The 'Rents and acceptance (general not just *B/DLism)

[Corri]

To Curb a good lot of threads popping up about this.
What is you parents level of acceptance?
What is the one thing you know your parents won't accept about you if ou told them?
Are your parents new school, or old school?
Do they push for higher education, or will they be happy if you just get out of their house?
Examples like the ones above.



On the hole my parents are fairly accepting, almost... too accepting. While they are strict about being a productive member of society, and upholding virtues like post secondary education as long as I am not doing anything illegal, or hurtful to myself or others they don't care. They look out for my safety like they should, sometimes this is a little too looked after, but they more the well know what I do on the internet, in this place, they know about the babyfur art I draw, the internet meets...
They know... and don't particularly care I am gay.
I think they are a bit relived I won't get anyone pregnant or get drafted into the military.
Part of this is due to my father attending art school for 5 years, my mother working in child care, and my step mother getting more degrees then a thermometer, and due to her illnesses knowing what really matters. My folks.. can be abusive, but never about said things.
So yeah....
MY folks also bought me some sleepers and plushies for Christmas.
x_x I always get plushies for Christmas, but... Sleepers are new--ish.

[Darkfinn]

My parents are very old-school. They have one very particular idea about who I am and what I should be... I hate to pop their bubble... but I ain't that guy.

They pushed me to stay in college (we see how well that worked) and they don't think that I should marry LuvsGurl b/c she's "not rich enough". I work hard every day... I may not have a lot, but I value what I do have... and I know my parents would never be proud of me for it.

My mother wasn't happy when I left home... and honestly she'd probably have me back if I wanted to stay there... but I don't.

My mom knows about my past interest in diapers... how much she knows of my current activities I have no idea b/c I try to keep my folks in the dark about my private life... it's none of their business.

To be truthful I wish I lived more than an hour away from them.

[KittyKat]

My mom is accepting of some things and not very accepting of others. My family is very religious so the rules of the Bible apply to us. I'm not sure what my mom would do if I was gay. She definately wouldn't accept it. She would be really mad if I did drugs, drank alcohol, or had sex before marriage. My mom is accepting of my infantilism as long as it's not sexual or involves diapers (which it doesn't). Education is not that important but she wants us all to at least finish high school.

[Fire2box]

What is you parents level of acceptance?

My dad is fine with it. Last night we both slept out in the living room since the power went out in our area for some reason. I had both a plushie and my pacifier with me. Also he normally sleeps out their since he likes sleeping on the floor and he doesn't have a bed anymore lol. I joined him since I am still a bit scarred of pitch black darkness. That's why I have my PC on even at night to serve as a night light.

Anyway my mom on the other hand said this " I accept and love you but I do not (or) can not accept this part of you" referring to the TB/AB/DL aspect of me.

What is the one thing you know your parents won't accept about you if ou told them?

nothing.. the only thing I really ever hid was this stuff.

Are your parents new school, or old school?

A little of both..

Do they push for higher education, or will they be happy if you just get out of their house?

I think they both perfer higher education since they both never really did attend that much college and my mom herself dropped out at 14 or so.

[ballucanb]

I don't really know how much my parents knew, but I'm sure they found stuff when I was out, but nothing was ever said.

They are long gone, and never really said anything while they were here.

[andysetra]

Well, my parents are very new school and accepting (which is surprising on my dad's part considering how 'redneck' his side of the family is...).

My mom knows I'm gay, but my dad doesn't. It's just something that has never come up, and I've waited for a good time to tell him...it never arose. The biggest concern my mom had with my sexuality was how I would get by in a society of intolerant people. She was worried that because of it, life would be harder...which it sort is, but when you think about it EVERYTHING can make life harder...

Neither of my parents know about my *B/DL stuff, nor do they know of any of my other fetishes. As far as the fetish side goes, they probably never will. As far as me sleeping in a sleeper and with a blanket, they don't know either, but I wouldn't have a problem if they did (though my dad would probably be pretty creeped out..).

I get along well with my parents and hope to continue that, but I am sort of glad I don't live with them anymore... it can be stressful if you add the backtalking sister, crying mom, fact that parents hate each other are together for financial convenience, etc... They're good people, just...odd people

[LuvsGurl]

Well it is odd with my parents; they have always wanted me to be what ever I want. They went out of their ways to let me do my own thing. Though my father more so then my mother. I was the child every parent would want, willing to do, and yet dreams to do more.
They were accepting of many things growing up, my Gay friends, my wanting to study something beyond all else. When I showed an interest in art they were more then willing to help me out, and even helped me start a business. Sent me to school, the only thing that they asked of me. Though even when I was changing my degree from Architecture, the thing I had wanted since 5 years old to art they just wanted to know I had it thought through.
For heaven sake it was my mother that called me on mother’s day to tell me that I should move in with DF. (True I was living with him before this and never said anything).
My parents have never been told as much about my diapers, though I know my father saw my dirties when I was visiting once. And most of all they found DF's clothie in the laundry when they were visiting us (my mother can not be trusted not to find something to clean when alone in my home.)

[Charlie F]

Originally Posted by Drew

To Curb a good lot of threads popping up about this.
What is you parents level of acceptance?
What is the one thing you know your parents won't accept about you if ou told them?
Are your parents new school, or old school?
Do they push for higher education, or will they be happy if you just get out of their house?
Examples like the ones above.

My parents are very accepting, I don't think there's anything I could tell them about me that they wouldn't accept, although they would probably not want to know a lot of it in the first place.
I guess they're new school, they haven't pressured me (or my sister) into going to university, they just support whatever we want to do and give necessary advice.

[Estius]

I don't really think my parents are accepting. I'm certain my dad wouldn't be. I think my mom is slightly more accepting than him. I haven't told my dad about infantilism, but I told my mom last night and she wasn't accepting of it, but she didn't totally flip out. I think my dad would receive the infantilism more negatively than my mom did. As for drugs and cigarettes, both of my parents are against that and would kill me if I was addicted to either. I don't blame them. Although, my mom has said that she wouldn't care if I smoked marijuana once or twice in my life. She said she almost expects it. As for sex before the age of eighteen, my dad might be a little upset if I did it. My mom, on the other hand, would only be upset if I didn't use a condom. I don't think she'd mind if I used protection. And again, she somewhat expects me to have sex before age eighteen.

I think my mom is old school. She gets disgusted by homosexuality, and she thinks gay marriage should be illegal. So it just seems like she's living in the past. And about the higher education question, both of my parents will flip out if I don't go to college.

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[Lukie]

Ugh... parents... don't want to live with them, can't live without them, right?

Bascially, that's my philosophy toward my parents right about now. As of late, I've just been growing numb toward them and their ideals, which I know isn't a healthy thing to do. Essentially, they are types of people who draw on both "old school" and "new school" lifestyles, which as a child sent me a few mixed messages. I really do need them right now to provide me with shelter and the basic life-essentials, but to me it really feels like I have to get out of here sometime in the near future.

I've always been given a greater degree of independence than my peers. Age 7, they allowed me to watch a few 15+ and 18+ movies (not porn); they let me try out the taste of alcohol at age 8; in Summer, age 10, they dropped me off at the pool by myself; by 11, was allowed to the cinema without their supervision... they've always harboured the ideal that you learn best when you actually have to experience it, instilling a greater degree of independence and self-esteem over my peers. It still holds true, I can muster the confidence to walk into a situation and be able to deal with it. If there's one thing they hammered into me, it's that (figuratively speaking), "At the end of the day, you don't have to worry about anything." This liberalness in their approach to raising me has allowed me to define myself on the basis of my experiences, not ideals and concepts that are implanted into my head. The always encouraged me to be the best I can and make do with what I've got. Education-wise, they said they didn't care what my interests were, as long as I tried my best in them, giving me their full support.

Unfortunately though, as a result, some of my personality traits, own ideals and feelings conflict greatly with their "old school" belief in things. Just as an example, on the topic of sexuality, they absolutely despise the concept of homosexuality - they are straight to the point and show their loathing for it at any possible chance. I can't quite put into words their attitude toward gay/lesbian people... If only you could have heard what they've said about my cousin who came out a few years ago, you'd grasp just how serious this is to them. Now obviously, this conflicts greatly with my own sexuality (in that, I do swing more toward guys)... basically put, they've said if they knew I were that way, they'd disown me. They tend to take a very traditional approach to relationships. What infuriates me greatly is that they usually offer no justification for their beliefs, they simply "say, and be done with".

I can't stand close-mindedness in people. That type of attitude is merely a reflection of their own pitfalls, issues and insecurities. It's a fear of the unknown, of something they are not a part of and they have not the willingness to understand. My parents take things purely at face-value, and it's a mental trait that I've inherited and fought fiercely with over the years to rid myself of. It isn't a matter of simply not having the capacity to understand issues and look at the whole picture, it's a vociferous refusal to understand the intricate details, as well as a refusal to basing opinions and feelings on full-knowledge. I don't think after years of putting up with such constant nonsense, I can readily move on from it.