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    So my boyfriend has recently been more open about being an ABDL. I started listening to different podcasts as well as posting and lurking around here. He lives with his parents and can't really be open there, so I was thinking maybe I could help him be a little more open at my apartment. I do have a roommate, so I need suggestions for some little things I could do/buy him to make him feel more at home in my apartment without disturbing or making his secrets known to my roommate.

    I've noticed that he's more into the baby boy things rather than toddler or older. So I was wondering if sippy cups or bottles might be a good idea? Which ones are best for my college/ramen noodle budget?

    I'm pretty crafty. So I thought about crocheting him a baby blanket. What are some things I should be sure to include? Like textures, designs, size, etc?

    Anything else? Like toys, games, or movies?

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    Sippy cups, bottles, pacifiers, fluffy blankets and plushies are easy to hide.. Disney movies are good too

    For bottles, try NUK bottles..

    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...r_1_20&sr=8-20
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...r_1_24&sr=8-24
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...r_1_23&sr=8-23
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...r_1_52&sr=8-52

    If you use prime it will come in a brown prime box not showing what is inside (you probably already know that but I will mention it anyway)

    For pacifiers, try MAM (or etsy for an adult one, I have one from bigtot that is amazing)...

    https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/2633..._home_active_3
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...=sr_1_1&sr=8-1
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...=sr_1_2&sr=8-2

    For sippy cups my personal favourite is my tommee tippee active sport but I also love NUK..

    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...=sr_1_1&sr=8-1
    http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...=sr_1_4&sr=8-4
    http://www.wilko.com/tommee-tippee-a...s/invt/0421396

    I use primark for fluffy blankets and build a bear for plushies

    http://www.buildabear.co.uk/

    It's really cute that you are doing that for your boyfriend :3

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    Bottles and sippy cups are great with chocolate milk. Pretty easy to hide.

    I'm sure a pastel or baby blue blanket would be fine. Not obvious at all.

    Build a Bear workshop sounds like something you can do for a special occasion.
    You can convince him to be padded (not obvious or anything) and convince him to have a little's day out.

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    You might look in Dollar Stores in their baby department to find cheap sippy cups and bottles if you're on a budget. They might also have inexpensive plushies like a teddy bear. You can always hide those things in your bedroom closet.

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    Indeed.com. Choose your area and start applying! Your state's unemployment website is also a good resource for real jobs!

    How about he gets a job that gets him out of his parent's house and you guys move in together? If you're serious about making that kind of space for him in your life, it sounds like you care about him enough to help him move forward with the things that will pave the way for continuing happiness together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DLsGirlfriend View Post
    So my boyfriend has recently been more open about being an ABDL. I started listening to different podcasts as well as posting and lurking around here. He lives with his parents and can't really be open there, so I was thinking maybe I could help him be a little more open at my apartment. I do have a roommate, so I need suggestions for some little things I could do/buy him to make him feel more at home in my apartment without disturbing or making his secrets known to my roommate.

    I've noticed that he's more into the baby boy things rather than toddler or older. So I was wondering if sippy cups or bottles might be a good idea? Which ones are best for my college/ramen noodle budget?

    I'm pretty crafty. So I thought about crocheting him a baby blanket. What are some things I should be sure to include? Like textures, designs, size, etc?

    Anything else? Like toys, games, or movies?
    OMG you sound like an awesome girlfriend. Congrats to you!

    Ok, so yes, I personally feel like every AB needs a baby bottle, that is just my opinion, but I strongly think it. My recommendation on bottles you can buy would be this model (you should be able to find them in single packs I believe). http://www.amazon.com/Playtex-Free-V...aytex+ventaire
    Even though it is a baby bottle model, it is still very comfortable for an adult to nurse on because it has a large platex area for the nipple. It is also really easy to nurse on because it has a vent in the back so you don't have to struggle for milk. Amazingly, 9 oz can take a while longer to drink from a bottle than you would expect, so it lasts a decent bit of time as well to drink from. Cool think here, is you can also go buy this model at your local supermarkets often, and as well at walmart. Cheap price, great product.

    If you are looking for a pacifier, and you are aiming for cheap, the largest baby sized pacifier that I know of is this one, http://www.amazon.com/MAM-Silicone-P...8KXNQQG1K9S8GX, however you can buy adult sized pacifiers as well that are cheap, but I don't personally like them much unless they are ones similar to those available at pacifiersrus (which is fairly expensive). If you want a cheap adult pacifier though, you can get this, http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Pants-Nuk...adult+pacifier, which is a pretty common base model. Or you can get this, http://www.amazon.com/ABDL-Blue-Adul...adult+pacifier, which is both cheap in price, and in quality, it is made by Awwsocute, and realistically, it is still a good deal, but it will likely fall apart faster than others, as well, it seems to have a strange edge on the nipple that isn't terrible, but can be irritating. I still liked mine though, so if you want the cheapest possible adult sized paci, it isn't a terrible deal.

    Crocheting a baby blanket is an awesome idea too, just figure out what kind of cartoon characters he likes and do something with that, seems like a large job though, and you might be able to find some prints at the fabric store and just make something out of that rather than how long crocheting might take.

    Toys might be a tough topic because toys that can be noisy sometimes are actually a lot of fun, but will be intimidating to him if he is concerned about not letting your room mate discover his little side. If it is a noisy toy, like a rattle, he will probably wish he can try playing with it, but won't actually do it out of fear (at least that is how I would respond), however if you have a TV perhaps you can play a show so the noise drowns out the sound of a rattle or whatever. Otherwise, I would highly suggest getting some stuffed animals for him, however I don't know what he is into, so you really have to dig it out of him as to what types of stuffed animals or toys he would enjoy.



    So main thing I thought of when you used the phrase "babyspace" was a literal space. Perhaps if you have a good area, such as the far side of your bed, or an area on your closet floor, you could make a small little crib zone for him. Lay down some cute blankets, find some crib bumpers at the second hand store or a garage sale, and hang some stuffed animals or toys above it. Something that you can clean up easy if you need to, but he knows is his dedicated nap/play zone that you can put him when you are busy with other things in your room, or whatever. Kind of the 'fort' idea I guess. Anyway, just a thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trisy View Post
    Indeed.com. Choose your area and start applying! Your state's unemployment website is also a good resource for real jobs!

    How about he gets a job that gets him out of his parent's house and you guys move in together? If you're serious about making that kind of space for him in your life, it sounds like you care about him enough to help him move forward with the things that will pave the way for continuing happiness together.
    How do you know if he has a job or not? He may very well have one but cant afford his own place currently. (Just assuming)
    I have a job but can't afford to move out of my parents house currently because of the major inflation on the housing market in my area due to alot of companies moving to the here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trisy View Post
    Indeed.com. Choose your area and start applying! Your state's unemployment website is also a good resource for real jobs!

    How about he gets a job that gets him out of his parent's house and you guys move in together? If you're serious about making that kind of space for him in your life, it sounds like you care about him enough to help him move forward with the things that will pave the way for continuing happiness together.
    Hi Trisy!

    You bring up a good point. We have been discussing this actually. He works three jobs and goes to school full time. Some days, he will go to school in the morning, go to his evening job, go to his night shift job, and go straight to his morning job. Sometimes he will go two to three days without sleep because he is working so much and going to school. He can afford to move in with me, but right now he's trying to pay off his student loans so that he doesn't have to worry about them after he graduates this fall. He can't move in with me right now because I live an hour away from his school and his three jobs. Plus, we have only been dating for six months, and I'm not 100% comfortable with moving in with him just yet. That feels a little too fast for me. But my lease is up in August, and we will have been together for a year. So there's a possibility we could then, but he can't move out because he may or may not have to leave for training in October. There's no point in him signing a lease and paying rent when he is going to be gone for half the year. But if he doesn't get in, we will be finding a place together. So for now, we will just stick to where we are.

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    Thank you for your suggestions, everyone! I have added everything to my cart on Amazon, and I'll go through it later. We ended up going to the store last night and getting him a tomee tippee bottle because the hole on the teat was so much bigger than the rest. I insisted on it because of the faster flow. He had no idea they came in different sizes lol. We also got him a sippy cup. I let him pick that one out. And also a set of blocks and bath scrubby mitten thing because it was just so cute! I do have one stuffed animal he can play with, and that's the giant teddy bear he got me for Valentine's Day. Even if I can't get him enough toys right now, there's a really nice park right down the road that I can bring him to since it's getting warm out.

    As for the pacifier, he already has one. Apparently he doesn't like this one, but he knows of a kind that he does like. I'll let him take care of the pacifier himself because I have no expertise here.

    And yes, I'm going to crochet it because I crochet almost every day anyway. I'm good at it. I'm not great at sewing, so a fabric-made blanket would probably just fall apart. Here are some ideas I found on Pinterest for his adult baby blanket:

    http://pin.it/3biQR1R
    http://pin.it/JFHWTHm
    http://pin.it/78luxZr

    Which is your favorite? What would you change about these ideas?

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    Quote Originally Posted by DprEffect View Post
    How do you know if he has a job or not? He may very well have one but cant afford his own place currently. (Just assuming)
    I have a job but can't afford to move out of my parents house currently because of the major inflation on the housing market in my area due to alot of companies moving to the here.
    There are lots things you can blame for still being at home, and you're gonna go with "inflation"? I agree, it made you sound really smart, too.
    Who says you have to go from Mom and Dad's house to your own house? Most of us had an apartment with friends, or rented a place, in between. That's mostly how it works.

    I know these are not the things y'all wanna hear, here, but it's the cold, hard truth: Unlike other Lifestyles, we are not guaranteed the right to enjoy ourselves freely in all spaces; just like other BDSM-y stuff, we require uninterrupted space for our things, and, naturally, the money to buy them. The handful of times I spoke with a therapist about all this, he summed it up pretty succinctly :

    "This is not the cheapest or most affordable life you could live, but, just like anyone else, go out and work hard for what you want. "

    And he was right.

    OP, I replied the way I did because, whether you (or he, really) know it or not, by creating a space for him, and indulging his needs in this way, you're not just catering to his sexual and/or emotional needs on superficial level, you're showing him a small piece of the love he's looking for. For many of us, that's something pretty serious and we tend to become invested pretty quickly. So, my reasoning is that, if you're willing to do this for him, and even share some of the shame (by hiding said space), you're experiencing this WITH him, together, which means that you should be prepared to examine your overall relationship with him, and think about the long-term - ie, jobs, living situation, etc.

    On that note, good for him! Not many here are full time students, and work multiple jobs to keep their lives maintained to their standards - a hard working man is a good man. Hold onto him. That said, I've been there, and the not-sleeping-for-x-days gets old real quick. Help him work on finding a gig that works for both of you. You'll be happier in the long run.

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    I think either the Camo Deer or the Harlequin Stitch would be good. They could be left out and not raise any questions. Why not make a pair of booties for him. I knitted some for myself and love wearing them.
    Your guy sounds great, working hard at three jobs and going to school. Trying to pay off the student loans shows he's financially responsible. He is a keeper. The things you've talked about on here show what a loving and caring person you are, you are also a great catch. Glad you two have found each other.

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