Seabass743
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Hello, so I guess I'll start with saying Im a DL. So I only today found out this was a thing. I'm 32 and Ive been through a lot to say the least. Traumatic childhood to some messed up stuff in the Marine Corps, I'm an infantryman. Though luckily I wasn't in combat. Being in the military might be why this makes it hard for me to accept this part of myself.
Anyways it started when I was a kid. I'd put toilet paper into thick pads and put them in my underwear. It just felt so soft and satiated my need for touch. My mother was very abusive and never hugged me, let alone my father. I was neglected and verbally and emotionally abused.
Anyways when I was 10 or so I did that and I remember it feeling so good. It wasn't sexual yet, but it did give me an erection at the time. I remember wanting to wear a diaper cause I thought it'd be so soft. You can see that the sensory aspect is what I liked.
Later as a teenager I explored this again but learned about masturbation. It was just very pleasurable and soft to wear it while masturbating. I would do this on and off and accepted this part of me. I still do this every now and then and I have no problem with it.
But yesterday I ordered an incontinence diaper and I've been so judgmental and harsh on myself. See after my service I met a very narcissistic and abusive woman and didn't know it at the time and had a relationship with her. She tried to convince me that I was just like her. Disrespectful, rude, overly judgemental, entitled, every horrible way she treated me she projected onto me. And when I called her out on her abuse she would uno reverse it and accuse me of me being the abuser and she was the victim. Especially when I was mad at her horrible treatment of me.
I struggle with a lot of sexual shame, when before her I didn't. And now I'm getting in touch with this deep vulnerable part of myself and I'm judging myself as if it's a deep shame. But what it really is is the echos of the toxic shame of the past relationship (shamed me for having sex toys, my past partners, watching porn like once a month, like literally shamed me for all of it and made it a problem when it was absolutely not a problem).
She was so crazy I partially went crazy for a time. I had a psychotic break in the relationship as I was leaving. She was just so terrifying how crazy she was and the way she altered my reality almost broke my mind, or maybe it did for awhile. I pulled through, and I'm still healing from her 4 years later. I'm trying to remember who I am and tell myself I'm not her and I'm not a narcissist. I was so loving and kind to her, for one example I never judged her for her piles of dirty laundry, I knew she was just stressed. I loved her despite her emotional torture she did to me.
So now I'm deeply excited to give myself what that 10 or 11 year old wanted to do. He wanted to wear a diaper. And I'm confused, cause I've been around people who would judge me for this, but I've also known people who are accepting. How accepting would they be, I don't know, what's important is I accept and understand myself. I just find it odd being a grown man who doesn't need them but wants to. I know it's a sense of safety thing. And also something to do with touch or being held when I have no one to hold me. Returning to a time of safety feels healing to me. But my head is just so loud with all sorts of thoughts. I just want to feel like myself and feel safe with myself. That person made me out to be a dangerous human and convinced me that I was through her constant reinforcement, yet in reality it was her that was dangerous. I wish I knew earlier and it didn't take me so long to figure it out.
I'm just doing my best to love and understand myself. It certainly helps seeing that I'm not the only one who is into this stuff. I hope that wasn't too much info. Being vulnerable again is difficult.
I do see a therapist but I don't think I'd be open to tell him about this. I need more time and a deeper level of trust.
Thanks for reading. Wishing you well and comfort.
Anyways it started when I was a kid. I'd put toilet paper into thick pads and put them in my underwear. It just felt so soft and satiated my need for touch. My mother was very abusive and never hugged me, let alone my father. I was neglected and verbally and emotionally abused.
Anyways when I was 10 or so I did that and I remember it feeling so good. It wasn't sexual yet, but it did give me an erection at the time. I remember wanting to wear a diaper cause I thought it'd be so soft. You can see that the sensory aspect is what I liked.
Later as a teenager I explored this again but learned about masturbation. It was just very pleasurable and soft to wear it while masturbating. I would do this on and off and accepted this part of me. I still do this every now and then and I have no problem with it.
But yesterday I ordered an incontinence diaper and I've been so judgmental and harsh on myself. See after my service I met a very narcissistic and abusive woman and didn't know it at the time and had a relationship with her. She tried to convince me that I was just like her. Disrespectful, rude, overly judgemental, entitled, every horrible way she treated me she projected onto me. And when I called her out on her abuse she would uno reverse it and accuse me of me being the abuser and she was the victim. Especially when I was mad at her horrible treatment of me.
I struggle with a lot of sexual shame, when before her I didn't. And now I'm getting in touch with this deep vulnerable part of myself and I'm judging myself as if it's a deep shame. But what it really is is the echos of the toxic shame of the past relationship (shamed me for having sex toys, my past partners, watching porn like once a month, like literally shamed me for all of it and made it a problem when it was absolutely not a problem).
She was so crazy I partially went crazy for a time. I had a psychotic break in the relationship as I was leaving. She was just so terrifying how crazy she was and the way she altered my reality almost broke my mind, or maybe it did for awhile. I pulled through, and I'm still healing from her 4 years later. I'm trying to remember who I am and tell myself I'm not her and I'm not a narcissist. I was so loving and kind to her, for one example I never judged her for her piles of dirty laundry, I knew she was just stressed. I loved her despite her emotional torture she did to me.
So now I'm deeply excited to give myself what that 10 or 11 year old wanted to do. He wanted to wear a diaper. And I'm confused, cause I've been around people who would judge me for this, but I've also known people who are accepting. How accepting would they be, I don't know, what's important is I accept and understand myself. I just find it odd being a grown man who doesn't need them but wants to. I know it's a sense of safety thing. And also something to do with touch or being held when I have no one to hold me. Returning to a time of safety feels healing to me. But my head is just so loud with all sorts of thoughts. I just want to feel like myself and feel safe with myself. That person made me out to be a dangerous human and convinced me that I was through her constant reinforcement, yet in reality it was her that was dangerous. I wish I knew earlier and it didn't take me so long to figure it out.
I'm just doing my best to love and understand myself. It certainly helps seeing that I'm not the only one who is into this stuff. I hope that wasn't too much info. Being vulnerable again is difficult.
I do see a therapist but I don't think I'd be open to tell him about this. I need more time and a deeper level of trust.
Thanks for reading. Wishing you well and comfort.
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