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Hi everyone,
So for some context, I moved to the UK from my home country (Spain) in my late teens and since around 12 months after moving here, I haven't spoken to my family back home.
Nothing bad ever happened between us, we just slowly lost touch after I moved. Our last conversation that I remember was mundane discussing weather and plans for easter..etc No argument..etc
They, to the best of my knowledge, could contact me if the wished, but they haven't. I'm on facebook/linkedin under my own name, I've not changed my phone number since moving here and they did have my uk number all that time ago. They don't use social media as best I can tell and I have tried to find them online but was fruitless. I've tried reaching out in the past by phone but they've seemingly changed their numbers and honestly I've never written to them. If they wrote to me, I wouldn't have received it having moved house not long after loosing touch.
From what I do know about them, they're very unlikely to have moved house, if I was to knock their door, I would bet highly in favour of them still living there.
Since moving here, I've married, I have children of my own who have never met their grandparents or their aunt. As best I know, my family don't know that I'm a father or a husband.
But in June we've booked a holiday to a resort 30 km from where I grew up and my wife and I have been discussing the possibility of visiting my parents' house while we're there but honestly after so long, I don't know what I would say to them, or how I would say it.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? I feel in a way that I owe it to my children to give them the opportunity to meet their grandparents on my side. My children for reference are aged 9, 6 and 5.
My only other concern would be that, while my wife and I have done our best to teach Spanish to our children, they can all hold a conversation in basic Spanish, but are only really fluent in English. My parents can't speak English at all.
For better or worse, I'm worried about how they would feel, I don't want either my children or my parents to suffer any un-necessary anxiety/stress/difficulty from something, that really is only for my benefit.
What is the etiquette in this situation? Do I show up alone and then ask them if they would like to meet my wife/children or do we all go together? Do I leave it altogether and just not do this? I don't want to ruin the holiday for my wife/children.
So for some context, I moved to the UK from my home country (Spain) in my late teens and since around 12 months after moving here, I haven't spoken to my family back home.
Nothing bad ever happened between us, we just slowly lost touch after I moved. Our last conversation that I remember was mundane discussing weather and plans for easter..etc No argument..etc
They, to the best of my knowledge, could contact me if the wished, but they haven't. I'm on facebook/linkedin under my own name, I've not changed my phone number since moving here and they did have my uk number all that time ago. They don't use social media as best I can tell and I have tried to find them online but was fruitless. I've tried reaching out in the past by phone but they've seemingly changed their numbers and honestly I've never written to them. If they wrote to me, I wouldn't have received it having moved house not long after loosing touch.
From what I do know about them, they're very unlikely to have moved house, if I was to knock their door, I would bet highly in favour of them still living there.
Since moving here, I've married, I have children of my own who have never met their grandparents or their aunt. As best I know, my family don't know that I'm a father or a husband.
But in June we've booked a holiday to a resort 30 km from where I grew up and my wife and I have been discussing the possibility of visiting my parents' house while we're there but honestly after so long, I don't know what I would say to them, or how I would say it.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? I feel in a way that I owe it to my children to give them the opportunity to meet their grandparents on my side. My children for reference are aged 9, 6 and 5.
My only other concern would be that, while my wife and I have done our best to teach Spanish to our children, they can all hold a conversation in basic Spanish, but are only really fluent in English. My parents can't speak English at all.
For better or worse, I'm worried about how they would feel, I don't want either my children or my parents to suffer any un-necessary anxiety/stress/difficulty from something, that really is only for my benefit.
What is the etiquette in this situation? Do I show up alone and then ask them if they would like to meet my wife/children or do we all go together? Do I leave it altogether and just not do this? I don't want to ruin the holiday for my wife/children.