Hello. First time posting on this subject. Looking for kind words of advice, thoughts and any. deas! I have already read posts on the forum but would like to give my story for fresh replies.
My kids are now getting older, and so far they do not have any idea about their daddy having to wear diapers (that I know of).
They know I had nighttime wetting problems as a child as they went through the same years ago, and I told them briefly that I too had the same problem- not going into details ever).
Now they are older (oldest is 10yr old) I'm wondering, do I tell them that I am wearing and why (medical need)? Do I keep hiding from them, taking the chance they may have found an accidental diaper or similar left in my bathroom/closet?
My wife has always said, 'don't let the kids know about having to wear diapers', but they crawl in bed with us sometimes at night and so I've been forced to wear regular shorts over diaper while sleeping so they do not see it. Otherwise, would LOVE to sleep with just a diaper and tighty whities underneath! However, I am still afraid to let them know. We have had occasional potty training events with 2 of my 3 children in which once I did briefly mention I too had the issue when young so they wouldn't feel bad about themselves but has been it. Hiding ever since! At least, as far as I know, they r older and no doubt are able to wander around the house, incl the master closet and clothes drawers where I may have had 1 for emergencies, etc. So,
What age should they be when I tell them? 10?
Any particular reason to NOT tell them at all and just keep going as is?
Would rather them know and think nothing of it than see me 1 day accidentally and be shocked.
WhAT about showing them what I wear for that reason?
After telling it to them, I would still wear discretely at home, etc. Just trying to figure out if I tell them or let them find out themselves... just afraid as to how that may be and what consequences it has... sort of the same reason why I want to be THE FIRST one to explain everything else to them, rather than have someone else do it, and in the wrong way and/or in the wrong context.
Will definitely explain with my medical condition being key factor, continue to be discreet and hopefully they will eventually just forget it... ? Still, the "diaper teasing and being a baby is alive and well between all 3, so at first it has a bit of a negative connotation.