littleabjames
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Hello I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to come out to my potentional girl friend that i like to wear diapers.
eedoo said:Don't come out too early, don't come out too late.
It's not the first thing they should know about you. Actually, they should get to know you first. The moment to tell them is when you know that this is about to become a serious relationship. It should be as soon as you feel that both of you are beginning to commit to the relationship and to each other. First of all, they have the right to get the full picture of who you are; second, you're still something of a cleanish slate to each other with no preconceptions or expectations; and third, the love you feel for each other early in the relationship makes both telling it and accepting it much easier.
Be cautious, don't overwhelm them. Don't drop a bomb on your partner, but approach it gently. Take your time. Make sure you pick a moment where both of you are fairly relaxed. Do not expect them to understand right away what this is about, try to approach it from their perspective and give them something that helps them better understand your feelings. Be prepared to answer questions, and answer them honestly, in a way that you think they can understand even if they do not share your fantasies.
Don't be overly blunt, but be honest, do not lie. Don't say "I occasionally like to wear diapers" if you do it about once a month or more often. Every lie, every beautification is a burden on your relationship that will either need to be taken back at some point or that will cause problems later on.
Are diapers more than a purely sexual thing for you? Then don't talk about what you do, but rather explain what wearing diapers means to you. It is much more important that your partner understands your motivation and what you gain from the experience than any details of what you do to accomplish this. They will very likely be much less interested in how often you wet your diapers than in what this means to your relationship with them.
And lastly, make sure you have the right priorities. A relationship is always an interaction between two people. Determine whether the relationship is about you and your partner (with diapers as a part of it) or between you and your diapers (and another person somehow involved in it). It should be the former, otherwise the relationship will not work. If it is the former, make sure your partner knows and has no reason to doubt it.
After you have come out to them, be prepared to negotiate just what place diapers and age play will have in your relationship. But that's a different topic.
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