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    Default is there a right way to sell the idea?

    by now, a goodly portion of us have either been caught or told someone, or at least wanted to tell someone this hidden identity of ours. and most of the time, the recipient of this information is either left confused, is neutral because it doesnt affect them or has nothing to do with them, or angry, oftentimes because it directly does.

    so my question is this: has anyone told someone about it, in a way that resulted in positive feedback? i know that for the most part this act is case sensitive, but surely there must be some general way that this can be imparted to an outsider (romantic or not) that will result in their seeing it in a positive light?

    perhaps i'm just being idealistic, thinking there is some one-size-fits-all way to present our ABDL side in a way that either piques their interest or acceptance, but i just thought i'd throw it out there.

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    I don't think there is one best way. What I have observed from people posting is that the ones who don't treat it like a dark, heavy, horrible thing tend to do better. I think it undermines our case that it's harmless when we have all this angst over it, even if the angst makes a lot of sense in context.

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    Hi Butterscotch.

    I sorry there is no one size fits all. Becouse people come in all sorts of different sizes. And outlook some life.

    I have found being open and honest the best way. The thing is to be yourself.
    That as helped me in all sorts of situations. And it is a lot easier being who you really are, then pretending to be something or someone else.

    If you have a Desire for them to join you in our lifestyle. Then leave it as an open invitation, remember they might not of had a diaper on they were a toddler. And it does take a lot of trust to openly wear a diaper in front of someone. Let alone be changed buy someone.

    That in my opinion is a very precious gift. Both to the care giver and to the AB.
    You are allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable to another human being.

    And not just wearing a diaper but there is a lot of other things that us ABDL's are in to.

    And this is why a lot of people in my opinion shy way. From something that could give them immense pleasure and happness, both in a sexual and non sexual way.

    Try and put tour self in there position. Say that they wonted you to try something that Mane stream Society though a little strange. Say Morris dancing. He wonted you to dress up with bells and dance in the street. How would you fill? Sorry if you are in to Morris dancing. But you get the point. They will have these felling of uncertainty. Which can be worked out by talking and understanding.

    I have a freand that is OK with me being Little but there are things he will not do. And I respect his boundaries. As He respects mine.

    Any way this is just me opinion.

    Hope it is of some help.

    Sisi.

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    I think it depends on the person and how you talk about this side. I never told anyone in person that I like to wear and be a baby but I have wanted too. I think the main thing to say is how this makes you happy and for me it helps me relax and I sleep better when I am diapered and have my paci. But like I said it depends on the person, I have a friend who is really playful and I think would be a little if she knew this was a thing.

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    Honestly, you have to really be certain who you want knowing about this. As awesome as it seems to be fully out there and just be yourself, something like this could seriously typecast you and possibly interfere with some great opportunities. So yeah the first thing to ask yourself is who and why. When you can answer those questions, the how and when makes a whole lot more sense. I agree with Trevor, if the occasion arises, then share this as something that enriches you as a person, not something shameful or diminishing.

    You could try something like...."I'd like to share something really special with you, something which is really important to me....I want you to know the real me...etc. The thing is, you can probably expect the other person (assuming you've chosen someone who cares deeply about you) to accept that you have these desires...this is not to be confused with their wholesale acceptance of 'it' that may take some time and education.

    The most important thing is to reasure them that after this revelation, you are still and have always been the same person they know and love.

    Dr oz, signing off

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    Rather than talking about ABDL, I think it might be helpful to talk about persuasive speaking in general. Because really what you're trying to do in presenting ABDL is to persuade someone to be a part of your life and add this little hobby to their own mental understanding of what people do.

    So, persuasive speaking. In general, there are three ways to appeal to people: Logic, ethics, and emotions. Of those, logic is the weakest and emotions the strongest. Logic is most often communicated in what words you choose to say, ethics in how you say them, and emotion in how you present in terms of body, face, and tone.

    The thing to think about is what type of audience you have and what will be effective for them. For example, a friend that you want to confide in who is generally a casual and tolerant person might respond well to a message about how you feel comfortable around them and want to be able to relax more, and in which you confidently explain you like to wear diapers sometimes, it's no big deal, and you wanted to let them know so you don't have to worry every time they walk near your closet. Something like that.

    In comparison, a different friend who is a sensitive and empathetic person might actually respond well to hesitance on your end. Telling that friend that you want to confide because you want their support and that it's difficult for you might well put them in a frame of mind where they feel like they're being a good person for being open and tolerant as they hear you out about your interest in feeling little and wearing diapers.

    So, the idea in persuasive speaking is to understand what appeals to your audience and to decide not just what to say but also how to say it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    I don't think there is one best way. What I have observed from people posting is that the ones who don't treat it like a dark, heavy, horrible thing tend to do better. I think it undermines our case that it's harmless when we have all this angst over it, even if the angst makes a lot of sense in context.
    I'd echo this, and add that if there is a sexual element to your ABDL, then bring that factor into the discussion very gradually, or leave it out of your explanations until a later date. I just think the lifestyle choices and the sexual factors would be too much for the average individual to be able or willing to take on board straight away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sanch View Post
    I'd echo this, and add that if there is a sexual element to your ABDL, then bring that factor into the discussion very gradually, or leave it out of your explanations until a later date. I just think the lifestyle choices and the sexual factors would be too much for the average individual to be able or willing to take on board straight away.
    I don't think that would work too well for me. It's so integral to my ABDL experience that I don't think the explanation would make sense without it. I'm 24/7 right now, so obviously it's not 24/7 sexy time but it is an important element and it's ultimately the reason why I'm doing it. I liken it to attraction to the sex you're attracted to (if any). You can be attracted to them but your interactions won't be about sex all or even most of the time. Of course a diaper can't love me back but I can do all the work there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    I don't think that would work too well for me. It's so integral to my ABDL experience that I don't think the explanation would make sense without it. I'm 24/7 right now, so obviously it's not 24/7 sexy time but it is an important element and it's ultimately the reason why I'm doing it. I liken it to attraction to the sex you're attracted to (if any). You can be attracted to them but your interactions won't be about sex all or even most of the time. Of course a diaper can't love me back but I can do all the work there.
    I was referring purely to being an AB in this instance (just due to the board it's been posted on). AB identity is almost always one with a number of non-sexual elements; even for those who get arousal from some elements of being an AB/Little.

    As for DLs, it's often a primarily (or purely) sexual urge, and if so, I'd think you'd have to be up front about that being the driving force for wearing.

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    I find most people just dont understand ab/dl sissy little or whatever. most assume it with something wrong with us metal or perverted i dont know!! my mom knows because she found me diapers when i was in my preteens and accepted me my sister knew when i was 30 because she found them as i hired her to clean my house nothing ever said from them BUT my wife of 8 years had to leave me because she slowly found out and saw me as a monster or sicko !! I see people posting i told my girlfriend and she loves it. im here because its private and we understand to many people dont understand and are ignorant!! I stay private in fear my business would go bankrupt if people knew!! so i would limit myself who i tell about my abdl

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