It also depends on what kind of a wetter, or how heavy of a wetter you are. Whether you wet little by little, or you hold and go, cater to two different types of diapers. If your bladder is a bit overactive and you wee a little at a time, you can get away with a thinner, more active fit diaper - these will tuck well under skinny, designer jeans & pants without too much peekaboo involved. This of course is only recommended for the purpose of being discreet and having more freedom with outfits, a thicker diaper is always recommended on behalf of bodily functions - The catch involved is how many more diapers will have to be hidden in the purse & the frequent changes. Tighter pants also make up for any sag involved with cloth-backed adult diapers if one were to be worried about the crinkles.
For the thicker diaper needs and wants, there is a wide array of different 'in' looks that will cooperate with the Abenas, Molicares, Secure X-Plus's. Check out this article:
http://www.drydepot.com/incontinencenews/5-ways-to-stay-fashionable-with-incontinence/