Telling A Former

applebeary · 24-09-2009

-headdesk- You guys are probably going to give me the third degree about this.

Yesterday was my high. My first day back in diapers, unnoticed, comfortable, and secure. I felt really good about myself and everything.

My ex-boyfriend, Mike, came online WoW, and we started talking again. Frequently we bring up 'sexual' things in our conversation, only because even after our break up we continue to be attracted to each other. I told him I was feeling fantastic, like I was riding this high I couldn't explain. I told him how I felt empowered with myself, like I had accomplished something marvelous. Asking him if he had ever felt like that, he gave me a mediocre analogy to it, and I told him it wasn't even close, then told him to forget it, figuring he wouldn't understand.

THAT peaked his interest.

We spent the next three hours talking back and forth, Mike trying to figure out what I was talking about. And, like how I am, he one by one broke down my walls and discovered I was talking about my fetish. No matter what, I told myself I wouldn't tell anyone for fear of the reaction, but I cracked and told him how I love to act like a child. I mentioned some of my more 'favorable' tools, like paddles, outfits, pacifiers, etc etc, but I never mentioned diapers in case that would freak him the heck out.

But... the weird thing was... he didn't freak out. His response was out of this world. He sent me back a message saying "That's it? You were freaking out about THAT?". Once I admitted to it, he said that was definitely something not to freak out about, and that, well, when we were dating, he loved when I behaved like a child instead of my own age during roleplay with 'punishment' (I'm sure most of you know what I mean).

The thing is, I feel I've gotten over a hurdle, but this leaves me a little worried. We've always spoken of becoming sex partners in the future, but I feel like a dirty liar for not telling him one of the most important parts of my fetish. What the heck am I supposed to do?

zach · 25-09-2009

easy one.
tell him.
odviously if you told him your like to suck on pacifiers which babies DO use, babies DO use diapers. if he likes it when you act like that. im sure he wont have a problem. ive told my friends before or tried to but they just blow it off like.. "what the heck?" or "thats wierd.." and then we just forget about it.

Babymullet Ver 9.8 · 25-09-2009

I would call you a dirty liar if you were confronted before hand, and then lied about it. But since it seems to me like you were coaxed into telling about the fetish, I wouldn't worry about. You had a legitimate fear on telling your partner, and it's something that takes a different amount of time for everyone to tell someone else.

You're over the hurdle, take a deep breath and enjoy the freedom of conversation you now have

applebeary · 25-09-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by Babymullet Ver 9.8

I would call you a dirty liar if you were confronted before hand, and then lied about it. But since it seems to me like you were coaxed into telling about the fetish, I wouldn't worry about. You had a legitimate fear on telling your partner, and it's something that takes a different amount of time for everyone to tell someone else.

You're over the hurdle, take a deep breath and enjoy the freedom of conversation you now have

-nod nod-

He knows me inside and out, front and back, however you wanna spell it out. He can guess pretty much every single thing I'll ever do. I'm just afraid about mentioning the last, and biggest, part of my fetish. I know it won't be for a while, but I'm trying to figure out how. Any advice on this would be fantabulous.

**Damon Gant** · 26-09-2009

The reason he didn't freak out over the everything-but-the-diapers part originally is because it really isn't that huge a thing for everyone else. We just think it is. You'll probably tell him about the diapers bit and he'll be like "ok w/e".

KodyNewlight · 26-09-2009

I think you'll be ok, just take it slow, take a deep breath, and when you feel like you're ready, talk it out with him.

I can say that the people I've told that found the diaper part of it all weird were just kinda like "oooookay" and we left it at that...either way, I'm pretty sure you'll be alright.

deep breath...now let it out....good.

Xboxbaby · 27-09-2009

His reaction reminds me of an experience I had myself. I once was talking to someone online and somehow I ended up telling him about my diaper obsession. He said "that's not bad" Shocked me too. I think people themselves have things they hide that might be worst than a diaper fetish

Raos · 28-09-2009

I remember when I was talking with a sexual partner one night, and we moved on to the topic of stuff we liked and secrets. I got really worked up but she kept on prodding so I spilled the beans about my diaper fetish and she just said; "Is that it? I was expecting something completely different lol."

And then the conversation moved on as if nothing happened. I was overjoyed; She doesn't really mind if I bring it up in conversation once in a while either, which means there's a way of letting out any frustrations I have.

The point is, you never know what someone's reaction is going to be, but if you've gotten this far and he hasn't reacted unfavourably, then just take the final plunge - if he does a complete turn-around and starts hating you then he wasn't worth it in the first place. It doesn't seem like he's gonna start hating you, so why not go for it?

Higher Than Hope · 29-09-2009

I think it was a good idea testing the water first, and now that you know where he stands with it, it is truly up to you. If you do tell him, if you like to mess just don't tell him that, and if you ever hang with him and you're diapered dont mess, and thats the best advice i could give.

Angusmac · 29-09-2009

I've always been a big fan of not telling...but it sounds as if most of it is out on the table already. As others have said, diapers just go hand in hand with pacies and other baby items, I doubt he'll be weirded out.

You are very lucky to be a member of a generation whose sexual interests will be seen as less strange in the course of time. The openess of the internet has brought to light the worlds "dirty little secrets" and the more we all learn about them, the less strange they become. Although there are some dark things out there which I believe will, and should remain on the "strange" side, a diaper fetish is pretty tame in the grand scheme of things.

Good Luck.

-Gus

24-09-2009	#1 (permalink)
applebeary Regular Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: USA Posts: 65 Threads: 6 Reputation: 0	Telling A Former -headdesk- You guys are probably going to give me the third degree about this. Yesterday was my high. My first day back in diapers, unnoticed, comfortable, and secure. I felt really good about myself and everything. My ex-boyfriend, Mike, came online WoW, and we started talking again. Frequently we bring up 'sexual' things in our conversation, only because even after our break up we continue to be attracted to each other. I told him I was feeling fantastic, like I was riding this high I couldn't explain. I told him how I felt empowered with myself, like I had accomplished something marvelous. Asking him if he had ever felt like that, he gave me a mediocre analogy to it, and I told him it wasn't even close, then told him to forget it, figuring he wouldn't understand. THAT peaked his interest. We spent the next three hours talking back and forth, Mike trying to figure out what I was talking about. And, like how I am, he one by one broke down my walls and discovered I was talking about my fetish. No matter what, I told myself I wouldn't tell anyone for fear of the reaction, but I cracked and told him how I love to act like a child. I mentioned some of my more 'favorable' tools, like paddles, outfits, pacifiers, etc etc, but I never mentioned diapers in case that would freak him the heck out. But... the weird thing was... he didn't freak out. His response was out of this world. He sent me back a message saying "That's it? You were freaking out about THAT?". Once I admitted to it, he said that was definitely something not to freak out about, and that, well, when we were dating, he loved when I behaved like a child instead of my own age during roleplay with 'punishment' (I'm sure most of you know what I mean). The thing is, I feel I've gotten over a hurdle, but this leaves me a little worried. We've always spoken of becoming sex partners in the future, but I feel like a dirty liar for not telling him one of the most important parts of my fetish. What the heck am I supposed to do? Last edited by applebeary; 24-09-2009 at 10:10 PM. Reason: font coding off, woops

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25-09-2009	#2 (permalink)
zach Regular Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: cda, idaho Posts: 124 Threads: 17 Reputation: -2	easy one. tell him. odviously if you told him your like to suck on pacifiers which babies DO use, babies DO use diapers. if he likes it when you act like that. im sure he wont have a problem. ive told my friends before or tried to but they just blow it off like.. "what the heck?" or "thats wierd.." and then we just forget about it.

25-09-2009	#3 (permalink)
Babymullet Ver 9.8 VIP Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Oregon Age: 20 Posts: 716 Threads: 39 Gallery Uploads: 8 Blog Entries: 5 Reputation: 26	I would call you a dirty liar if you were confronted before hand, and then lied about it. But since it seems to me like you were coaxed into telling about the fetish, I wouldn't worry about. You had a legitimate fear on telling your partner, and it's something that takes a different amount of time for everyone to tell someone else. You're over the hurdle, take a deep breath and enjoy the freedom of conversation you now have

26-09-2009	#5 (permalink)
Damon Gant Newbie Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: DS Posts: 19 Threads: 0 Reputation: 1	The reason he didn't freak out over the everything-but-the-diapers part originally is because it really isn't that huge a thing for everyone else. We just think it is. You'll probably tell him about the diapers bit and he'll be like "ok w/e".

26-09-2009	#6 (permalink)
KodyNewlight Regular Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Alabama, USA Age: 18 Posts: 113 Threads: 1 Blog Entries: 4 Reputation: 4	I think you'll be ok, just take it slow, take a deep breath, and when you feel like you're ready, talk it out with him. I can say that the people I've told that found the diaper part of it all weird were just kinda like "oooookay" and we left it at that...either way, I'm pretty sure you'll be alright. deep breath...now let it out....good.

27-09-2009	#7 (permalink)
Xboxbaby Regular Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Arizona Age: 16 Posts: 128 Threads: 13 Reputation: 5	His reaction reminds me of an experience I had myself. I once was talking to someone online and somehow I ended up telling him about my diaper obsession. He said "that's not bad" Shocked me too. I think people themselves have things they hide that might be worst than a diaper fetish

28-09-2009	#8 (permalink)
Raos Regular Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Scotland, UK Age: 19 Posts: 31 Threads: 1 Reputation: 1	I remember when I was talking with a sexual partner one night, and we moved on to the topic of stuff we liked and secrets. I got really worked up but she kept on prodding so I spilled the beans about my diaper fetish and she just said; "Is that it? I was expecting something completely different lol." And then the conversation moved on as if nothing happened. I was overjoyed; She doesn't really mind if I bring it up in conversation once in a while either, which means there's a way of letting out any frustrations I have. The point is, you never know what someone's reaction is going to be, but if you've gotten this far and he hasn't reacted unfavourably, then just take the final plunge - if he does a complete turn-around and starts hating you then he wasn't worth it in the first place. It doesn't seem like he's gonna start hating you, so why not go for it?

29-09-2009	#9 (permalink)
Higher Than Hope Regular Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: USA Posts: 47 Threads: 3 Reputation: 1	I think it was a good idea testing the water first, and now that you know where he stands with it, it is truly up to you. If you do tell him, if you like to mess just don't tell him that, and if you ever hang with him and you're diapered dont mess, and thats the best advice i could give.

29-09-2009	#10 (permalink)
Angusmac Regular Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: New York, USA Posts: 506 Threads: 20 Reputation: 3	I've always been a big fan of not telling...but it sounds as if most of it is out on the table already. As others have said, diapers just go hand in hand with pacies and other baby items, I doubt he'll be weirded out. You are very lucky to be a member of a generation whose sexual interests will be seen as less strange in the course of time. The openess of the internet has brought to light the worlds "dirty little secrets" and the more we all learn about them, the less strange they become. Although there are some dark things out there which I believe will, and should remain on the "strange" side, a diaper fetish is pretty tame in the grand scheme of things. Good Luck. -Gus