I am just about done with fetlife

ARBBB2 said:
what state are u in? I do know of 2 guys looking for a baby girl
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Im in MA near boston
 
Thedafthatter said:
I signed up for a couple but they have kind of turned into a waste of time as one site turned into mostly littles/babies looking for caregivers and the other one was no one in 500 mile radius :/

I wanna keep trying with fetlife for a bit but twitter sounds like a good option any recommends on stuff to follow on twitter for that sort of thing?
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Oh no, what a bummer! Luckily twitter has much more diversity since the rules are laid back when it comes to adult/kinky content, plus I’ve seen a huge influx of abs and dls on there. I’d say look into hashtags to see what you find and make an introduction post about yourself once you set up your profile.
 
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There are some Boston abdl groups on Fetlife I’m pretty sure. We (mommy and I) upload content regularly on fet. We’re mariofan64-mommy
 
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I think a lot of people use fet as a temporary hookup site rather than looking for long term relationships on it. That being said I’ve seen some decent people on there, you just have to be aware you might need to have to block a lot of perverts while searching for someone normal, because anything free and fetish related is going to attract unsavory weirdos looking for cheap thrills.

Put your hard limits on your profile, might help.
 
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I've only used fetlife to look for munches and get the low down on cons. I have made friends at munches and then friend requested them through fet. I havent logged onto that site since the end of capcon, I hope I remember my password lol.
A few years back I uploaded a few pics to my profile, nothing dirty just some random pics of myself diapered, playing with kid toys, or wearing a onesie, I got some really creepy replies on the pics and dm's from people all over, mind you I'm a straight male and in my profile it basically says I'm not interested in meeting anyone, no online roleplaying, no relationships, yet I still got approached many times, mostly same sex males. So I get it.
 
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Thedafthatter said:
Im in MA near boston
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Oh hey another from MA :) ya many of the events in MA have been cancelled or gone virtual for this year. The only one that I know of that has gone virtual has been "The Boston Munch" which is the monthly first Monday of the month munch. I haven't really been attending that one since I wasn't fan of the vibe, however I did meet 2 people there that I have became friends with. I find a lot of the scene in MA are more kinky IMO, but it could just be there are a lot of shy people like I am or many haven't been looking.
 
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Thedafthatter said:
*raises hand*
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Lol. OK. A grand handle and a good entrance. You have my attention.

Not sure whether my attention is a boon...
 
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BoundCoder said:
My best experience in finding relationships has been to not go looking too hard for them specifically. Join communities, look for and have fun experiences, and you'll just naturally run into people with sympatico sensibilities that you click with.
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This. There's so much haste-makes-waste in online relationships. People need to realize that forming friendships (or more) online isn't all that different from IRL. Do you walk down the street asking strangers to be your friends? Eesh.

Just participate and be somebody worthy of friendship. Good things will usually follow.

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To the points about Fetlife: I've found a use for it myself, but I do go in wearing blinders. Fetlife is not, after all, an ABDL site. It's an all-up fetish/kink site, and as soon as you connect with somebody, your feed is going to be full of whatever other non-ABDL stuff that person is into. When I log in, my screen is instantly filled with amateur porn. Why? Because I followed a few other people who were into cloth diapers or made custom diapers I was interested in. That's all it takes.

But I have a few ABDL pen-pals on Fetlife, and a few local groups I check in on, so there's value in it for me. I just go in with purpose and then leave. It's not a hangout place.
 
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I have never accessed or used FETLIFE.
Anyway, I am in Derry, New Hampshire.
 
Thedafthatter said:
Im in MA near boston
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As for me, I am in Derry, New Hampshire, outside of Massachusetts.
 
I friend of mine who knows all about my little side recommended I join fetlife. I've always been hesitant since I don't want anything sexual at all. It doesn't seem like the go-to side for platonic connections and this thread isn't changing my mind. Lol :D
 
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onecho said:
I friend of mine who knows all about my little side recommended I join fetlife. I've always been hesitant since I don't want anything sexual at all. It doesn't seem like the go-to side for platonic connections and this thread isn't changing my mind. Lol :D
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If I may introduce myself! I’m Mario! As stated before mommy and I are mariofan64-mommy on Fetlife. We’re a couple that keeps it platonic and non sexual. We’ve got several friends on there in the same mind frame. Definitely there are many creepos on there but some of our best friends we’ve met irl have come from Fetlife. You just gatta make sure your profile states exactly what you’re looking for and more importantly what you’re not. There are some good groups for Local munches in almost every city it seems and they’ve never been weird personally for us when we’ve attended. All the best! 😊
 
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I introduced myself to a person of the opposite gender on fetlife. Things were going great. She was into DD/LG, ageplay and a ton of other kinks. A few of her pictures had her drinking from a bottle/using a paci and generally looking cute.

I mentioned "well yeah, I enjoy similar things including diapers"

Holy crap...that fact that I shared totally derailed the entire goddamn chat(this was going on 3+ weeks).

Her reponse was "I'm not into diapers, so I'm not sure how we could ever relate"......

<At that point I was like WTF.....this girl do ageplay, sucks on a custom designed pacifier, wears onesies and that's not remotely relatable????>
 
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quartz200420012 said:
I introduced myself to a person of the opposite gender on fetlife. Things were going great. She was into DD/LG, ageplay and a ton of other kinks. A few of her pictures had her drinking from a bottle/using a paci and generally looking cute.

I mentioned "well yeah, I enjoy similar things including diapers"

Holy crap...that fact that I shared totally derailed the entire goddamn chat(this was going on 3+ weeks).

Her reponse was "I'm not into diapers, so I'm not sure how we could ever relate"......

<At that point I was like WTF.....this girl do ageplay, sucks on a custom designed pacifier, wears onesies and that's not remotely relatable????>
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sounds like she played you... they lead you on and then when you finally open yourself up to them or ask them out, they block you. That happened to me once, i had a good chat with girl then she blocked me, it still hurts
 
AbenaM4GTE said:
sounds like she played you... they lead you on and then when you finally open yourself up to them or ask them out, they block you. That happened to me once, i had a good chat with girl then she blocked me, it still hurts
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Funny thing is I have been looking for platonic friends and not casual hookups. I had to state that when I that person asked me early on. Too bad for them.
 
AbenaM4GTE said:
sounds like she played you... they lead you on and then when you finally open yourself up to them or ask them out, they block you. That happened to me once, i had a good chat with girl then she blocked me, it still hurts
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I've been learning to not get attached its hard when you are living alone with only a small circle of friends
 
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Thedafthatter said:
I've been learning to not get attached its hard when you are living alone with only a small circle of friends
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hey if you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me feel free to DM me friend
 
I'm a straight group lead of a local group in Nevada on fetlife. It's mainly gay and or disabled dudes. Which is fine, but I definitely want a girl to bond with. It's difficult to find chicks in the lifestyle, . Cause dudes are Soo desperately trying to find it they kinda screw it up for people like me. I work, I have a place. I'm trying to put the work in. I have great abdl friends But feel uncomfortable. They don't care but I do. They want things they can have and can get it or have it. Enviois.But because so many push too hard on this lifestyle, guys like me are like quiet children in the background wanting to scream mommy save me (knowing it ain't coming) It sucks. So, I just support their relationship s best I can while dying inside. If I was gay I'd have it soooo easy with this. All of them totally support it. But a girl? One in a million. Perhaps one day
 
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Sorry got off track. FetLife can be good or bad. Definitely difficult for anyone. Just like Facebook. I'm over the ads, the negative, etc, and don't want to use it anymore. FetLife is kinda similier. Both website's have a purpose, but if the purpose isn't being served, why bother??? (Answer for me: because your bored and isolated and not happy with your state of things) It's a tool. I have many great friends from. FetLife over the years. Just gotta take shots I guess
 
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