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sbmccue said:I've never had any problems with Craigslist, although I've only found a handful of sitters there. I think what we're looking for is quite tame in comparison to many who post. For example, I quite often see someone wanting a nude housekeeper.
I write a very nebulous initial post, and to those who respond with more than a word or two, I write a somewhat longer response. I first build credibility by telling them a little about myself, then tell them I'm an infantilist and explain the care I'm seeking. I wrap up the response by asking them to let me know if they have questions or interest.
One important point: I never mention diapers in the original post or the response. In fact, I make a habit of not mentioning diapers at all unless the lady brings them up. I might tell her I have a crib and a highchair, for example, but I n-e-v-e-r mention she'll be changing diapers until she asks.
On Craigslist, in particular, you're far more likely to receive 'spam' responses, either from women who are nowhere near you or from cyberstalkers or criminals with no one else to target. I always ask in the original post for some background - experience, education, etc. - and if I don't get it in their reply, I typically do not respond. Also beware of women who send their photo to you in their first reply; usually, they are spammers as well.
Unfortunately, the current generation of women are more apt to respond with a '?' than with a complete sentence. I usually have enough replies that I don't have to answer those who can't even manage a syllable.
Thank you. Especially for the spammer heads up. My respondent sent her resume, with a cover letter. I googled her and found her on LinkedIn, her response matched her LinkedIn profile (she seems to be innocent, small, and in her 30's), she is an International Student from India working on her Masters in Vancouver in Global Health. Was a registered nurse in India and abroad, but her credentials don't transfer to Canada I guess, which is why she is a student. She has about a year of experience locally looking after elderly, but no childcare experience. Based on my Craigslist post, and after re-reading it, I think she may think I am a disabled 40 year old. I did mention Incontinence (diapers) in my post. It comes across as a pretty legitimate ad (I do take pride in my professional writing). I do mention I'm looking for a care giver/nanny, and I'm looking for someone with Adult & Child Care experience, and it is not "Illegal, Immoral, or fattening"
She is still the only respondent after 18 hrs (which may or may not be usual, I don't know for my market). I guess I am now worried that my ad was too vague and emailing her back about being an Infantalist has me worried. I don't want to ruin her innocence/good intentions. I'm wondering now if I should edit the ad to be a little less subtle. And/or if I should respond to her with my actual intentions. I do agree the work isn't too bad in comparison to their regular gig. Just don't want to come across as a perv (maybe that's just me not totally having come to terms with myself).