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To all the Mummy's out there happy muthers day.
Hugs.
Sisi
silentdreamer1996 said:Mothers day is in May, so are we going by national holidays here?
brabbit1987 said:Personally speaking, and please no one take this the wrong way, I would rather have memories of my mother being good to me and dead, than to remember her as I do now as someone who I can't trust or confide in.
Sanch said:I think it's pointless trying to establish which of those two experiences is worse to endure, especially as it's impossible to know what it's like either losing a parent or being mistreated by a parent, unless you have been in that situation. I understand what you're saying though. I do think it's especially tough to cope with memories of someone if there is unresolved anger or hurt involved - regardless of whether they're still in your life or not.
brabbit1987 said:Well .. my father passed away .. so I do have experience with both. However, he didn't pass away when I was young ... so it was sort of the same situation of how I am with my Mom at the moment.
And ... no I am not trying to say which one is worse for anyone else. I am only talking about how I personally feel about it. It's why I started with "Personally speaking". In other words, it's worse to me .. and to me alone.
Sanch said:Fair enough. For what it's worth, I'm really sorry to hear about your Mum being selfish and your Dad passing away. The unfortunate truth is that life is often difficult and very unfair.
I know that a lot of people don't have that foundation, and whilst that makes me grateful for what I have and had from my parents, that lack of guidance and care from a caregiver is a really difficult reality of life for many people.
Also, I didn't phrase it very well, but I meant that I couldn't make comparisons between the experiences of losing a parent and being ignored/mistreated by a parent, as I had only been through one of them. That wasn't aimed at you, as obviously I had no idea of your circumstances.
sisi said:
So sorry for the confusion it muther day hear in the UK.
Didn't think about other countries.
Hee, hee.
It been well over 10 years set my mum died and I still miss her.
Ok now I crying so I stop hear.
Sisi