One of the most baby humiliating things is having someone check your diaper to see if you need a change. It makes me feel incredible. I feel hot, embarrassed, humiliated, horny, small, and baby like. I guess for able bodied people to have some one pull the nappy back at the rear and look down the back would be good. Because I am either sat in the wheelchair or am on the bed it's different for me. If I am in the chair the care person can lean me forward and put a hand down my nappy at the back. My favourite is when on the bed and one care worker can raise my legs while the other one feels under the leg cuff. When they then say o it's a bit wet we had better change you it's so embarrassing. I always have a bit of a moan at this point like a toddler would but then they get all firm no no it needs changing its for your own good.