DrunkBunny said:
I decided to walk to tafe in a diaper under my clothes of cause, I must say the expierence is quite awesome, drank a lot of coffee in the morning had to walk to tafe, so I thought I'll shove on a diaper and walk and use it if i needed to.
Got to the shopping centre, took my diaper off in the toilets and shoved it in the bin, that was really thrilling for me.
What are you expierences with being diapred in public, and do you ever worry someone might see the diaper bulge, or your diaper butt? I usually try and cover it with my bag, and wear light clothes.
But today I wore jeans, yes I know that was bad.
I'm approaching this as both a person who wore for fun, and a person who now wears for need.
My anxiety about diaper bulge and diaper butt have diminished as I've worn diapers more. I make one exception - when acting, I wear pull-ups. This is because theatre is very contact-intensive and in my experience there is a lot of homosocial touch involved - butt pats, group hugs, stuff like that. Pull-ups are indistinguishable enough to casual, momentary touch that nobody is likely to become suspicious.
In general, however, I wear diapers. Abena M3s are my underwear. Diaper bulge and diaper butt can be fairly easily moderated in a couple of ways:
One, don't go too tight or too baggy. Jeans are bad, but not because they show off your diaper - on the contrary, my experience has been that my jeans compress my diaper around my butt, leaving almost no diaper bulge. Unfortunately, this - plus stuff like the crotch seam pressing up into the diaper soaker pad - means that the diapers are less functional. I'm dealing with this by switching to Wrangler jeans, which have a U-shaped rather than a V-shaped crotch, which is a lot friendlier for diapers. This is gradual and I might check back in on how it goes.
Track pants are also bad, though. They're made out of light fabric which is easily displaced by wind and movement, and is light enough to trace over your diaper. I would not recommend them at all, unless you just need casual clothing and you're in company that is already comfortable with your diapers.
I personally like trousers; I'm between a 34" and a 36" and I've preferred the 36" since I went into diapers. The crotch is deep enough that there's no pressure on my diaper compromising it, they're usually jet black, and my diaper bulge isn't visible through them even when I'm squatting or bending over (at least, to my eye, looking at myself in the mirror - and I know I'm wearing a diaper).
Two, dark colours. Jet black is ideal. Jet black trousers are best - anything denim has a sort of random-ish 'snow' texture which makes an area of sudden consistency of colour like a wet spot show up really easily. Avoid light-coloured bottoms of any sort.
Three, onesies. I cannot emphasise how important these are. They transformed me from 'excessively careful' to 'as mobile and confident as I was before diapers', and the thing about supporting the diaper is 100% true. My caveat would be that they have to be worn under shirts - lots of onesies are thin and semi-transparent to the extent of the wearer's nipples being visible, and even with those that aren't, it looks weird for a T-shirt to be tucked into pants.
Four, plastic pants. They block diaper-related smells great compared to what modern diapers do (modern diapers are usually made for good air circulation, which unfortunately equates to good smell circulation). Also, if you're wearing a blank white onesie, it may be a tad semi-transparent - if you're worried about that, a pair of plastic pants in a strong, non-babyish colour will throw off the eye.
Five, disclosure. I only ever told one person I was AB/DL, but quite a few people know I'm incon - it's still limited to people I trust implicitly, and I don't come out about it unless I feel I have to, but if it's impractical for me to stop them knowing I'm diapered, then I don't bother. For example, I need to sleep in cloth diapers, which basically cannot be hidden, so if I need to sleep at someone else's place then I let them know I'm incon. The alternative is sleeping in disposables, which I don't consider sufficiently protective.
I know my phrasing suggests this post is a series of direct orders to you, but it's more of a note-to-self / to any interested parties.