise state 3 diagnosis one day and it’s too late.

 

[Miki]

You’re just throwing modern medicine away I guess?

your hunch is right - exactly this! google 'med beds', 'blue light therapy' as well as DNA based magnetic healing methods and you'll learn what real treatment is! are you aware of the fact that in Russia healing methods were developed which work based on the blueprint of the DNA in each cell that allows to regrow lost limbs, teeth, organs etc. by a regrowing process within about 3 month for a limb? all this stuff works without even touching the body, the less injecting chemicals or what so ever, thus with cero side effects in opposition to -let's say- a chemotherapy what is basically nothing else as chemically processed (cleaned) mustard gas from ammunition recycling what would be extreme expensive to dispose.

You’ve been so lucky. My guess is that you’ll see a doctor eventually when you start fearing for your life but it may be too late at that point. Go get checked up before you get a surprise state 3 diagnosis one day and it’s too late.

many thanks for your advice but it is very dispensable for me as knowledge is power - not believe..

 

[LePew]

your hunch is right - exactly this! google 'med beds', 'blue light therapy' as well as DNA based magnetic healing methods and you'll learn what real treatment is! are you aware of the fact that in Russia healing methods were developed which work based on the blueprint of the DNA in each cell that allows to regrow lost limbs, teeth, organs etc. by a regrowing process within about 3 month for a limb? all this stuff works without even touching the body, the less injecting chemicals or what so ever, thus with cero side effects in opposition to -let's say- a chemotherapy what is basically nothing else as chemically processed (cleaned) mustard gas from ammunition recycling what would be extreme expensive to dispose.

Can you please tell me how I can go about regrowing a limb? I like to go really fast on my motorcycle and want some peace of mind that the Russian DNA healing methods can put me back together if I ever become a meat crayon.

 

[Miki]

Can you please tell me how I can go about regrowing a limb? I like to go really fast on my motorcycle and want some peace of mind that the Russian DNA healing methods can put me back together if I ever become a meat crayon.

of course I can - do your own research like I did like all who learned and gathered knowledge before running the mouth and you'll discover even a lot more ... and by the way - each starfish e.g. can regrow a lost arm in case you missed even standard knowledge and that's only one example.

if you would be considered worth to be treated based on your level of consciousness or deemed a liability for society is a question I will not touch ...

 

[LePew]

of course I can - do your own research like I did like all who learned and gathered knowledge before running the mouth and you'll discover even a lot more ... and by the way - each starfish e.g. can regrow a lost arm in case you missed even standard knowledge and that's only one example.

if you would be considered worth to be treated based on your level of consciousness or deemed a liability for society is a question I will not touch ...

Problem is, I'm not a starfish. I'm an ape that fell from a tree.
So is this Atlantean or Russian technology? Do I have to decalcify my pineal gland for this to work?

 

[Miki]

Problem is, I'm not a starfish. I'm an ape that fell from a tree.
So is this Atlantean or Russian technology? Do I have to decalcify my pineal gland for this to work?

I talked about research ... not about running the moth ...