A small introduction here, 18 year old who is incontinent and has been essentially their whole life....
i like music and animals A LOT and i work in retail, playing games, playing ukulele, playing with animals and smoking in my spare time :3
'ashamed wearer' came from the fact that i HATE wearing diapers, I just have to because otherwise I will wet myself.
pads/tampons are fine because thats just a natural part of life. I have a vagina, I get periods, it's normal... but an 18 year old wetting themselves is just... shameful. I'm embarrassed and whenever anyone finds out that I wear a diaper they judge me... hard.
I'm not really used to it because ive managed to go for about 5 years without having to wear diapers/panty liners, since I managed to somehow sprint to the toilet on time, or hide it from everyone, but recently, since it's getting worse and I start losing total control of my bladder rather than just little dribbles here and there..
Wondering about other people and whether you've accepted it and how, or if you hate it just as much as I do.
It's uncomfortable, cumbersome, smelly and a pain to change every time I wet myself. Not to mention embarrassing since it's so stigmatised, especially people my age. People accept that eventually with age, or a degenerative disease, people have to wear diapers, but don't understand that some people just get bladder spasms/have weak bladder muscles (I'm unsure about the cause, although going to the doctor this week) and I get judged anytime anyone finds out.
Grateful for any support or stories, lovely to meet you all :3