AB/DL is very misunderstood by the general public...

[PinkyJujubean]

I'm trans and I don't see abdl as being anything like LGBT at all. I see this as more like something I do for fun and therapy. I'm not a baby all the time and it doesn't preoccupy my life in any way. I see it as more of a kink or like playing dress up. I have other interests, hobbies, and a life where that isn't a part of it. I think sometimes we take ourselves too seriously. This is for fun and enjoyment, like being a furry or cosplay.

 

[Lilsteve]

yea it hurts a lot seeing the news and people's comments.

I cant really be too harsh judging them for their ignorance, the same thoughts have gone through my own mind, at one point in my life I was petrified that I would grow up to be a peado, I was dumb and feared that as everything around kids was a turn on it might be how those urges start, when my niece was born I was terrified that I'd do something inappropriate around her but as soon as I spent time with her (we all lived together for a while) I discovered that it was like there was a switch in my head, her mere presence set it to off, and things that only months before that would have excited me were now uninteresting, I have often imagined its like that for parents when small kids interrupt sex, you can go from 100% sex back to full stop in a moment because your brain is programmed to focus on the helpless kids needs. It was a great reassurance when i figured that out. it was also about that time I discovered that ABDL was an actual thing and that I was not the only person in the world with such odd fantasies (thank god for the internet!!!

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

I have had empathy for homosexuals and trans especially even when I was a staunch radical fundamentalist . Abdl I don’t have a choice about , some people may feel they do but I know myself enough to know I don’t . It always comes back often worse . Can resist for a time til the dam breaks . Infantilism is a very deep rooted condition . Anyway we don’t have free will in all things . *** tosses a dice ** did it land there on that spot on that number because of choice , random or destiny. Well cameras with ai can now predict the dice roll so the dice isn’t that random . Had a choice to toss it but where it landed what it landed on was destiny that is partly how tarot cards work is off of synchronicity . We don’t have a choice in everything .

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

I cant really be too harsh judging them for their ignorance, the same thoughts have gone through my own mind, at one point in my life I was petrified that I would grow up to be a peado, I was dumb and feared that as everything around kids was a turn on it might be how those urges start, when my niece was born I was terrified that I'd do something inappropriate around her but as soon as I spent time with her (we all lived together for a while) I discovered that it was like there was a switch in my head, her mere presence set it to off, and things that only months before that would have excited me were now uninteresting, I have often imagined its like that for parents when small kids interrupt sex, you can go from 100% sex back to full stop in a moment because your brain is programmed to focus on the helpless kids needs. It was a great reassurance when i figured that out. it was also about that time I discovered that ABDL was an actual thing and that I was not the only person in the world with such odd fantasies (thank god for the internet!!!

I was absolutely terrified throughout my life even young age that I would be falsely accused as a pedo. I knew I wasn’t a pedo. I was afraid of being misrepresented of being one. I understand that we look weird and I try to forgive them for their ignorance . They honestly just don’t know …. They don’t know what we have gone through

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

How i feel sometimes lol

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

I cant really be too harsh judging them for their ignorance, the same thoughts have gone through my own mind, at one point in my life I was petrified that I would grow up to be a peado, I was dumb and feared that as everything around kids was a turn on it might be how those urges start, when my niece was born I was terrified that I'd do something inappropriate around her but as soon as I spent time with her (we all lived together for a while) I discovered that it was like there was a switch in my head, her mere presence set it to off, and things that only months before that would have excited me were now uninteresting, I have often imagined its like that for parents when small kids interrupt sex, you can go from 100% sex back to full stop in a moment because your brain is programmed to focus on the helpless kids needs. It was a great reassurance when i figured that out. it was also about that time I discovered that ABDL was an actual thing and that I was not the only person in the world with such odd fantasies (thank god for the internet!!!

I only had a fetish for wanting to wear diapers and be in them . It didn’t go beyond that ever. I think I definitely wanted to be babied as a kid though. If I had children they wouldn’t know I’m abdl I wouldn’t expose them to that . I’m very responsible as an adult after all I lived as a legalistic pharisee for years. My stuffed animals I didn’t get until later on in life , pacifier too for me that is non sexual . I can’t stand pedos absolutely hate them would never allow someone to touch a kid like that infront of me . I would go to jail defending the child because I would explode and destroy that person. There is an older aspect of me protects my inner child where if someone hurts my inner child they awaken a personality of mine I call terminator that personality could absolutely destroy them as it is machine like and runs on logic without emotion limited by logic it has ability to turn off emotions . I compared that personality state of mine to a robot since childhood . That personality if they saw my eyes they would see the fire and demons in them . So if they try to hurt a child infront of me I would absolutely go to jail for what I would do to that pedo.

 

[LittleAndAlone]

I only had a fetish for wanting to wear diapers and be in them . It didn’t go beyond that ever. I think I definitely wanted to be babied as a kid though. If I had children they wouldn’t know I’m abdl I wouldn’t expose them to that . I’m very responsible as an adult after all I lived as a legalistic pharisee for years. My stuffed animals I didn’t get until later on in life , pacifier too for me that is non sexual . I can’t stand pedos absolutely hate them would never allow someone to touch a kid like that infront of me . I would go to jail defending the child because I would explode and destroy that person. There is an older aspect of me protects my inner child where if someone hurts my inner child they awaken a personality of mine I call terminator that personality could absolutely destroy them as it is machine like and runs on logic without emotion limited by logic it has ability to turn off emotions . I compared that personality state of mine to a robot since childhood . That personality if they saw my eyes they would see the fire and demons in them . So if they try to hurt a child infront of me I would absolutely go to jail for what I would do to that pedo.

Jail time for protecting a child? I don't think so. In my state under ARS 13-411 it's perfectly acceptable to use up to deadly force to prevent or stop indecent and abusive acts against children if necessary. In fact its covered by least 3 overlapping felonies that permit deadly force.

If I was in a place where I would be arrested for protecting a child I'd already have a battalion of fully autononous weapons to keep police from getting within a mile of me at all times. They wouldn't be able to do anything without self annihilating their entire agency from all sides as soon as they begin to do something hostile and the AI imagers gets a positive match and broadcasts the target priority to the rest of the swarm, sentries, and NLOS systems. Jamming and directed energy countermeasures? Good look to anyone brave enough to power on a priority targeting beacon. Ask SAM operators about HARM systems. Very very very bad move to make a defense engineer with money a dead man walking with nothing to lose. For protecting a child? I'm not some neighborhood thug.

Childhood is sacred. I'd give anything to be a kid again. I'm not kind to anyone who tarnishes something so pure or neglects the gift of childhood wonder. The magic of childhood is the only thing in this shitty greedy nasty competitive 1uppity backstabbing world that is worth a damn. That 51% might entitle themselves with an imaginary power to control what I can or can't do or have with state violence is irrelevant. But for the time being at least my state is on my side of this so apocalypse averted. For now.

 

[TeddyBearCowboy]

So after last night I had to come on here to vent so I could feel a little better. Last night I had friends over to hang out, and we were just talking about random things. At one point we were talking about anime, and someone brought up the fact that countries are starting to crack down on anime porn where girls were said to be of legal age, but were clearly drawn as children. For the record I don't condone any form of child abuse or taking advantage of minors. However I am AB/DL, and like regressing and age-play.

The discussion branched off into different things, and at one point one of my friends mentioned porn where there was an adult "daddy" and a woman who was clearly depicted as a little girl. They didn't know the terminology but they were basically describing age play and daddy dom/little girl relationships. My friends thought this meant an adult male got a woman to dress as a little girl because they wanted to have sex with children, or a father fantasized about having sex with his own children. They also thought that if any toys or other children's objects were in one of these videos, it automatically made it wrong and associated with children. My friends don't know of my AB/DL side so I kept quiet on the subject. It actually made me pretty upset though. They didn't understand that in most cases it's either someone who likes to regress and age-play for various reasons, or a couple in a dom/sub relationship. It's usually just one person who likes to be dominant, and another who likes to be submissive. It's not very different from other more "normal" kinks. The only difference is the sub has a kink for being punished and treated like a kid. It's more for the enjoyment of the sub, not because the dom is a pedophile. The dom is basically just indulging in the kinks of the sub.

All of this has made me realize just how misunderstood AB/DL in general is. People assume that just because someone likes dressing and acting as a kid, or enjoys watching others being treated like it, that it makes them a pedophile. Many of us don't even associate AB/DL with sex at all. For me personally sometimes it's sexual, but a lot of the time it's just relaxing and comforting. I just hope that some day we are better understood, and AB/DL is more normalized like some of the more common kinks. It's too bad there wasn't an easy way to inform the general public about AB/DL and help them understand what it actually is. There's nothing harmful or wrong about being an AB/DL, and I'm still happy to be one. No matter what others think, I've accepted this side of myself as a part of who I am.

I apologize for going on a rant. I usually like to post more positive things, but I had to get this off of my chest.

I get where you are coming from Bunny, as yes, the general population that are not ABDL just don’t understand.

But that is where the conflict comes in. There are lots of things that I too may not understand about other cultures and groups. As I have matured (don’t worry, I’m still a baby) I have realized my own opinions and observations of people and things I didn’t understand were warped and have come more into focus with reality once I had more information and better understood the why and how.

Putting oneself in another’s shoes is the only true way to do this. But in the meantime, realizing that most aren’t going to do this, and as such, they will have a distorted and out of focus view of our community is something we have to live with.

I get the reasons why you didn’t try to correct the conversation that was going on. But perhaps in the future you may find ways to redirect the conversation in a non-disclosing way to yourself, but presenting that their view might be misunderstood. Takes a heap of courage, but perhaps working through a future planned response might help.

Even something such as, “I’ve heard of that and know someone who is ABDL and it has nothing to do with children. Dang, I can’t believe you might think that!” “Get your head out of the gutter girl!”

I mean, that’s just a brainstormed idea for a comeback, but perhaps thinking of a canned response that you can use that fits your own personality might be a good thing to keep in your pocket if this should ever come up again.

 

[Visitor2Earth]

AB/DL should be added to the long list attached to the pride flag. But it is very difficult to change people's minds or even get them to understand. Good post lilpaddedbunny.

No, it should NOT be added to the so-called pride flag!!!

ABDL is NOT a sexual orientation and has NOTHING to do with LGBTQ in ANY way, shape or form!!!

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

I definitely do not have a choice to be ABDL as for me it is very deep rooted . That said it has over the years provided me empathy for LGBT people to relate to them in some sort of way as to look at my own personal struggles

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

I’m confused as to why daily caller and another conservative media site say that abdl is “all men” or mostly men . I’ve known for years that it was more men than women statistically anyway . They haven’t heard of ddlg which the lg is women littles . I support ddlg regardless of who it offends I support those women . My comment is absolutely not an attack on women at all . Not a bigoted men vs women comment either . They act like only men want to be littles , they apparently never heard of ddlg. Which in my opinion compliments abdl as it is easier to find a woman that is accepting among them they are similar to us . I’m into kawaii too which has plenty women as well that is Japanese cute . Oh abdl is “all men” no it isn’t all men , there are women that are littles too and they are valid as well. There are also ddlg women that like to wear diapers that is also valid not all ddlg littles wear diapers they are valid littles too . No they are not pedos for it either neither are their caregivers. I’m guessing they say abdl is “all men” to again falsely portray us as if we are “predators” ; they can’t see the forest for the trees through their cult brainwashing cognitive dissonance. Anyway normies and muggles , one day the truth will prevail and the liars will be exposed. I hope someone one day sues your tabloids for libel.

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

May the goddess of justice bring these liars to humility.

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

People that get into abdl later in life are valid too , if someone lived it since childhood they lived in tremendous fear of being outed for liking to wear diapers and falsely accused . Long enough that it is a ptsd basically . Even those that have gotten into abdl later on would know it is scary to be falsely portrayed . They would know not to quickly accuse someone of the same thing they are terrified of being accused of . Shows a complete disregard for empathy. Straight up narcissistic

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

My ex wife has bpd , it definitely influenced our divorce sadly she split me “all bad”, she would have these extreme mood swings that she would end up depressed a lot . Then blamed me as if I was the sole reason she was depressed . I know in my heart I wasn’t the sole reason I do own up to my faults though in my marriage and sincerely forgive her for not being happy and even blaming me for all her unhappiness . She also made up a bunch of stuff that wasn’t real believes her own lies sadly . Gaslighted herself to justify being with her boyfriend she had an affair on me with . I don’t hate people with bpd we all have something . I know in my heart that not all bpd people are bad so I don’t judge them for having bpd. I used to be angry at bpd because of deep heartbreak from my ex wife . How ever I got over that bitterness . I love women with bpd . I have ocpd that can make me hard to deal with . I would have never left my ex wife even though she had bpd and DID. I studied a lot about bpd after she left to understand her and it helped me heal somewhat. I think she tried to tell me she had bpd but I didn’t remember or know anything about it. If I had known she had bpd I would have been able to more easily navigate our marriage. I would have known some of the logic behind how she acted so I wouldn’t have misunderstood her as much or taken it as personal. She later came out publically about bpd. I’m most attracted to women with bpd I found over the years. I can usually recognize cluster b when I see it after having so much experience around other cluster b type people.

They say that who ever you marry is a reflection of you at the time you married them . I learned a lot about myself being with her for 5 years. I wondered for years why I met her because she caused me so much heartbreak but maybe that was the reason to know myself more. She has DID I have a system too but just not fully split as hers. I’m not cluster b but I have my own personality disorder.

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

On some level everyone has a hard time self reflecting , people spend their entire lives knowing themselves and trying to self reflect. There is a reason why the ancient Greeks said “Know Thy Self”

 

[PamperedBabyBear]

They way I see people is I recognize their inner child especially in people with bpd and it makes it harder to judge people in general . Then you see how heartbreakingly sad it is that there is so much hate in the world .