Infantilism: a curse?

Kovalchuk · 15-08-2008

Many of us think of infantilism as a curse, something that they think their lives would be incredibly better without. But, I ask you- is it really that bad? Sure, it has its bad bits, like the feeling of being all alone with it, or having unsupportive family or friends. However, it could be much worse! Think about it, having a diaper fetish harms no one, unlike if you were, say, a rape or murder fetishist. Also, it gives us a way to be happy, anytime we have an opportunity.

So, I leave you with a question: considering the above, if you had the opportunity to be or not to be a *B/DL, what would you do?

Cubby · 15-08-2008

nope im happy as i am. God made me and im happy with that.
i could be worst of im thankful i have my family and health i could be some drunk or druggy.

Kovalchuk · 15-08-2008

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Originally Posted by Mandy_Jonas

nope im happy as i am. God made me and im happy with that.
i could be worst of im thankful i have my family and health i could be some drunk or druggy.

Exactly my philosophy.

Cubby · 15-08-2008

i dont see anything wrong with what we do so its all good ^^

Pojo · 15-08-2008

I honestly have never heard anyone say that it's a curse persay...But I'm fine with it...I don't know what I'd do with my time without it...I'd say that it's better than have some other kind of fetish that could be dangerous...

Jaiden · 15-08-2008

It's what you make it.

If you obsess over inftantilism, worry about being found out and feel freakish, flawed, strange or alone then it will become a curse in your mind and take on those characteristics, or rather those will be the characteristics and emotions you associated with it. You'd be more or less conditioning yourself not to be content with the way you are. I think it can be a bad thing if it's not in balance with your life but most who are uncomfortable with their infantilism make their own problems just by being uncomfortable. It's understandable to think it a curse because it's a confusing, complicated and little-known thing that doesn't fit in line with a lot of social norms but ultimately you govern yourself and play the cards you're dealt in life. It has no indelible definition or characteristic, it's just how you handle it.

Most, maybe with a little help from places like this, handle it fine and, for me, as a rule, if a thing doesn't hurt anyone and it's what a person wants to do then I'm perfectly happy to support them in doing it. Fetishism or anything atypical can bring complications, sure, but variety, kinks, quirks and oddities are interesting and fun as well, and there is nothing wrong in having fun just because you do so in an uncommon way. In terms of concern over reactions, image and acceptance, forgive the rather hackneyed saying but, those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care - you have to accept yourself before you can get anywhere in life and not let stuff like this bother or conflict you.

So would I change it? Eh, not sure. It's like asking if I would change having blond hair or growing up with an elder sister - it's just part of what I am and how I tick and I've got no point of reference to tell whether it would be worth changing. Having the predilections I do certainly doesn't bother me though and I've no reason to feel shame over it so what I think matters is not so much what you are but how you work with it.

Martin · 15-08-2008

Just like a lot of other stuff, it's a part of who I am and I wouldn't want to change that for the world. Yes, it brings some troubles. So do a lot of other things I say the same of. It's part of me and I am who I am, no need to change that or I won't be me.

Rahara · 15-08-2008

This is touchy for me. I wish I could be happy with it, but at this age, it's like saying I'm cursed with wanting to be a chef. I really can't be to my fullest extent since there are too many variables in the way.

On one hand, the thoughts of being small again, needing a diaper and eating out of a high chair make me blissful inside, but then I open my eyes and the fantasy comes crashing down and it greatly depresses me.

It's just something I can't set in stone yet, but yes, sometimes it feels like a curse, but other times, it feels like an unimaginable gift.

Maverick · 15-08-2008

No way! I would never want to give up my infantilism! I love being an infantilist. Pretending to be a baby just brings me so much satisfaction, that I would just never want to give it up. It's a huge part of me, and to give up my infantilism would be to give up a huge part of myself. Sure, it sucks we'll never be babies again, but I still like to fantasize. And sure, infantilism makes it harder to find a supportive partner, but I think that when an infantilist does find a supportive partner, it's worth it.

Fire2box · 15-08-2008

I wanted to give it up before but now I know how to handle it. But back when I was a kid and thought I was alone in this I wanted to get rid of it any way possible.

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Yes, I would lose my *B/DL-ism ASAP!	4	8.89%
No, I'm happy as I am.	34	75.56%
Undecided	7	15.56%
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15-08-2008	#1 (permalink)
Kovalchuk Czar of the Diaper Aisle Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: ✖✖✖ Hell ✖✖✖ Age: 15 Posts: 753 Threads: 104 Gallery Uploads: 7 Wiki Edits: 2	Infantilism: a curse? Many of us think of infantilism as a curse, something that they think their lives would be incredibly better without. But, I ask you- is it really that bad? Sure, it has its bad bits, like the feeling of being all alone with it, or having unsupportive family or friends. However, it could be much worse! Think about it, having a diaper fetish harms no one, unlike if you were, say, a rape or murder fetishist. Also, it gives us a way to be happy, anytime we have an opportunity. So, I leave you with a question: considering the above, if you had the opportunity to be or not to be a *B/DL, what would you do?

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Cubby Lighting Designer Join Date: May 2008 Location: Texas, USA Age: 14 Posts: 651 Threads: 18 Gallery Uploads: 4 Blog Entries: 17	nope im happy as i am. God made me and im happy with that. i could be worst of im thankful i have my family and health i could be some drunk or druggy.

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Cubby Lighting Designer Join Date: May 2008 Location: Texas, USA Age: 14 Posts: 651 Threads: 18 Gallery Uploads: 4 Blog Entries: 17	i dont see anything wrong with what we do so its all good ^^

15-08-2008	#5 (permalink)
Pojo I rape your post count Historical Donor Staff Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Cow-Land, VA Age: 18 Posts: 3,899 Threads: 62 Gallery Uploads: 6 Wiki Edits: 98 Blog Entries: 19	I honestly have never heard anyone say that it's a curse persay...But I'm fine with it...I don't know what I'd do with my time without it...I'd say that it's better than have some other kind of fetish that could be dangerous...

15-08-2008	#6 (permalink)
Jaiden Regular Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: England Age: 21 Posts: 307 Threads: 11 Wiki Edits: 1 Blog Entries: 3	It's what you make it. If you obsess over inftantilism, worry about being found out and feel freakish, flawed, strange or alone then it will become a curse in your mind and take on those characteristics, or rather those will be the characteristics and emotions you associated with it. You'd be more or less conditioning yourself not to be content with the way you are. I think it can be a bad thing if it's not in balance with your life but most who are uncomfortable with their infantilism make their own problems just by being uncomfortable. It's understandable to think it a curse because it's a confusing, complicated and little-known thing that doesn't fit in line with a lot of social norms but ultimately you govern yourself and play the cards you're dealt in life. It has no indelible definition or characteristic, it's just how you handle it. Most, maybe with a little help from places like this, handle it fine and, for me, as a rule, if a thing doesn't hurt anyone and it's what a person wants to do then I'm perfectly happy to support them in doing it. Fetishism or anything atypical can bring complications, sure, but variety, kinks, quirks and oddities are interesting and fun as well, and there is nothing wrong in having fun just because you do so in an uncommon way. In terms of concern over reactions, image and acceptance, forgive the rather hackneyed saying but, those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care - you have to accept yourself before you can get anywhere in life and not let stuff like this bother or conflict you. So would I change it? Eh, not sure. It's like asking if I would change having blond hair or growing up with an elder sister - it's just part of what I am and how I tick and I've got no point of reference to tell whether it would be worth changing. Having the predilections I do certainly doesn't bother me though and I've no reason to feel shame over it so what I think matters is not so much what you are but how you work with it.

15-08-2008	#7 (permalink)
Martin What's up doc? Historical Donor Staff Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: The Netherlands Age: 17 Posts: 1,979 Threads: 35 Gallery Uploads: 127 Wiki Edits: 89 Blog Entries: 26	Just like a lot of other stuff, it's a part of who I am and I wouldn't want to change that for the world. Yes, it brings some troubles. So do a lot of other things I say the same of. It's part of me and I am who I am, no need to change that or I won't be me.

15-08-2008	#8 (permalink)
Rahara Regular Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Alabama, US Age: 16 Posts: 125 Threads: 15 Gallery Uploads: 1 Reputation: 3	This is touchy for me. I wish I could be happy with it, but at this age, it's like saying I'm cursed with wanting to be a chef. I really can't be to my fullest extent since there are too many variables in the way. On one hand, the thoughts of being small again, needing a diaper and eating out of a high chair make me blissful inside, but then I open my eyes and the fantasy comes crashing down and it greatly depresses me. It's just something I can't set in stone yet, but yes, sometimes it feels like a curse, but other times, it feels like an unimaginable gift.

15-08-2008	#9 (permalink)
Maverick The Little Nonconformist Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: New Jersey, USA Age: 15 Posts: 1,203 Threads: 25 Gallery Uploads: 4 Wiki Edits: 2 Blog Entries: 1	No way! I would never want to give up my infantilism! I love being an infantilist. Pretending to be a baby just brings me so much satisfaction, that I would just never want to give it up. It's a huge part of me, and to give up my infantilism would be to give up a huge part of myself. Sure, it sucks we'll never be babies again, but I still like to fantasize. And sure, infantilism makes it harder to find a supportive partner, but I think that when an infantilist does find a supportive partner, it's worth it.

15-08-2008	#10 (permalink)
Fire2box Meh Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: California,USA Age: 21 Posts: 1,715 Threads: 20 Gallery Uploads: 8 Wiki Edits: 2 Blog Entries: 4	I wanted to give it up before but now I know how to handle it. But back when I was a kid and thought I was alone in this I wanted to get rid of it any way possible.