Is there a way out?

Korey · 24-07-2008

Is there........?

Ryan_d · 24-07-2008

Explain more? out of what?

Korey · 24-07-2008

Hmmm...

Ryan_d · 24-07-2008

Sorry., this topic has been made before, please use search next time.

Also here is a link to the other topic

A way to stop the fetish?

enjoy.

Korey · 24-07-2008

Thanks

kind of a weak thread though...

Ryan_d · 24-07-2008

Quote:

Originally Posted by Korey

Thanks

kind of a weak thread though...

Ya, but I think most think.... you cant help it....

Korey · 24-07-2008

...........

Tsendo · 24-07-2008

I think TBism can only be a handicap if you're too extreme with it (it interfears with your normal life). I see no reason that TBism should prevent you from having other "normal" interests. It's just a kink and nothing more.

Everyone fears the possibility of relationship troubles because of their fetish, but this is something that anyone who is a little odd sexually will have to deal with someday. I know that some people are afraid that their AB/DLism will make them lonely and unable to find a partner. To my knowledge this fear is completely false and ungrounded in reality. It is my experience that most *B/Dls manage to achieve normal and happy relationships.

In regaurds to their being a "way out", to my knowledge one does not exist. I have heard many stories of people feeling guilty and trying to quit their fetish but I cannot think of a single case where someone has acheived this goal.

The way I look at my own *B/Dlism is that it's something I will be stuck with forever so I might as well enjoy it. I'll be a lot happier than if I don't.

Jonathan · 24-07-2008

I finally decided that since it's just another "intrest", that there's no reason I should not pursue it if it makes me happy. It's not illegal, and certainly not harmful. Now, I may have times where it does not interest me as much, but I tried the whole "quitting" thing with limited success. I don't think stifling a perfectly legitimate interest is worth it, when it's such a small thing.

I did, however, read in another thread just moments ago about wether anyone would be willing to do a youtube series or something. Even though I feel it's a legitimate interest, it's not something I'm willing to be comepletely open about. Some people like anal sex, too. That's a legitimate interest, but not necessarily one I WANT to know about.
It's the same way with the wearing and using of diapers... It's fine, but not something you probably want to proclaim to the world.

What I'm getting at is that it's not like a drug or something, that you can get addicted to, and have a "quitting" stage. As long as it's an interest of yours, it probably will be until you replace it with other interests. That's the only way I've ever been able to "quit" is by filling my time and spending my money on other things.

Just my $.02

Valerye · 24-07-2008

Knife balls.... brain-acid... nbut yeah not safe ways D:

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Ryan_d Regular Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: California, USA, East Bay Age: 17 Posts: 243 Threads: 18 Blog Entries: 1	Explain more? out of what?

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Ryan_d Regular Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: California, USA, East Bay Age: 17 Posts: 243 Threads: 18 Blog Entries: 1	Sorry., this topic has been made before, please use search next time. Also here is a link to the other topic A way to stop the fetish? enjoy.

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Korey Regular Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 127 Threads: 11 Reputation: 4	Thanks kind of a weak thread though...

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Tsendo VIP Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Boston and Virginia. Age: 19 Posts: 108 Threads: 5 Gallery Uploads: 1 Wiki Edits: 1	I think TBism can only be a handicap if you're too extreme with it (it interfears with your normal life). I see no reason that TBism should prevent you from having other "normal" interests. It's just a kink and nothing more. Everyone fears the possibility of relationship troubles because of their fetish, but this is something that anyone who is a little odd sexually will have to deal with someday. I know that some people are afraid that their AB/DLism will make them lonely and unable to find a partner. To my knowledge this fear is completely false and ungrounded in reality. It is my experience that most B/Dls manage to achieve normal and happy relationships. In regaurds to their being a "way out", to my knowledge one does not exist. I have heard many stories of people feeling guilty and trying to quit their fetish but I cannot think of a single case where someone has acheived this goal. The way I look at my own B/Dlism is that it's something I will be stuck with forever so I might as well enjoy it. I'll be a lot happier than if I don't.

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Jonathan Regular Historical Donor Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Saint Joseph, MI Posts: 342 Threads: 12 Wiki Edits: 7 Reputation: 5	I finally decided that since it's just another "intrest", that there's no reason I should not pursue it if it makes me happy. It's not illegal, and certainly not harmful. Now, I may have times where it does not interest me as much, but I tried the whole "quitting" thing with limited success. I don't think stifling a perfectly legitimate interest is worth it, when it's such a small thing. I did, however, read in another thread just moments ago about wether anyone would be willing to do a youtube series or something. Even though I feel it's a legitimate interest, it's not something I'm willing to be comepletely open about. Some people like anal sex, too. That's a legitimate interest, but not necessarily one I WANT to know about. It's the same way with the wearing and using of diapers... It's fine, but not something you probably want to proclaim to the world. What I'm getting at is that it's not like a drug or something, that you can get addicted to, and have a "quitting" stage. As long as it's an interest of yours, it probably will be until you replace it with other interests. That's the only way I've ever been able to "quit" is by filling my time and spending my money on other things. Just my $.02

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Valerye Regular Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Lafayette, Louisiana A little to the left of The high way. D: Age: 16 Posts: 867 Threads: 29 Gallery Uploads: 51 Wiki Edits: 14 Blog Entries: 25 Reputation: 4	Knife balls.... brain-acid... nbut yeah not safe ways D: