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    Question Weighted Blankets.. Thinking about convincing my GF about getting one

    Ever since I was little I always like, and slept better when I had pressure on my legs and feet as I slept. When I was younger I would take and extra pillow or two and place them on my feet. I liked it. I still do that every once and a while.

    I was thinking about looking into getting one but here is my predicament.

    I know that these types of sensory objects, in this case Weighted Blankets are used in Special Education, for Autistic children or what have you. That doesn't apply to me, I just am a very sensory oriented person. Now, My girlfriend is a EEE, Special Educator Preschool teacher and she uses weighted Lap pads and such for a child or two sometimes. The few times I brought up the conversation, not just this one, I don't know. Maybe she feels weird about it or something because she works with children with needs that use the same. Its the same thing with the whole fact that I'm ABDL and I like to wear diapers. She sometimes has a hard time because she works with kids everyday who, some not all, are still in diapers, many because they have a need for them.

    I don't know how to pursue the subject. She thinks I bring it up because of this site and I heard about them from here and its connected to being ABDL, but honestly its not really. What do you guys think? suggestions about how I could talk to her about it.. I am thinking of taking an extra blanked and folding it over my feet/legs tonight. I just don't want to her feel weird or awkward.




    PS: Not sure where I should have posted this, so I hope this is an okay spot. I chose what I thought was best fit.

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    weighted blankets are very good for those who have autism or sensory processing disorder

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    Quote Originally Posted by aspie View Post
    weighted blankets are very good for those who have autism or sensory processing disorder
    I know that. I don't relate to those but I have always enjoyed it. I just don't know how to get around her connecting her job and me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BayB8 View Post
    I know that. I don't relate to those but I have always enjoyed it. I just don't know how to get around her connecting her job and me.
    TBH, it sound as though she has fallen into the dangerous intellectual trap of trying to draw a rigid distinction between the people that she helps - children with severe mental issues - and everyone else. A distinction that does not exist. As though she can cope with severely Autistic children, but not a boyfriend who may have some mild Autistic tendencies.

    If you are relaxed/comforted by weighted blankets, then who is to say that you don't have a mild sensory processing disorder? Shouldn't she be sympathetic to that? Does she believe that techniques that are used to treat mental disorders should be exclusively reserved for those who exhibit the severest forms of those disorders? If it genuinely relaxes you, and helps you to sleep, what possible moral right does she have to object? It's not as if there is a finite supply of them - economics does not work that way.

    To make an observation, it seems that there is much more compassion extended to those whose mental issues make them unable to function in society, than to those who can function, but have issues. Or perhaps in the former case, it's merely pity, which isn't the same thing as compassion at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Akastus View Post
    TBH, it sound as though she has fallen into the dangerous intellectual trap of trying to draw a rigid distinction between the people that she helps - children with severe mental issues - and everyone else. A distinction that does not exist.

    If you are relaxed/comforted by weighted blankets, then who is to say that you don't have a mild sensory processing disorder? Shouldn't she be sympathetic to that? Does she believe that techniques that are used to treat mental disorders should be exclusively reserved for those who exhibit the severest forms of those disorders? If it genuinely relaxes you, and helps you to sleep, what possible moral right does she have to object? It's not as if there is a finite supply of them - economics does not work that way.

    To make an observation, it seems that there is much more compassion extended to those whose mental issues make them unable to function in society, than to those who can function, but have issues.

    If I did have a sensory issue, I dont know what it is.. Does someone have to have a sensory disorder to be relaxed by it?

    I don't think she means negativity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BayB8 View Post
    If I did have a sensory issue, I dont know what it is.. Does someone have to have a sensory disorder to be relaxed by it?
    I haven't the slightest idea. I'm just saying that if you are relaxed by a technique that is known to be very effective at relaxing people with sensory processing disorders, then you shouldn't rule out the possibility that you have one. And neither should she.

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    many people who have a Sensory Processing Disorder do not know they have it. They may be under sensitive to a specific stimuli or over sensitive to a specific stimuli.

    The Only reason I bought it up is because many people with an ASD respond to pressure therapy as a method to calm them down.
    It has been theorised that all sentient animals that poses intelligence have a degree of autism to one point or another.

    Weather that is true or not, I can not say.

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    From what I see in your post, she also has a problems with you wearing diapers? I think there's the heart of your problem. She's having trouble accepting the whole AB/DL thing. The weighted blanket is just a part of the greater whole. I think you need to give her more time and hope that she becomes more accepting. Diaper wearing and identifying with being little is a lot for most people to process, but many do when given enough time.

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    I have a little brother who we adopted each other and he is an aspie and has sensory processing issues and is in to straps,belts ,weighted blankets all that stuff and i made his lifetime by getting him a radiologist lead apron for him for Chrisrmas, he loves to sleep with it on him and when he is up in his chair i got him a NIJ Level III vest thats what i wear because my town has at least 1500-2000 shots fired calls and my town is little compared to Chicago where he is ,i can not imagine how many calls they get so he is super comfortable with the weight and i also know that if a stray round finds him its gonna give him a nasty bruise but he will survive.so if you have sensory issues i can not tell you how kuch happiness that blaket will bring you, so go get it,if nothing else you can be under the covers with the other half and just cover yourself with the weighted one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dogboy View Post
    From what I see in your post, she also has a problems with you wearing diapers? I think there's the heart of your problem. She's having trouble accepting the whole AB/DL thing. The weighted blanket is just a part of the greater whole. I think you need to give her more time and hope that she becomes more accepting. Diaper wearing and identifying with being little is a lot for most people to process, but many do when given enough time.
    She did at first, but we made compromises and things have gotten better in general. It's a work in process, just every time I bring up something new, it's like starting over sometimes depending on what it is

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