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When you are dealing with serious matters what calms you guys down? (please no drug or alcoholic responses, I partake in no drugs or alcohol)
I did get a good amount of sun today, it helped a little, but some unknown bug bit me and kind of ruined my mood for awhile. I think the main stressor is sometimes responses I get from various posts here and on facebook. I am learning how to react better... usually I end up cussing people out but I don't need to do that... I hope that I can continue to learn better responses ad I know I've had a few poor ones on here and elsewhere.Fascinating said:Tonight when I got off work my husband had taken the 4 boys out and called and said they would be in late so don't wait up. It feels so lonely and sad, but the light of the sunset dancing on the wall was so pretty and magical that I calmed down more than I have been in a long time. It feels like a visit from another place. Maybe I can escape here often. I never knew sunlight could be so healing.
Good advice, I'm actually trying to de-stress by doing a bit of gaming right now.arcituthis said:For me, it depends what I'm trying to calm down from. When I have a lot going on, I go for a drive and line everything up and tackle it in my mind one by one. It allows me to create a sense of organized chaos out of my life. When I'm thinking too much, I bury myself in my electronics/programming hobby. The math is calming for me and forces me to focus all of my attention to it. When I get angry, I go for a walk. Time is the only thing that helps with anger and being outside in the country is just soothing. If it's general stress, I'll generally play video games or go target shooting. Basically anything fun that takes my mind off of whatever built the stress in the first place.
I wish I could play any instrument... I can only sing.ornitorrinco said:I love to play the piano, and I find that music can be a very calming experience for me. I've also been working on meditation using mindfulness techniques which can be very calming and helpful.
Singing can also work, if you find music that helps release stress. Doesn't matter how well you sing (or play, in my case). It's about how you feel and how it makes you feel.Premetheus said:I wish I could play any instrument... I can only sing.
I have been told I can sing... I have a youtube channel so I might sing something and upload it there I suppose. I just want to learn how to play instruments but I get so frustrated with myself. I am just going to find some things to sing I guess.ornitorrinco said:Singing can also work, if you find music that helps release stress. Doesn't matter how well you sing (or play, in my case). It's about how you feel and how it makes you feel.
Zenka said:Listen to deafening loud rock music with headphones mainly, biting myself is not a habbit I have gotten rid of, but i prefer the first
Zenka said:Listen to deafening loud rock music with headphones mainly, biting myself is not a habbit I have gotten rid of, but i prefer the first
Aidy said:That is actually shown to be very therapeutic. A Melbourne, Australia study showed that if you play music that someone likes loudly when they're upset it calms them down.
I have a few things on my "self care card" (the term we use at work). If I can't leave a situation it's breathing exercises or drinking a mouthful of water. If I can leave a situation I go for a walk, play with my dogs, listen to music, play games or... nappies.
I actually am a runner, my brother got my started in it, I just don't always feel motivated to run, I'm not fat by any means I'm lean, just that depression and other stuff keeps me down. I might go for a run today though... my left leg has been hurting lately. I think it's a growing pain :vStarrunner said:First of all, I'm totally jealous of the others here who can sing or play music. I sing really badly, and I have no coordination to play music and my dancing is pretty pathetic.
Aside from that rant, I'm a long distance runner. I just completed the Army Run Half Marathon last weekend. It went okay considering that I had to train through the seasonal summer allergies and hot, hot,, hot weather.
I started running to beat depression, alcoholism, not to mention smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and the occasional bit of weed. I ran my first marathon two years after I started, in spite of the people who never thought I'd stick with it, and placed eightieth out of nearly eight thousand competitors. And I was proud. I've been a runner now for thirty six years.
I've always said that running has saved my life and prevented me from living in an endless abyss of depression and suicidal thoughts. It helped give me self esteem and taught me discipline. After thirty six years, I still start each morning with a six mile run. It helps me cope with the long day ahead and calms me down when I'm feeling stressed out. My work is very stressful and I can't imagine how I would face it all without having had my morning run. It just puts things into perspective for me and makes the world manageable.
There's tons of research that shows that running, or any form of exercise, produces endorphins in our bodies and can cause a state of euphoria, often referred to as the 'runner's high.' my motto in life has been "Running solves everything!"
http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/treatment/exercising