question/help

[anonymous kiba]

I told my mom once that i was into diapers and wow that didn't go well she told to throw any diapers away that i had told me that the diaper fetish was weird and i shouldn't be into it. so i told her ok and just made her think i gave it up. But how do i make her under stand that this isn't some sick thing, or should i even ever bring it up again.

[Kenshin Himura]

Understanding Infantilism

[Maverick]

You can't.

[Trevor]

Originally Posted by Maverick

You can't.

I know brevity is the soul of wit and all, but maybe not so much the soul of helpful support.

To the original question, I think you need to step back and answer why you would need your parents to know about this. It's not a shameful thing, but I think it is a private one and better shared with those who have a distinct need to know (any future serious relationship person, for example). Your mother has already made it clear she's not on board with it, and without her having a need to know, it seems to me you'd be better off leaving her out of the whole thing.

[Fire2box]

Originally Posted by Maverick

You can't.

I never seen that proven yet but then on the other hand I never got my own parents to understand either. Really the only time I bring it up to my mom is when I want to screw around with her mind and only when she is slightly drunk. Which for last weekend was nearly all the time.

Anyways tell your parents should be planed out carefully, you only get to tell them once after that they know. Its sort of like first impressions they are pretty damn hard to change. But if she thinks wearing diapers is sick like my mom thinks then my advice is for you to leave it alone.

[Pojo]

You probably shouldn't have brought it up to begin with...I think it would just be best if you two forgot it happened, and you just go on with your lives...If you honestly want her to know, then show her sites that will help her understand...

[mzkkbprmt]

Well firstly, when you are ready, I would bring it up. I know from personal experience that if parents know it is there concealment is very tricky. That doesn't mean, however, that you should go and try explaining it now. There are a number of important things to consider

1) When you bring it up - What mood is your mum in? Does she have time to listen? This is important. She has to have time to listen and be generally in a good mood because she is going to be talking about something she isn't comfortable with and it might take some time. Also, you have to be certain you are ready.

2) Balance personal experience and the internet. Pages like understanding infantilism explain it better than I ever could, but that doesn't mean it is the be all and end all. Try to get your personal feelings into it. Don't push it too far though - bombardment won't work.

3) Try to cover all the bases. You don't know if it is a knee jerk reaction in general or there is something in particular she is worried about. If you push it she is likely to try and rationalise why she doesn't think it is right - have counter arguments prepared against obvious ones like "it is dangerous" or "you might get caught"

4) Don't be distraught if it doesn't work. This is a very difficult concept for her because it is completely different, and all her human nature is screaming at her that it is wrong because it is different. Although from the sound of it you could have had a worse reaction (believe me, you could), don't be surprised if she doesn't change her mind. It is a big thing to get her head round, and even if she eventually accepts it it is likely to take time.


Hope that is of help, and good luck.

[BabyGrizzy]

For the love of god, I KNOW you can speak good English, just TRY to punctuate.

To answer your question: You really can't change her mind.

[dogboy]

As this topic comes up quite frequently, and understandably, it is generally accepted that it is very difficult to tell parents. Part of the problem is that you are revealing your sexual fetish, which most parents are going to be very uncomfortable with. It's hard enough for us to explain the birds and the bees.

Secondly, parents may feel that your infantilism is somehow their fault, and therefor they are going to feel guilty. As stated above by others, what is your motivation for telling? Even as an adult, I often want to talk about it to my wife, but I don't because I know it would make her uncomfortable. If you think your mom will understand and buy you diapers, that probably won't happen, because she would feel like she was enabling your condition.

My advise would be to wait until she brings it up, which may very well happen. We have had members on this site reveal that their moms or dads have asked how is there "diaper thing". One member said his mom asked him at a Taco Bell which was pretty amusing actually. And a very few members have said that their parents either accept their TB/DLism, and even supply diapers. It's rare however. Be warned. My mom took me to a psychiatrist, and it was very embarrassing to have to talk about "that"!

[stanfordhawks]

When Kids Love Diapers