Do you think the *b/dl community makes better parents?

[kite]

it's just a thought i had, but it seems like people of this community have a better connection to kids probably due to us wanting to be one. i was just wondering on our community's take on this. do you have kids? do you think you were a better parent due to your diapers? did you ever play with their toys? or how about people with baby brothers or sisters? do you get along or get jealous of them getting all the baby things like toys and cuddly attention?

[Kraiden]

I hate babies.

No, seriously, the Irony here is amazing. I can't stand them. I hate the noises they make, the smells they make and the fluids they make. They're fine when they're sleeping, but even when they're making no noises, they're usually plotting what they're gonna do next.

I think everyone's capable of being a good parent, and a shitty one. ABisim really wouldn't make any difference, I don't think. Parenting and ABisim are totally different things.

[Squigma]

Originally Posted by Kraiden

I hate babies.

No, seriously, the Irony here is amazing. I can't stand them. I hate the noises they make, the smells they make and the fluids they make. They're fine when they're sleeping, but even when they're making no noises, they're usually plotting what they're gonna do next.

You are so right. I hate babies and I would NOT be able to look after one - I can only just take care of myself, there's no way I could raise a child.

So far there doesn't seem to be much correlation between *b/dl and parenting skills.

[ayanna]

Well, I like to think I'm a good parent...but then my kids were 14 and 9 before I ever even heard of *BDL...so they were pretty much raised without the influence of *BDL.

That said, I do have a view on this matter. And my view is NO, *BDLs do NOT make better (or even good) parents. Now, I don't know many *BDLs who are parents so I am judging by the comments I've seen made by *BDLs contemplating having children.

The most common threads seem to be "If I ever have kids I'll NEVER potty-train them!" or "If evr hav kid me n wify wil homskool thm!" Well, yes, of course, they'd homeschool them...you can't have 5 year olds going off to their first day of public school wearing diapers! It's just not "kosher"!! Basically these people are saying "I wouldn't potty-train my kid so he/she would be diapered all the time and they'd love it and I'd homeschool them and they'd never have any friends except online, just like me!"

If that is any indication of what *BDL parents would be like, I'd have to say *BDLs would TRULY SUCK at parenting!

Personally, I am of the opinion that children should be potty-trained by the age of 2 (3 at the VERY latest, and that is only if the child absolutely refuses to be trained before then). It's virtually impossible for a child to have a normal relationship with his peers if he is 'different' and diaper-wearing would definitely be DIFFERENT in a primary-school-aged (or older) child! Why do you think they are making the pull-ups and 'good nights' look more and more like 'underwear' for older children? So they can wear them without being TOTALLY HUMILIATED in front of their peers!

Children should also have the opportunity to interact with other children of their own age. (ie through public/private schooling) In some instances I can understand home-schooling children, but only if the child/children in question have outside activities that involve OTHER children!

This is,of course, just my opinion, based on what I've observed. Other than myself, I only know of maybe 3 or 4 *BDLs who are also parents, and they are all of like mind with me...*BDL is to be kept 'behind closed doors' it is NOT to interfere with proper child-rearing. Our children come first at ANY COST!

[IWANTHOTDOG]

I hate babies, thats all there is to it. My mom's a babysitter and being surrounded by them all your life doesn't do too much good.

[Lukie]

Eh... no I don't think *B/DLs would make any better parents than someone who isn't, if anything, it'd be a lot harder for them.

Let's face it, if being a *B/Dl is a sexually driven thing for you, dealing with diapers on a daily basis would just be too awkward and difficult to cope with. Well that's how I've usually felt. Right now, I couldn't possibly have kids - so that's not to say I don't ever want them, but just at this stage in my life I don't think it would be appropriate to start a family. But generally anyway, I can't stand babies. I absolutely can't stand any sound at all that is ear-splitting. It's pisses me right off.

[Colonel Brome Teks]

I am sure I wouldn't make a good parent, I can't even stand my little brother.

[Raccoon]

I think the question "Can being in the *b/dl community make someone a better parent?" is more appropriate. If it opens up a parent to the idea that being different need not doom one to a life of isolation and embarrassment and you can pass that on to your kids - fine. If it means you have more tools to comfort and support your kids, also good. Or that keeping personal things from your kids doesn't make the things bad. Or that a sense of belonging can come from being in a community of like-minded people, and that the internet, with all its dangers offers breathtaking opportunites.

As to stupid ideas like keeping your kids overly long in diapers or other bad, abusive parenting, let us just hope that whoever has such ideas has given them up as unworkable fantasies long before they have kids. If anything can come out of all this, while many people who want kids prove unfit to do so, the people who absolutely do not want kids should not have them.

Some people from any group will make good parents and the rest will not.

[Colonel Brome Teks]

Originally Posted by Raccoon

I think the question "Can being in the *b/dl community make someone a better parent?" is more appropriate. If it opens up a parent to the idea that being different need not doom one to a life of isolation and embarrassment and you can pass that on to your kids - fine. If it means you have more tools to comfort and support your kids, also good. Or that keeping personal things from your kids doesn't make the things bad. Or that a sense of belonging can come from being in a community of like-minded people, and that the internet, with all its dangers offers breathtaking opportunites.

For that, I would totally agree.

[Me :p]

I also don't like babies. They drool on stuff, and have fat faces but skinny bodies, and came out of a vajayjay!

Eeeewwww