It occurred to me today that for all the talk here about self-acceptance as an ABDL (myself included), it's not exactly a clear term. I gave it a bit of thought and I wanted to see what others had to say on the matter. I've described it before in posts as a process more than a thing in itself, which says to me that it, like many things, is a continuum. If that is the case, what is the minimum point at which one could be considered to be self-accepting?
What I have described as my period of grudging self-acceptance feels like that minimum to me. It was a point at which I had accepted that I was unlikely to rid myself of these desires and while I would have stopped if I could, it was because of the social inconvenience rather than because I thought it was wrong or made me a bad person. I held that position of relative stability for over a decade from before learning of the existence of the ABDL community to the point where I started to become active in that community.
In current contrast, although I still find it to be a social inconvenience, I feel as though it has made a positive difference in my life through the relationships I've had and I would go to effort to retain it if I felt I was somehow losing it (as fruitless as that would likely be). I think I could be more self-accepting in a positive way but I also think it could be taken to the point of narcissism and self-absorption.
Although this is general and not related to us specifically as ABDLs, this might be helpful to consider: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-acceptance