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    Unhappy Wearing and Social Life

    As a diaper fetishist, how do you justify wearing around other people?
    Is it exhibitionism?
    Is it ethical?
    I understand that people who struggle with incontinence have no choice, but isn't it different for someone who does not?

    How do you maintain a social life? Do your friends not relate your choice/desire to wear diapers to a fetish? I know no one is interested in my choice of undergarments, but do you really think that they're discreet? I think it's difficult to hide wearing a diaper, and once someone knows that you are, it is probably difficult for them to ignore, even if they don't bring it up.

    Sorry to rapid fire questions. I'm not trying to be toxic, I'm just lost. I'd love to hear your thoughts on maybe just one or two of my concerns.

    Lastly: I feel as though the opinions of most of the people that I am friends with would be "Who cares? Wear whatever you want," however, if that's the case, why don't I see people in vinyl suits and cat tails everywhere?

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    Well only very close freands know that I wear. Most of them eather don't know or don't care. But I think they would be asking why if they know. I'm pretty sure they don't show as I have never had the question are you wearing a nappy.

    Show my close friends have fun with me with one liners like "I bet that filled your nappy." But for me that just part of the fun of it. It like being called a good boy. They are acknowledge and accepting me as I am. Which is what I want from them.

    It up to everyone when and where they where. But for me I'll rather wear in public and use a public toilet.

    But I also love being little.



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    A lot of my friends these days are other ABDLs, so they know and might even encourage it. As to my non-ABDL friends, it's none of their business unless I make it theirs. I'm discreet about my wearing, so I fail to see how it is an issue of exhibitionism or ethics.

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    Personally, I've never had an issue with my friends. The pretty much all know I wear 24/7 and none of them seem to care. Some of them even make little jokes about me, ergo my signature. They also know I'm gay. True friends like you for you, not what fetishes you have or what you do with your genitals. If you think your friends will be accepting of you, like friends should be, it will make it less of an issue in the future IMHO.

    On another point, people don't walk around with bondage equipment on because it's BLATANTLY OBVIOUS what it is. Lol. I personally have worn my fox ears and tail in public. A diaper is much different though. As long as you keep it covered up, like normal people do with their undergarments, it's no one's business what you're wearing under your pants. Just don't sag em like an a-hole and you're fine.

    Hope that helps.

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    These are tough questions, for sure. I can't speak to wearing around "friends", mainly because I have none (other than online ones). And no, that's not a stab at wanting sympathy, I am a recluse by choice! :P

    Moving on, earlier today I put on my very first adult disposable diaper. I still have it on, and am getting used to the feeling. Now, how do I feel about walking around outside of my room, where the people I live with may notice me? Honestly, I'm terrified.

    I live with my parents and younger brother, and am definitely the loner of the family. I spend the most time isolated, in my room, not really interacting much with everyone else. I have come to accept that I am not that much of a social person.

    However, there are obviously times when it is not possible to completely avoid being around those with whom I live, no matter how hard I try (not because I don't love them, of course). This is where my own problem begins.

    I have a number of reasons for wanting to wear diapers regularly, many of them having to do with self confidence and feeling comfortable in my own skin. I am not ashamed of what I want to myself, but in the eyes of others I am still very much on the fence about how I feel in those regards. My biggest fear is not being accepted the way I choose to be. I am sure you can relate, given what you have said here.

    I know eventually I will have to explain myself and my lifestyle choice to those immediately around me sooner or later, no matter how scared I am of what the reactions may be. Chances are I am getting myself worked up over little to nothing. Of course, I won't know that for sure until I go through with it, which is the hard part...

    Sorry if I seem like I am rambling on about myself, I just want to establish a baseline relation to your situation, if you get what I mean. I feel for you, and attribute many aspects of your situation to my own.

    Anyways, as for your specific concerns;

    If diapers for you are a straight-up fetish, and particularly if it is at all sexual in nature, I would say wearing them all the time around other people is NOT necessarily the best idea. Sexually stimulating things should be kept private, in my opinion.

    On the flip side, if your fetish for diapers is something that is not always sexual, and/or easily contained within yourself when in public, I see no reason not to indulge whenever you please.

    The big question I would ask yourself first and foremost is, "Is it hurting anyone else?". The answer will obviously be, "No". As long as you can say that, it doesn't seem to me unreasonable to wear diapers around other people.

    Now, whether or not those people will or won't notice, and what they may or may not think, is a whole different story. That is when you may find out who your TRUE friends are, because a real good friend won't judge you for lifestyle choices you make, at least not ones like whether or not to wear diapers all the time. If you choose to be open and honest about it (as opposed to trying as hard as you can to hide it, which I personally think makes things even more obvious) those who stick with you and support your choices are the ones you want to call your friends.

    Again, I can't stress enough that I myself am very reclusive, and very rarely get out of the house to be around people, and furthermore am still new to wearing diapers period, let alone around others. These are just my thoughts and opinions on your circumstances, and how I feel I should probably be viewing my own issues. It's tough, though, when you deal with something yourself. I always find it easier to try and help other people figure out how to deal with things, rather than dealing with my own problems.

    I guess that's just the way the world works sometimes.

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    Uhmmm... plastic pants help alot especially pul. Onesies keep them less noticable too. Loose pants... get creative broseph.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unfusedd View Post
    As a diaper fetishist, how do you justify wearing around other people?
    Is it exhibitionism?
    Is it ethical?
    I understand that people who struggle with incontinence have no choice, but isn't it different for someone who does not?

    How do you maintain a social life? Do your friends not relate your choice/desire to wear diapers to a fetish? I know no one is interested in my choice of undergarments, but do you really think that they're discreet? I think it's difficult to hide wearing a diaper, and once someone knows that you are, it is probably difficult for them to ignore, even if they don't bring it up.

    Sorry to rapid fire questions. I'm not trying to be toxic, I'm just lost. I'd love to hear your thoughts on maybe just one or two of my concerns.

    Lastly: I feel as though the opinions of most of the people that I am friends with would be "Who cares? Wear whatever you want," however, if that's the case, why don't I see people in vinyl suits and cat tails everywhere?
    The biggest thing is that you shouldn't tell everyone if possible. Only tell your best friend or a few really good friends who are okay with kinks/ quirks. I've made the mistake of telling people who have no business knowing about it. The people who don't need to know you'll probably know before telling them. Some people are not open minded enough to know about that side of you.

    Wearing a plain white onesie is a really good way to hide the top of your diaper. Wearing the right size jeans too is a good idea. Don't wear jeans that are too tight, try to wear jeans that are relaxed fit but not too baggy either if you want to keep down the noise.

    Telling the wrong people can be a big mistake. I've been ostrisized by the people I told who were not the people who should not know about that side of you.
    Last edited by LittlePony; 01-Mar-2016 at 02:53. Reason: added more to post

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    I suspect that most on this site make sure their diapers are difficult to detect if worn in public. I seldom wear in public with the exception of wearing a cloth diaper when I'm on my bike riding on the bike trail. I wear black, baggy bicycling shorts so they can't be seen. There is a thrill, at least for me when I'm wearing in public. There's a sense of being "little", like a toddler on his bicycle even though I'm the only one who knows. I suppose the thrill of being found out, or just being "little" among all the adults can be fun.

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    I wear diapers every day and no one has ever noticed as far as I can tell.
    I wear a diaper and then my pants. No problems with daytime leaks using a Tranquility ATN for daytime.
    I am discreet, but have changed in public restrooms on occassion (at the gym, a restaurant, and a hotel common area restroom)
    My kids, my girlfriend, and my parents know I wear and it has not affected my personal activities or social life.
    I don't go around asking my friends what underwear they use.
    If I was asked, I would say "...uh depends...briefs usually." (they don't need to know that they are absorbent, but it also may make a good joke)

    I don't go around wearing a Dry 24/7 or Abena M4 during the day (uh, well, except last weekend...M4 while out shopping at outlet mall as that would be too bulky for regular daily use, but I do it once in a while. Either of those above for every night time use.

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    None of my friends know, course they still know i'm a furry, but as they put it, they don't give a...well...you know. I just am unsure if they will accept this side of me.

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